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I have the same problem. I'm an asshole. I pray every day that I won't get anyone angry. Last in date: I subscribe to a coworking space, and on Sunday I couldn
by aragot 13y ago
I have the same problem. I'm an asshole. I pray every day that I won't get anyone angry.
Last in date: I subscribe to a coworking space, and on Sunday I couldn't find the IP of the printer. The next Monday when the agent gives it to me, I immediately write it on a label on the printer, to help the next guy who would have the problem. She hates me since then.
Previous one. Accepted in a (young) incubator. I sat there and there's a cold stream of air in my feet. On day 3, I asked the president (they're just 6 volunteers) to take care of the heating (Well, members participate 350€ to the fees so I feel entitled). I has ass-kicked out and she discredited me to other colleagues.
So yes, I give advice, tell opinions, take initiatives, have requirements and more generally feel entitled when I should. It really is hard to balance between taking the room that you're entitled to while not hurting others. If you have experience to share, I'm listening.
- polarix 13y agoWhy would the agent hate you for labeling the printer with its IP address? I'm confused.
- themckman 13y agoI'm sure it had nothing to do with the fact that he labeled the printer and everything to do with how he did it.
- LordIllidan 13y agoAgreed - a simple "Do you mind if I write this down? This way I won't need to bother you again next time!" wouldn't have done any harm..
- Casseres 13y agoSome people don't like other people fixing their stuff/problems. It hurts their pride.
- aragot 13y agoThat could have been her job. Also it's not my printer, I'm not supposed to change anything. Of course I'm half guessing since she didn't talk much with me after that first day.
- frandroid 13y agoMaybe she enjoyed the power of being the gatekeeper to the printer.
- kaybe 13y agoThe situations you describe.. I would have acted the same and cannot imagine anyone getting offended over it (as per experience from comparable situations). Did you find out why exactly you caused problems and what their feelings were and why? People can be hurt when they are made to feel incompetent or looked down upon, for example. Sometimes they have a bad day. Maybe it was the precious new printer and you put an ugly sticky label on it without asking (some people are like that with 'their' stuff). If you understand what exactly the problem is/was, you're half-way to fixing it and/or doing better next time. (Note that I'm living in a hippy scientist bubble where you have to work hard to make people take something personal, so I'm playing on the easiest level.. (plus, young woman bonus))
- mhurron 13y ago>I'm an asshole. I pray every day that I won't get anyone angry. These two statements are in conflict.
- badman_ting 13y agoI don't mean to imply that aragot is an asshole, but no, I would expect an asshole to say something along those lines.
- mhurron 13y ago> I would expect an asshole to say something along those lines. An asshole doesn't care if they offend, irritate or otherwise cause problems.
- jleader 13y agoBut some assholes do claim to care. It's a clever way of avoiding blame, by saying "I don't _want_ people to get angry, so it's not my fault when they get angry at the horrible things I say or do."
- josefresco 13y agoThe worst are assholes that know they are assholes and make no attempt to change, only warn you that they are in fact an asshole. Assholes are only tolerated, never respected.
- lostlogin 13y agoJobs.
- josefresco 13y agoI'm assuming you're referencing Jobs as an example of the type of asshole I'm referring to and not the exception. I doubt a single person respected Jobs because of his assholeness. They might re-brand it as being "passionate" or "disciplined" or "uncompromising" but most first hand accounts of his interactions were anything but positive. People tolerated him because of his recent success but history was not always so forgiving to his brand of leadership.