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A good test for this kind of thing is to ask these three questions for every statement you make in a confrontational communication: 1. Does this have to be sai
by CPLX 11y ago
A good test for this kind of thing is to ask these three questions for every statement you make in a confrontational communication:
1. Does this have to be said?
2. Does it have to be said now?
3. Does it have to be said by me?
If you can't answer all three questions with a strong and affirmative yes, then delete the statement.
- pbhjpbhj 11y agoThat seems like an extraordinarily passive approach. Depends on your measure of necessity to some extent but nonetheless there are many situations where you should say something but you're not required to.
- robobro 11y agoFrom Buddhism, "5 factors of speech": [1] "Do I speak at the right time, or not? [2] "Do I speak of facts, or not? [3] "Do I speak gently or harshly? [4] "Do I speak profitable words or not? [5] "Do I speak with a kindly heart, or inwardly malicious?