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Women are highly biased by attractiveness, and as a man, I really care about more than just physical appearance in a woman. So, yeah, you're incorrectly attacki

by javert 13y ago

Women are highly biased by attractiveness, and as a man, I really care about more than just physical appearance in a woman. So, yeah, you're incorrectly attacking men.

EGreg 13y ago
I am not sure what "women are highly biased by attractiveness" means. Everyone is highly biased by attractiveness by definition of attractiveness. Also it is truism that, as a man, you care more than JUST physical appearance in a woman. And you, personally, might even not care about looks at all -- though you'd be quite rare in that case. I am talking about the overall majority of men and women and what makes them attracted and at what time. There have been studies done on this and it's pretty clear: women's biological appearance plays a larger role for men to be sexually attracted, than a man's biological appearance. (I say biological because obviously if you consider clothes, cars, cologne, hairstyle etc. to be part of the equation then those factors matter, but they can be manipulated and are related more to lifestyle than biology.) Men are more visually stimulated. It's a fact that's been shown over and over. I did not say men are JUST interested in that. I said that in most societies, men put more work up front -- witness how many men devote countless hours to learning pickup techniques and tricks, or getting a great car, or working their ass off to have money to take women out. Meanwhile, women start putting in more effort than the guy once they have invested in the relationship, and it's probably due to the nesting instinct / biological clock. They put a lot of biological investment into having kids, more than men. And so forth. I am not "attacking men". You are being knee-jerk reactionary.
- selmnoo 13y ago
  > Meanwhile, women start putting in more effort than the guy once they have invested in the relationship, and it's probably due to the nesting instinct / biological clock. I am not sure where you are getting this from. I just want to point out that existing data about who iniatiates divorces and break-ups would seem to contradict what you're saying. According to a study published in the American Law and Economics Review, women have filed slightly more than two-thirds of divorce cases in the United States.[80] There is some variation among states, and the numbers have also varied over time, with about 60% of filings by women in most of the 19th century, and over 70% by women in some states just after no-fault divorce was introduced, according to the paper. Evidence is given that among college-educated couples, the percentage of divorces initiated by women is approximately 90%.
  - EGreg 13y ago
    That is once again a straw man. Showing that women are more likely to file for divorce doesn't mean they didn't get married in the first place. I am talking about the period after people have been going out for a while, and before the marriage, where many women are saying, "where do you see all this going" or hoping he'd propose. This article also talks about people BEFORE they are getting married, not talking about how they get divorced. That is the subject. Women have a lot more invested in sex and children than men do. And therefore, they are looking to have a stable situation to have a family more than men are.
    - javert 13y ago
      > Women have a lot more invested in sex and children than men do. Why would you say that? Again, it appears to be biased against men.
      - EGreg 13y ago
        Pregnancy and the discomfort Childbirth and the pain Nursing, lack of sleep for years Rearing Out of the above four, three are done exclusively by women, and demand a lot of effort and some risks. It can be incredibly rewarding to have a child... but also very costly. The man can just leave. The pregnant woman can't. Biased against men? Please.
        Dylan16807 13y ago
        >Nursing, lack of sleep for years What? Nursing doesn't last that long, and 'lack of sleep' is part of rearing and not forced on the woman. >The man can just leave. The pregnant woman can't. She can give the child up for adoption just as easily as the man can leave the relationship. And rearing is the vast majority of the effort. Yes women have to do more, but the difference is not nearly as much as you're arguing.
        mercer 13y ago
        Do you really think it's just as easy for a woman to give her child up for adoption as it is for a man to leave the relationship? I mean: really?
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by javert 13y ago

Women are highly biased by attractiveness, and as a man, I really care about more than just physical appearance in a woman. So, yeah, you're incorrectly attacking men.

EGreg 13y ago

I am not sure what "women are highly biased by attractiveness" means. Everyone is highly biased by attractiveness by definition of attractiveness. Also it is truism that, as a man, you care more than JUST physical appearance in a woman. And you, personally, might even not care about looks at all -- though you'd be quite rare in that case. I am talking about the overall majority of men and women and what makes them attracted and at what time. There have been studies done on this and it's pretty clear: women's biological appearance plays a larger role for men to be sexually attracted, than a man's biological appearance. (I say biological because obviously if you consider clothes, cars, cologne, hairstyle etc. to be part of the equation then those factors matter, but they can be manipulated and are related more to lifestyle than biology.) Men are more visually stimulated. It's a fact that's been shown over and over. I did not say men are JUST interested in that. I said that in most societies, men put more work up front -- witness how many men devote countless hours to learning pickup techniques and tricks, or getting a great car, or working their ass off to have money to take women out. Meanwhile, women start putting in more effort than the guy once they have invested in the relationship, and it's probably due to the nesting instinct / biological clock. They put a lot of biological investment into having kids, more than men. And so forth. I am not "attacking men". You are being knee-jerk reactionary.

selmnoo 13y ago
> Meanwhile, women start putting in more effort than the guy once they have invested in the relationship, and it's probably due to the nesting instinct / biological clock. I am not sure where you are getting this from. I just want to point out that existing data about who iniatiates divorces and break-ups would seem to contradict what you're saying. According to a study published in the American Law and Economics Review, women have filed slightly more than two-thirds of divorce cases in the United States.[80] There is some variation among states, and the numbers have also varied over time, with about 60% of filings by women in most of the 19th century, and over 70% by women in some states just after no-fault divorce was introduced, according to the paper. Evidence is given that among college-educated couples, the percentage of divorces initiated by women is approximately 90%.
- EGreg 13y ago
  That is once again a straw man. Showing that women are more likely to file for divorce doesn't mean they didn't get married in the first place. I am talking about the period after people have been going out for a while, and before the marriage, where many women are saying, "where do you see all this going" or hoping he'd propose. This article also talks about people BEFORE they are getting married, not talking about how they get divorced. That is the subject. Women have a lot more invested in sex and children than men do. And therefore, they are looking to have a stable situation to have a family more than men are.
  - javert 13y ago
    > Women have a lot more invested in sex and children than men do. Why would you say that? Again, it appears to be biased against men.
    - EGreg 13y ago
      Pregnancy and the discomfort Childbirth and the pain Nursing, lack of sleep for years Rearing Out of the above four, three are done exclusively by women, and demand a lot of effort and some risks. It can be incredibly rewarding to have a child... but also very costly. The man can just leave. The pregnant woman can't. Biased against men? Please.
      - Dylan16807 13y ago
        >Nursing, lack of sleep for years What? Nursing doesn't last that long, and 'lack of sleep' is part of rearing and not forced on the woman. >The man can just leave. The pregnant woman can't. She can give the child up for adoption just as easily as the man can leave the relationship. And rearing is the vast majority of the effort. Yes women have to do more, but the difference is not nearly as much as you're arguing.
        mercer 13y ago
        Do you really think it's just as easy for a woman to give her child up for adoption as it is for a man to leave the relationship? I mean: really?
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