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Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) w

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of your doctor ceremony thing. I'm busy making crappy Android apps and trying to quit pornography... Can't exactly brag about that. - If I post something not cool or impressive, it dilutes my "brand". My reputation is important for getting laid. Therefore I don't post anything and keep my best photos up. - Speaking of getting laid, too much girl drama whenever I add them on facebook. I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so. I also don't want pics of me and a bunch of my guy friends, because that's "gay" for not having girls in the group. - Constant reputation management. If I post anything, I need to be vigilant for a few days to make sure no stupid highschool friends post anything. - Fuck you for backpacking through Europe and taking photos of everything. - The chat generally only allows for simple and content-lacking conversations (because that's what state your brain is in as you browse FB). Doesn't anyone sit down once in a while and write out emails to those important to them? - Real-time status updates. "I don't want to see this" is my favorite feature of FB. - Feeling bad for less socially popular people. When the post an update and aren't getting any likes, I really want to click "like" to make them feel better, but then I remember that I'd look uncool for associating with them. - Advertisements. I almost feel sorry for FB, because unlike Google (who knows what I'm looking for), they don't have much to work with aside from looking at people instagramming their food or sharing links from news sites such as this one. As a result, their ads always suck. I actually don't mind well-targeted ads that I receive in my gmail inbox. In short, I hate everything about FB, and it makes me feel like a terrible person everytime I use it.

threeseed 13y ago
Facebook is merely a website for messaging and sharing photos. It is because of YOUR friends that you get the experience you do. So if you are having a poor experience then find better friends. Or remove them from your feed. Or setup groups so you can filter content better. But honestly the problem quite clearly is you. The immature use of the term 'gay' to be derogatory. The fact that you dismiss the uncool people in your group because of fear of what others will think. The anger you have towards people who are merely enjoying their possibly once in a life time trip. You sound like a terrible person in spite of Facebook not because of it.
- psychotik 13y ago
  It's easy to judge, isn't it? It takes some courage to be honest and introspective, regardless of how you may judge the poster. What you say about this person says as much about you as it does about them.
  - threeseed 13y ago
    Can you show me at what point there was some actual evaluation of why he was doing the things he was ? Because sorry but I don't see anything courageous or introspective there. I just see a blind rant by somebody who clearly cares way too much about what his friends think.
    - mixmastamyk 13y ago
      He sounds young, and perhaps was a bit rude. In fact his second to last point was a turn-off for me. But, he made some valid points. I don't believe being excessively judgemental helps much. I did like your advice to find better friends, and lose the others.
    - Gigablah 13y ago
      I don't know if you should take his post at face value, seems like he's just describing an exaggerated persona to support his conclusion.
    - sanderjd 13y ago
      Admitting things that make it obvious that you care too much what your friends think is courageous and introspective. He opened himself up to the inevitable ridicule of people like you (courage) and openly described things about himself that are widely viewed negatively by society (introspection).
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jessriedel 13y ago
> I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so. That's not how girls work...
- MacsHeadroom 13y ago
  That's literally three opposite of how they work. The more "unavailable" you look the more attractive you are to women. It's called social proof, a demonstration that you've been vetted and determined of value by someone else. Not posting pictures with women because you don't want to look unavailable is like not putting your current employment on your resume. It is the opposite of what you should do by all means.
- MacsHeadroom 13y ago
  That's literally three opposite of how they work. The more "unavailable" you look the more attractive you are to women. It's called social proof, a demonstration that you've been vetted and determined of value by someone else. Not posting pictures with women because you don't want to look unavailable is like not putting your current employment on your resume. It is the opposite of what you should do by all means.
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sean-duffy 13y ago
To be honest, it just sounds like you care far too much about what other people think of you. Life's too short to please everyone, stop filtering your personality to please those on your friends list.
- rizalp 13y ago
  > I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody. – B I L L C O S B Y
agibsonccc 13y ago
Facebook as crazy as it is is useful. I just have a few simple rules. I don't post anything that I wouldn't want on the front page of the newspaper.I LET facebook know my interests so it keeps the feed interesting. I only friend people who I want to have a conversation with. That aside, it's a neat Instant messenger, and not a bad place to chat with groups and the like. Everybody has different uses for it, and it's not meant for everyone. I think each social network has a different niche it fulfills.
dpatrick86 13y ago
> Feeling bad for less socially popular people. When the post an update and aren't getting any likes, I really want to click "like" to make them feel better, but then I remember that I'd look uncool for associating with them. I'd drop this one in particular right in the "over concerned" category.
- volokoumphetico 13y ago
  what's funny is that I would keep posting as often as I desired and that I would always get likes (maybe some were sympathy likes as you say) and it was why I kept posting, like a crazed drug addict, it was a never ending cycle. One youtube video after another, your likes drove me.
- robryan 13y ago
  Is this really a thing? More often than not less "popular" people on Facebook are the ones actually posting interesting content.
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thenerdfiles 13y ago
This person is just the tip of the iceberg..!
lalc 13y ago
Re: photos of you being posted: You can enable manual approval of you-being-tagged appearing in your Timeline in privacy settings.
volokoumphetico 13y ago
but you are exactly the type of person that FB thrives on, insecure, tendency to exaggerate one's sex life, social circles, etc., most importantly perceived fear of other's perception of you based on your psyche at the time of posting that totally uncool photo or link that no one cares about. I would never go back to it but I'm keeping my linkedin because it pretty much solves all of your problems listed with facebook. Linkedin is a great tool for career advancement, facebook is a great tool for self-aggrandizing one's ego, a constant arms race of photos, links, and every detail of your life that can give you slightest edge over your peers.
larrys 13y ago
"I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me." Exactly because assuming you are not simply trying to be funny you have a huge attitude problem that would definitely be a red flag. Nothing wrong with thinking anything by the way, to yourself. I can come up with some pretty inappropriate thoughts from time to time. The difference is I don't share them and if I did I would have to suffer the consequences. If you say things people will judge you. If you meet your mother in law you aren't going to tell her what you really think of her, are you?
quantumpotato_ 13y ago
Since you "hate everything about FB" then what, exactly, do you use Facebook for and how often? > "Therefore I don't post anything and keep my best photos up". You don't want pictures of you and girls, and you don't want facebook of you and other guys so.. pictures of just you? If you have professional contacts, writing about android apps you're working on seems like a good idea - it shows your expertise, shows your productivity. Overall your post makes me think of this: http://deoxy.org/media/The_Social_Network_Scam http://deoxy.org/media/The_Social_Network_Scam
meddlepal 13y ago
I do not mean to be an ass here, but I am going to sound like one... You must live a shallow and trite life if you're THAT concerned about keeping up appearances. Are you sure you have friends and not just acquaintances you're tying to impress?
richardjordan 13y ago
The anger and bitterness that comes across in this post suggests that Facebook isn't the problem here.
rizalp 13y ago
> I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? This a million times. For some people, success is a long process. It makes you feel that you are left behind. Doh, just look at how many my friends have married, and have a child drive me nuts Under calm, positive circumstances, I didn't really care. Sometimes, I even congratulate them. But when I come home from work, tired as hell, and feel that my accomplishment is so little, I don't want to compare my miserable self to you. I know that I should be grateful to other people success, but sometimes it makes me jealous.
dsuth 13y ago
Wow, that's a huge amount of insecurity balled up into a single post. Way to validate the research mate! Sounds like you need to practice letting go / not caring about your reputation and what other people think, and just be yourself. It may sound trite, but the way you live sounds horrifying!
sanderjd 13y ago
That sounds awful. You should cut that shit out of your life like it's a bad drug. You don't need it.
jgroszko 13y ago
Sounds like you're a terrible person on Facebook. I'll assume you're not a terrible person and maybe you can adopt some of my practices if you think they're useful to you: - Don't connect with professional contacts on Facebook. If you do, use Security groups to not let them see anything. Same for easily-offended family members... - If you're sick of someone's posts you can hide them from your timeline without de-friending them from the context menu. A well curated timeline is essential to having a good signal-noise ratio. - Do you really want to get laid by girls who check out your Facebook profile for the proper ratio of girls:guys in your photos? Sounds like you'd rather get laid by women who don't care, figure out where they are and hang out there. Then again I'm a gay man in an open/poly relationship so YMMV. - You can control who sees your posts as well, this can be as fine-grained as you want with Security groups. Personally, I just have one group that can see everything, and everyone else (cow-orkers, distant relatives, Mom) gets nothing. - I Like stuff even from people I don't really like because hey cool post! If someone is neurotic enough to look through who Like'd what I probably don't reall ycare what they have to say. - Yeah, ads suck.
Nicholas_C 13y ago
>Constant reputation management. If I post anything, I need to be vigilant for a few days to make sure no stupid highschool friends post anything. Now that I've added my parents/grandparents on Facebook (Why did I do that?) I'm constantly doing this. I have college buddies that will post the most immature things on my status/wall.

