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The best method to not merry wrong person - do not marry because its the best option you have. Reasoning have no saying in love. Just follow your true gut - tha

by funkyy 12y ago

The best method to not merry wrong person - do not marry because its the best option you have. Reasoning have no saying in love. Just follow your true gut - thats good enough. Your subconscious already know if the person is good or not for you. And subconscious never follows social demand, but truly best option for you. If you gut says - dont, but your reasoning says yes - then you are up for a really bad time if you follow second.

dominotw 12y ago
This is a really bizarre romantic notion. So your brain is actually divided into 2 brains that are thinking independently and one that you have identified as 'gut' is superior in matters of choosing a partner?
- funkyy 12y ago
  Let me say this. Go with this thought - after the wedding it will be just a downhill and all the bad things in your partner will become worse. If you can live with that - cool, go and marry your partner. But if you honestly will think about it and think like "it will be better" or "he/she will change/stay the same" or "after wedding it will be much better" - you are screwed. You cannot bet your life on "it will be only better". Those things dont work like that, I see way to many people divorcing because they made this bet. I hate the way to young people marrying out of "it makes sense" while guy goes to strip clubs every weekend and girls dream about some sexy guy taking them for a date. Its sick and sounds like pathology. Its really, really wrong. Mortgage/Taxes is not the reason to get married. Love is. If you call me romantic, I am sorry, but it seems you didnt really seen true love.
- alashley 12y ago
  I think reasoning can convince us of anything. The sky is green, grass is blue, etc. People can make themselves believe anything, and sometimes if we get lonely/desperate enough, we rationalize someone's obvious incompatibilities away.
- alextgordon 12y ago
  Many people are happy in relationships that make no logical sense whatsoever. Or rather, the relationships do make sense, but they are unaware or unwilling to consciously recognise the reasons why. On the other hand, feeling when you're happy or not is something anyone can do.
- marcosdumay 12y ago
  Well, that one identified as 'gut' is the expert on telling happiness from sadness apart. Why wouldn't it be the best for predicting them? (But no, I don't completely agree. It's just that it's a good question to answer, because it's so obviously partially right.)
alashley 12y ago
I was engaged once and everything in me knew that she was wrong for me, I thought that if I never gave someone a chance, so to speak, I'd be alone for the rest of my life. Well we all have to make sacrifices in a partner, but when there is this overarching feeling that you're with the wrong person, then, you're probably with the wrong person. I think the more conscious decisions you're making about someone, the more likely you are to be wrong, but that's my 2 cents. Edit: My ex-fiancee was the one who gave up long before I did, when I was still trying to make things work.
baddox 12y ago
Why would you not marry if you knew that it was the best option you have? By definition, you should always select the best option you have.

by funkyy 12y ago

dominotw 12y ago

This is a really bizarre romantic notion. So your brain is actually divided into 2 brains that are thinking independently and one that you have identified as 'gut' is superior in matters of choosing a partner?

funkyy 12y ago
Let me say this. Go with this thought - after the wedding it will be just a downhill and all the bad things in your partner will become worse. If you can live with that - cool, go and marry your partner. But if you honestly will think about it and think like "it will be better" or "he/she will change/stay the same" or "after wedding it will be much better" - you are screwed. You cannot bet your life on "it will be only better". Those things dont work like that, I see way to many people divorcing because they made this bet. I hate the way to young people marrying out of "it makes sense" while guy goes to strip clubs every weekend and girls dream about some sexy guy taking them for a date. Its sick and sounds like pathology. Its really, really wrong. Mortgage/Taxes is not the reason to get married. Love is. If you call me romantic, I am sorry, but it seems you didnt really seen true love.
alashley 12y ago
I think reasoning can convince us of anything. The sky is green, grass is blue, etc. People can make themselves believe anything, and sometimes if we get lonely/desperate enough, we rationalize someone's obvious incompatibilities away.
alextgordon 12y ago
Many people are happy in relationships that make no logical sense whatsoever. Or rather, the relationships do make sense, but they are unaware or unwilling to consciously recognise the reasons why. On the other hand, feeling when you're happy or not is something anyone can do.
marcosdumay 12y ago
Well, that one identified as 'gut' is the expert on telling happiness from sadness apart. Why wouldn't it be the best for predicting them? (But no, I don't completely agree. It's just that it's a good question to answer, because it's so obviously partially right.)

alashley 12y ago

I was engaged once and everything in me knew that she was wrong for me, I thought that if I never gave someone a chance, so to speak, I'd be alone for the rest of my life. Well we all have to make sacrifices in a partner, but when there is this overarching feeling that you're with the wrong person, then, you're probably with the wrong person. I think the more conscious decisions you're making about someone, the more likely you are to be wrong, but that's my 2 cents. Edit: My ex-fiancee was the one who gave up long before I did, when I was still trying to make things work.

baddox 12y ago

Why would you not marry if you knew that it was the best option you have? By definition, you should always select the best option you have.