MlEngineer

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by MlEngineer 9y ago
> Seriously you just have to work on it - dating post college is much more work (for all genders and orientations) - like multiple dates a week for months to find someone you click with. I agree with this (and the rest of what you said -
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
> At many bars here, there may be 5 guys to every girl, and only 3 or 4 girls might be single. Of course they get a constant stream of guys hitting on them so if you are an average guy, you will be shut down immediately. Haha, I'll
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
I disagree but still appreciate the comment.
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
That's just an example, though. Personally, I'm not looking for a woman who is a millionaire serial founder. But men who are extremely successful do have a huge advantage when it comes to dating, and especially finding a serious l
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
I think I was hoping for an answer like "hey OP, there's this one effective way to date in the Bay you haven't tried..." That hasn't happened. All data and most respondents with any actual experience in the Bay seem
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
Of course, but this is not the 1970s, and young males aren't moving to SF specifically to practice an openly gay lifestyle in an otherwise intolerant nation. It's unlikely that the hordes of male engineers, relocating to South Bay
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
I don't want to waste my prime dating years in a very tough dating scene, unfortunately.
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
> Assuming a closed dating pool (both geographically limited and no turnover over time) I addressed both of those in my post: 1. Yes, you can theoretically date women in San Francisco if you live in San Jose. No, it will not be pretty. Y
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
It doesn't have to be true for every woman, just enough of them to reduce my odds. I'm not making any absolute claims here. I'm not 100% sure I won't meet a great woman in the Bay if I come back there, nor that every wom
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
Maybe I was wrong? Maybe there is a way to date in the Bay that will yield better results? I'll be giving up an extremely attractive opportunity should I choose to stay on the east coast, I want to ensure I didn't miss any plausi
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
> If being a millionaire startup entrepreneur is something the women you're seeing care about, then you don't date these women. Let's be realistic here. Say you dated two women over the past couple of days. Both were equal
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
Fair enough, here's a more useful statistic from the article: There are 134 single men for every 100 single women in San Jose. That means that even in the unrealistic best-case scenario that all the available single men find a perfect
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
The average age of first marriage for males in the US is 29, so I'm well within acceptable social bounds. I'm not eager to get married next month, nor do I feign to be. I'm worried about making a decision to relocate to the B
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
It's never good to worry about factors you cannot change, and I cannot change the fact that there are more single men in San Jose than in the entire state of Alaska: https://www.kqed.org/news/11231284/does-san
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by MlEngineer 9y ago
That's actually a big concern: how do I get a good candidate for marriage, when the dating pool is tiny and there's so much strong competition?
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Ask HN: Poor dating options for heterosexual men in the Bay area?
20 points by MlEngineer 9y ago|40 comments