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Family. A life partner, one not afraid to get their hands dirty doing what needs to be done for a vision outside the mainstream paths, grow with them through t
by bmh_ca 11y ago
Family.
A life partner, one not afraid to get their hands dirty doing what needs to be done for a vision outside the mainstream paths, grow with them through the fails and the folly, and experience two lives in one lifetime. Find someone to remind us of why to be humble through the successes that can blind one to appreciation and the efforts of others. Someone who does not see us for success gotten, but for the inevitable happiness and richer gain from a partnership with an equal of good character.
Children, to see the world through innocent and new eyes. To see value in things we take for granted, and to give us a reason to think of the future as a prospect even though much of our prospecting years may now be behind us.
It has never been a better time to be poor. What we risk with all the other wins beside family is a life without riches. With others we can know ourselves better, be more whole, understand what makes us human and what drives us to betterment of ourselves and humanity.
The ups and downs of life is the most enriching experience, to know genuine empathy and share sincere hopefulness. One can find such experience in family.
- austenallred 11y agoThat was my first thought, too. I've gone through some pretty shitty times as an entrepreneur, but my wife is always there to pick me up, dust me off, and offer her unconditional support. I lived in a car for three months in Silicon Valley without her, and she put up with it like a champ, supporting me in every imaginable way. Man, she's awesome.
- hoodoof 11y agoThen you'd better make sure you're listening closely to what she wants in life and move mountains to make sure she gets it.
- austenallred 11y agoYup
- cko 11y agoThat's amazing, but almost unfathomable to me. Maybe My childhood was absent of female affection, but wow if I could meet someone like that... then again I would probably push her away because I wouldn't feel like I deserved it.
- dandelion_lover 11y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome ?
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- ak39 11y agoYes, I believe there's nothing on God's good planet that can compare to the love a man receives from a caring woman. Nothing. (And I don't even believe in God.)
- codinghorror 11y agoI really, really do not recommend doing a family with kids and a startup at the same time. That is hardcore mode. Family is hugely important but try to avoid both startup mode and family mode at the same time.
- hoodoof 11y agoJeff Atwood Coding Horror? This is a deeply personal decision but I regret leaving it too long to have kids. There's no right time to have kids - if you wait for the right time you risk missing out. If I found myself in a decision point between startup and kids then, knowing then what I know now, I would and should have chosen kids over startup. Startups come and go, the chance to have kids does not come back once gone.
- jarnold 11y agoTotally agree. Having kids is a window in life that is much Shorter than the window for doing a startup. I was a bit crazy and had two little ones when I started and a third not too long ago. I know many others who have done both as well.
- vuyani 11y agoYou have just made my day, and possibly gave me the motivation I thought I had lost. My partner and I are expecting (no planned). And I had wondered how on earth I would cope continuing with my start-up and raising a child. but seeing that not only are other people doing it, but they outlook is positive. man. I feel like I have been saved.
- icu 11y agoBest thing I've ever done (and still doing) is raising my son. For me this tops any entrepreneurial/career success I've had so far.
- AndrewKemendo 11y ago> That is hardcore mode. I agree that it's hard (I have three) but it's like anything else, if that is what makes you fail, you probably wouldn't have succeeded anyway.
- BadassFractal 11y agoWould recommend going through a divorce while building a startup for the ultimate entrepreneurial "nightmare mode". Great for building a tough skin after it's all over. Some founders come back home to an unconditionally supportive partner, others come back to a bunch of legal paperwork.
- MichaelCrawford 11y agoI actually did just that. Nowadays I prefer to rent a single room in a shared house. Thats really all the space I require to be happy. my futon, my desk, my electric piano, a workbench, a couple bookshelves and my cat.
- cko 11y agoHow is day to day happiness? I'm only 29 and I want to live like that forever but I can't imagine it's conducive to an active sex life. (Again, I'm young, hopefully testosterone tapers off substantially as the years go on.)
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- el_benhameen 11y agoI had a rough day today. I got home, and the dog was as excited to see me on a bad day as he is on my best day. We went for our walk--sun, grass, the park--and it dulled the bite of the day a bit. My wife got home, and she was as wonderful on a bad day as she is on my best day. We went to dinner, and by the time we got home, the day hardly seemed like much. I know it's a privilege, but (my) family doesn't measure me by anything more than how much care I put into it, and I get back far more than I put in. It really is (to me) the most important thing to have.
- copperx 11y agoI agree with reservations. Many people have relationships that are unfit for the long haul. Other people can't really live with other people. Having a supportive family is absolutely wonderful, but you can still win at life without a family; don't let anyone convince you of the opposite.
- ofcapl_ 11y ago100+ to this.