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I agree with you, I probably shouldn't have said "on OkCupid". This is far from the root issue, but it's also hard not to fall into uninteresting generalization

I agree with you, I probably shouldn't have said "on OkCupid". This is far from the root issue, but it's also hard not to fall into uninteresting generalizations, like "the real issue here is the objectification of women in the western civilization" or "the real issue here is the place of woman in society". Thinking about it, I can't think of a single animal species where the female is the one seeking out the males. I couldn't find anything either after a (quick) Google search, so you might be right about that. But it doesn't mean that we are bound to act forever the same, and I think that it's not the case in some (nordic?) countries (although it might be an urban legend, maybe someone can chime in with real world data / observations).

e12e 13y ago
Sarah Hrdy (by way of Darwin) has another perspective: http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2013/12/female_promiscuity_in_primates_when_do_women_have_multiple_partners.html http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/201... (See also tymero's comment below, and): http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111222124528AAKyKGa http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111222124528AA... As for females initiating courtship in human populations -- I don't think it's just a nordic thing, I think it's an equality thing. I'm sure you'll find (sub)cultures most places where women are more active -- and I'm guessing that on balance those are (sub)cultures that are in general more gender-equal. But, as I've lived (and dated, pitiful as my exploits are) mostly in Norway -- I might be biased :-)
eddiedunn 13y ago
As a general rule, women don't "hit on" men here in Sweden either. Like everywhere else, they indicate interest in more subtle ways - sometimes unconsciously. The male who is able to pick up on (and then follow up on) these cues is the male who scores. Also, the "slutty northern European women" stereotype just comes from the way they behave abroad, when they lose some inhibitions since nobody from back home is around to pass judgment on them.

e12e 13y ago

Sarah Hrdy (by way of Darwin) has another perspective: http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2013/12/female_promiscuity_in_primates_when_do_women_have_multiple_partners.html http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/201... (See also tymero's comment below, and): http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111222124528AAKyKGa http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111222124528AA... As for females initiating courtship in human populations -- I don't think it's just a nordic thing, I think it's an equality thing. I'm sure you'll find (sub)cultures most places where women are more active -- and I'm guessing that on balance those are (sub)cultures that are in general more gender-equal. But, as I've lived (and dated, pitiful as my exploits are) mostly in Norway -- I might be biased :-)

eddiedunn 13y ago

As a general rule, women don't "hit on" men here in Sweden either. Like everywhere else, they indicate interest in more subtle ways - sometimes unconsciously. The male who is able to pick up on (and then follow up on) these cues is the male who scores. Also, the "slutty northern European women" stereotype just comes from the way they behave abroad, when they lose some inhibitions since nobody from back home is around to pass judgment on them.