Mezzie

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by Mezzie 3mo ago
I gave the example I gave specifically: I'm well aware of the history of the head scarf, and the difference between a hijab and a niqab (as well as between the different forms of dress - I know the difference between an abaya, a chador
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by Mezzie 3mo ago
I think one issue with thinking this way is that who is stronger and who is weaker isn't always so easy to suss out, particularly on the margins. To give an example from my own life/experience, I'm an American and Canadian wo
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
This is true of most tools, it's just that we generally consider the skills simple. I'm very bad at using power drills.
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Headphones also give an 'excuse'. Some men become really pissy and unstable if they think you're ignoring them, but if you have visible headphones, then you have the excuse of not hearing them.
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
One aspect of the financialization of everything/the 'economics over all' mindset that I don't see often discussed is that if you for whatever reason can't make the 'sound' financial choice, you just...d
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I live my life with no slack and no way to get any. I am horrifically depressed and extremely radicalized, both as a direct result.
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
God, I miss off-topic rules and their enforcement...
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Nerd-dom in women is also only judged if we don't adhere to the social requirements of womanhood. You can be as obsessive as you want as long as you're bubbly, socially adept, and take care to look pretty. Our interests aren'
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
> Perhaps the proper counterpart of the "nerd" among women is engaged in very different, more traditional crafts or intellectual interests which aren't highlighted as "nerdy" by mainstream culture. This is it. Ne
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
This is going to be buried, but I'll say it anyway. I've been thinking about this a fair amount over the past 5-10 years, and I think a lot of the issues that we have can be traced to our demography and specifically 'the zeal
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I'd agree that's it a component, but not a necessary one? One of the strongest senses of liminality I've experienced has been being in a middle school at 9 PM when almost nobody else was in the building. I was a poll worker
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
My guess would be hunting and also the possible presence of a firearm in certain situations acting as a deterrent as well as a potential social equalizer. When you're a physically vulnerable person and there are zero firearms in a comm
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Undead? Shambling along with the body of its former, living self?
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
One of the things that I liked about the old, text-based internet was the anonymity it provided. I particularly liked being able to engage in discussions about things that interested me without being sexualized, since nobody needed to know
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
We've basically accepted the premise as a culture that exploiting adults is fine. Exploitation is so heavily baked into our culture that pushing back on it would cause too much upset. If you're below 18, you deserve protection. Ab
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Fortunately, there is flexibility on the 1 day a week in the office for me, so if I'm having a really bad day, I don't have to go. I've had full WFH in the past and it's worked well for me. I've also ended interview
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Dress codes definitely exist, even if they're usually not stated. I'm a woman. I also have MS. A lot of people with MS, myself included, experience something called the 'MS Hug', which is spasticity, pain, and tenderness
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
This is so true. And even when there is a well laid out information design, it often is laid out from the wrong point of view. Elegant information design should create a pattern subconsciously enabling people to build a mental model of th
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
In theory, it's because we're going to be better at steering an LLM in some ways. A lot of the friction and hold up in building comes in the communication between people/departments/organization. If you eliminate that by
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I agree, and I want to add that 'better' doesn't necessarily mean 'creates more robust, elegant, resilient software'. Better means from a business perspective. If we (I'm one of the people you're discus
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I'm this person, and I do find AI to be quite helpful, though I'm mostly just playing around at this point. I'm the daughter and granddaughter of programmers, and I learned the basics of how to code as a kid. I'm good at
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I did have to do a lot of advocating/educating back when I was younger and too poor for insurance. It was good practice for when I was diagnosed with MS, though. Now I usually look for practices that work with keratoconus patients. The
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Yeah, I've wanted ICL for years, but I could never afford it out of pocket, and all insurance considers vision correction aesthetic. Which is freaking stupid: There's a huge difference between me and someone who's a -2. I mig
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
Yeah, the only people I've heard of with worse vision than me are those with some sort of associated eye condition (e.g. kerataconus). For the most part, it's...fine. Insurance has no idea what to do with me and that's frustr
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I have to choose each year between paying for (main) glasses or contacts, so I usually opt for contacts and that means my glasses are a few years old. When I wear them at night, I definitely see double. Hate it. I'm a -20, so small dif
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by Mezzie 4mo ago
I don't have cataracts, but my prescription is so severe and I'm getting to an age where there's an RX difference between near, medium, and far sight, and I just wanted to commiserate. It is annoying to have to have multipl
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by Mezzie 5mo ago
This would be great for me. I have MS. Currently, my sister lives with me and does the chores (I pay our bills), but she's planning on moving out soon. Paying for a human cleaner is doable but expensive for me, and my disability means
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by Mezzie 5mo ago
I'm only in my place because when I moved in, it was owned by a friend of my aunt's. At the time, I was legally limited in the amount of money I could make because I was relying on Medicaid and subject to income limits. I have MS
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by Mezzie 5mo ago
You probably could , but a 22 year old bipolar sex worker isn't going to. If you have that level of acumen, you likely don't have to be a sex worker.
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by Mezzie 5mo ago
Also, if you're a marginal renter, e.g. can't make 3x the rent from a W2 and don't have a co-signer, credit issues, etc. then the randos are more likely to work with you. My sister was a sex worker for a while when she was yo

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