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Huh? Are you arguing against my point or for my point? At first you say "the article actually says the opposite", which makes me think you want to argue for wom
by erikb 11y ago
Huh? Are you arguing against my point or for my point? At first you say "the article actually says the opposite", which makes me think you want to argue for women having a better position. Then you show an example of a women getting pressured by her parents to not divorce beside being in an unacceptable position.
I'm a little confused but I assume that you argue against my post based on your first sentence.
Maybe it's not clear how much influence Chinese parents have on their children. As a woman it might even happen that your husbands parents have more power over your life than your own parents. So there is often no chance to divorce. In fact many Chinese women wouldn't even attempt that, because of fear to lose their job, any chance to remarry, losing both party's parents' favour. The husband does not have to accept any punishment for having a lover on the side, not doing their part at home, or for not taking care of the child(ren).
A typical situation in China is the wife fighting the younger girlfriend of the husband, both fighting to gain the man's favour. This only happens out of fear, not out of respect for oneself.
So to answer your question: She's an exception for actually divorcing her husband, but she's not an exception for getting punished for the divorce more than the husband who is actually the one who caused the divorce.
- Dylan16807 11y agoThe pressure was there, but the increased power let her do the divorce anyway, even though she wasn't in that "five year period".
- erikb 11y agoEven if I'd agree with that point it would still just be "she's better off than her mother's generation" not "she's better off than the husband", right?
- Dylan16807 11y agoSure. They have the advantage in some areas and it's closer to equality, though men still have most positions of power. The article didn't try to say that women had taken over.
- erikb 11y agoThen I have misunderstood it, seriously. To me it said Chinese men are in such a poor situation now, which to me implies that the Chinese women have the upper hand. Maybe I've read too much into it.
- analyst74 11y agoThe dating world is complicated. The fact that she can marry up and divorce with a child, and still be in demand in the dating world is a privilege men do not enjoy. As shown earlier in the article, single man of similar socioeconomic status without all the baggage are not considered serious suitors. On the other hand, it is more socially acceptable for successful men to have mistress as opposed to successful woman to have, hmm, 'misters'. In extremely simple words, rich men enjoy more privileges than rich women, average men fair worse than average women, poor men die alone.