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In my opinion, it's ridiculous to excuse people somehow on the basis that they don't have great social skills. Maybe that was the problem in the 90s. That reall
by pekk 13y ago
In my opinion, it's ridiculous to excuse people somehow on the basis that they don't have great social skills. Maybe that was the problem in the 90s. That really has nothing to do with it today. There are a lot of people in this scene who have plenty of social skills, they just choose to act like raging assholes. Some fraternity brother type in the startup scene is not necessarily any better than a nerd in this regard.
- bphogan 13y agoYou can disagree if you want, but I think that someone who chooses to act like a raging asshole has a definite lack of social skills. I'm sick of these two types of assholes, really. The first type is the "I'm an asshole online -- it's my persona. " The other is the hater / troll. And I just have to think that both of those kinds of assholes result from a lack of social skills - as in, "I don't know how to get along with other people in society." Damnit, I just want to code cool stuff and use other people's cool stuff. Can't we all just write cool stuff and help each other out?
- api 13y agoLook closely. In many cases they don't actually have good social skills. That's the thing about being an asshole. It covers that up. Blind raging assertiveness is not good social skills anymore than banging on something really hard is craftsmanship.
- LaGrange 13y agoI have little social skills, anxiety etc. I can't afford to be an asshole, in fact, it's quite risky for me to take a stand even when I think I should. Someone who is consistently a jerk to others and yet has a good job is unlikely to have low social skills.