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Not really surprised about the female curve. They say attraction for males is 85% physical and 15% personality, and for women the reverse. Not sure on the accur
by mattmaroon 17y ago
Not really surprised about the female curve. They say attraction for males is 85% physical and 15% personality, and for women the reverse. Not sure on the accuracy of those numbers, but the general principle is probably true. And since you get no inkling of personality from a picture, it isn't shocking.
What I'd really like to see is if they listed the guys to one group of women as just photos, then to another given select bits of data, what would happen then. I suspect you'd see strong correlations, especially if income were there.
- jacobolus 17y ago> you get no inkling of personality from a picture Really can't agree with this. How people present themselves in self-chosen photos tells quite a bit about personality.
- psyklic 17y agoI agree with the OP -- from my experience, it's very difficult to tell how a person will act on a date, personality-wise, merely from their photos, profile, and non-video chat. And personality is such an essential part of a person for dating.
- Tichy 17y agoAnd that's why people never fall in love with jerks, because all they care about is the personality.
- randallsquared 17y agoMaybe your intuition about the attractiveness of being a jerk is wrong?
- Tichy 17y agoDon't understand, what do you mean?
- randallsquared 17y agoI mean that being a jerk can make someone -- usually a guy -- more attractive, rather than less. (Your comment implied that you thought that when a person falls in love with a jerk, it's because that person is so attractive physically).
- gaius 17y agoIt's not the jerkiness (?) that's attractive, it's the self-confidence. That's what people really mean when they say "women prefer assholes". Bad behaviour is a proxy for confidence. Self-confidence trumps all other factors from a woman's POV.
- randallsquared 17y agoWell, there's a whole niche culture (PUA) built around this, and there are so many contradictory observations and prescriptions that I don't know that I even have a position on exactly what aspect of asinine behavior is sometimes attractive. I would note that it's not uncommon to see a girl devoted to a guy who seems self-loathing (as well as being a jerk, at least to her), so self-confidence is not always a major part of the picture.
- Tichy 17y agoFrom what I read about "the Game" a common play seems to be to make the girl feel insecure, though. Maybe other factors than just self-confidence are sometimes at play. (I have not read "The Game" itself, though, only blog articles mentioning it).
- joezydeco 17y agoMan, ain't that the truth. My favorites are the following categories: - The only good photos I have of myself are with friends in bars. - My cat/dog has to be in the photo. I love my cat/dog more than I'll love you. - The only time I look good is with my ex, so I'll crop his side of the picture out. You won't notice, will you? - 20 self-photos of me in the bathroom mirror. Don't mind the mess in the background. - I love to travel! Can you see that speck at the bottom of the Eiffel Tower? That's me!
- joezydeco 17y agoThought of a few more: - I was a bridesmaid! Try and find me in this group of 8 well-dressed women! This says nothing about my craving to be married at all! - I could only get my coworkers to shoot this photo of me at the office. Can you see I hate my job? - Here's some cleavage to distract you. - This is me & my dad. I'm not a daddy's girl at all, but get ready for the interrogation when you pick me up.
- netcan 17y agoThat doesn't explain rating perfectly OK looking guys as 1 or 2, which is what seems to be happening. I would have expected 3-4 to be most of the ratings. When I ask women if sush & such is good looking, they almost always say 'he's ok.' I concluded thought that women have a huge 'ok' range & small 'no way' & 'huba huba' ranges. What I should have concluded is that they're all liars.