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He explains this in the article. Two children are in Germany with their mother, and the other children are still in high school or college. He hid his homelessn

by sehugg 13y ago

He explains this in the article. Two children are in Germany with their mother, and the other children are still in high school or college. He hid his homelessness from all of them.

larrys 13y ago
Exactly. So it's a macho thing (if that is the case).Well when push comes to shove you have to throw all of that out the window. Also, no friends or contacts that would even lend you money? I advanced a contractor $5000 once who had lost his job for work to be done over the next year. And I had never even met him in person (although he did work for perhaps several years..)
- jdotjdot 13y ago
  I don't think it's so much a macho thing. It's one thing to ask for help when you need it--but quite another to ask for help in the form of room and board, the implication (and correctly so, here) being that for whatever reason you are unable to support yourself. As a father, to be unable to support yourself, let alone your kids, can be a destructive blow not only to your self-respect, but to your children's respect for you. I suspect that that's what he was trying to avoid, and I find it wholly reasonable. His children's respect might never return, and it's clear from the article that his relationship with his children is part of what he valued most.
  - sejje 13y ago
    I agree, and frankly I think it's a bit disgusting for people here to monday-morning-quarterback this man and his motives and decisions. If it was easy to avoid the situation, he would have.
  - dpcan 13y ago
    If this is the case, it's very sad that the relationships he values the most come with the caveat that he can't be vulnerable around those people. He's not allowed to fail before them. Not able to ask them for help when in need - or they lose all respect for him.
nols 13y ago
He didn't hide his homelessness, they knew that's why the mom and two kids moved to Germany (for the better social services). It doesn't say why he didn't live with his children, but it does say the mom and two youngest lived with two older kids for awhile and the high school aged kids bounced around with his friends so they could continue to attend their high school.

by sehugg 13y ago

He explains this in the article. Two children are in Germany with their mother, and the other children are still in high school or college. He hid his homelessness from all of them.

larrys 13y ago

Exactly. So it's a macho thing (if that is the case).Well when push comes to shove you have to throw all of that out the window. Also, no friends or contacts that would even lend you money? I advanced a contractor $5000 once who had lost his job for work to be done over the next year. And I had never even met him in person (although he did work for perhaps several years..)

jdotjdot 13y ago
I don't think it's so much a macho thing. It's one thing to ask for help when you need it--but quite another to ask for help in the form of room and board, the implication (and correctly so, here) being that for whatever reason you are unable to support yourself. As a father, to be unable to support yourself, let alone your kids, can be a destructive blow not only to your self-respect, but to your children's respect for you. I suspect that that's what he was trying to avoid, and I find it wholly reasonable. His children's respect might never return, and it's clear from the article that his relationship with his children is part of what he valued most.
- sejje 13y ago
  I agree, and frankly I think it's a bit disgusting for people here to monday-morning-quarterback this man and his motives and decisions. If it was easy to avoid the situation, he would have.
- dpcan 13y ago
  If this is the case, it's very sad that the relationships he values the most come with the caveat that he can't be vulnerable around those people. He's not allowed to fail before them. Not able to ask them for help when in need - or they lose all respect for him.

nols 13y ago

He didn't hide his homelessness, they knew that's why the mom and two kids moved to Germany (for the better social services). It doesn't say why he didn't live with his children, but it does say the mom and two youngest lived with two older kids for awhile and the high school aged kids bounced around with his friends so they could continue to attend their high school.