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Bill Murry summed it up pretty well, 'Take her around the world--nice and, not so nice places; then decide if you still want to get married.' (That is if you

Bill Murry summed it up pretty well, 'Take her around the world--nice and, not so nice places; then decide if you still want to get married.' (That is if you have the funds?) Personally, I was told this by an old Sailor. "If she is willing to live on a boat in order to save up money; You better marry her. It takes a special type of woman to live on a boat. If she is willing to put up with the cold, and misery of daily boat life--she is an angel, or really loves your ass?"

cryptophile 12y ago
Take her around the world--nice and, not so nice places; then decide if you still want to get married. I think that this is the wrong approach. Anybody is suitable for marriage, on the condition that their culture says that there is no other realistic option than to stay married. That is the reason why both of you will do what it takes to make it work, and believe me that it will work. In that respect, women from the wrong (western) communities are simply not suitable for marriage. Pick randomly a woman elsewhere and you should be ok.
- eropple 12y ago
  You post this misogynistic screed knowing full well--or you should, if you're any sort of functioning adult--that end case of what you describe so glowingly is quite often the female partner learning how to hide black eyes or worse. "Western" culture not jamming people together because reasons is a feature, not a bug. Your baggage about women is not welcome here.
  - mbrock 12y ago
    thank you
  - cryptophile 12y ago
    This is how 80% of the world thinks about marriage. This is also how people in the West thought about marriage only a few decades ago. In other words, it is the normal way of thinking about marriage. There is nothing misogynistic about that. Why would other cultures be misogynistic? Keeping marriages together is a feature, not a bug.
colordrops 12y ago
meh, I am married to a woman that slept in ditches with me, but the second we got married and had kids, she became someone else. This advice is bullshit.
- scott_karana 12y ago
  The quotes aren't about people "staying the same", just the quality of their character. After having children, of course she would have to change! It's irrational to expect otherwise. The important part is tolerating and accepting change.

cryptophile 12y ago

Take her around the world--nice and, not so nice places; then decide if you still want to get married. I think that this is the wrong approach. Anybody is suitable for marriage, on the condition that their culture says that there is no other realistic option than to stay married. That is the reason why both of you will do what it takes to make it work, and believe me that it will work. In that respect, women from the wrong (western) communities are simply not suitable for marriage. Pick randomly a woman elsewhere and you should be ok.

eropple 12y ago
You post this misogynistic screed knowing full well--or you should, if you're any sort of functioning adult--that end case of what you describe so glowingly is quite often the female partner learning how to hide black eyes or worse. "Western" culture not jamming people together because reasons is a feature, not a bug. Your baggage about women is not welcome here.
- mbrock 12y ago
  thank you
- cryptophile 12y ago
  This is how 80% of the world thinks about marriage. This is also how people in the West thought about marriage only a few decades ago. In other words, it is the normal way of thinking about marriage. There is nothing misogynistic about that. Why would other cultures be misogynistic? Keeping marriages together is a feature, not a bug.

colordrops 12y ago

meh, I am married to a woman that slept in ditches with me, but the second we got married and had kids, she became someone else. This advice is bullshit.

scott_karana 12y ago
The quotes aren't about people "staying the same", just the quality of their character. After having children, of course she would have to change! It's irrational to expect otherwise. The important part is tolerating and accepting change.