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I agree with most of your statement, but it is possible to raise a healthy, happy, kind child after a divorce. I'm doing it right now, albeit with the help of
by sanj 17y ago
I agree with most of your statement, but it is possible to raise a healthy, happy, kind child after a divorce. I'm doing it right now, albeit with the help of both his Mom and my wife.
Divorce doesn't have to destroy your ability to raise kids well, and I don't believe it should be used as an excuse. It's a little harder, but it's damn sight easier than raising them in many parts of the world.
- jimbokun 17y agoMaybe a correlation/causation thing. Personality issues that make people bad at marriage could also make them bad at child-rearing, statistically speaking. Does not mean it is impossible to do a good job as a divorced parent, but does add a degree of difficulty and some, at least, should examine whether the underlying issues that caused the marriage to fail can also impact relationships with the children. Workaholism, abusive tendencies, lack of empathy and other traits could cause trouble for both kinds of relationship. This is all in the abstract, of course, and I am implying nothing at all about your specific situation.
- run4yourlives 17y agoOne should keep in mind though that divorce has about the same impact on a child as a death does, even worse in some cases. Now, you'd never suggest that a child cannot be "normal" if they've had a parent die, but you'd never suggest it wouldn't affect them in a big way either. I think as long as the realization is there, a parent can adapt.