threeseed 13y ago

Facebook is merely a website for messaging and sharing photos. It is because of YOUR friends that you get the experience you do. So if you are having a poor experience then find better friends. Or remove them from your feed. Or setup groups so you can filter content better. But honestly the problem quite clearly is you. The immature use of the term 'gay' to be derogatory. The fact that you dismiss the uncool people in your group because of fear of what others will think. The anger you have towards people who are merely enjoying their possibly once in a life time trip. You sound like a terrible person in spite of Facebook not because of it.

psychotik 13y ago
It's easy to judge, isn't it? It takes some courage to be honest and introspective, regardless of how you may judge the poster. What you say about this person says as much about you as it does about them.
- threeseed 13y ago
  Can you show me at what point there was some actual evaluation of why he was doing the things he was ? Because sorry but I don't see anything courageous or introspective there. I just see a blind rant by somebody who clearly cares way too much about what his friends think.
  - mixmastamyk 13y ago
    He sounds young, and perhaps was a bit rude. In fact his second to last point was a turn-off for me. But, he made some valid points. I don't believe being excessively judgemental helps much. I did like your advice to find better friends, and lose the others.
  - Gigablah 13y ago
    I don't know if you should take his post at face value, seems like he's just describing an exaggerated persona to support his conclusion.
  - sanderjd 13y ago
    Admitting things that make it obvious that you care too much what your friends think is courageous and introspective. He opened himself up to the inevitable ridicule of people like you (courage) and openly described things about himself that are widely viewed negatively by society (introspection).
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jessriedel 13y ago

> I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so. That's not how girls work...

MacsHeadroom 13y ago
That's literally three opposite of how they work. The more "unavailable" you look the more attractive you are to women. It's called social proof, a demonstration that you've been vetted and determined of value by someone else. Not posting pictures with women because you don't want to look unavailable is like not putting your current employment on your resume. It is the opposite of what you should do by all means.
MacsHeadroom 13y ago
That's literally three opposite of how they work. The more "unavailable" you look the more attractive you are to women. It's called social proof, a demonstration that you've been vetted and determined of value by someone else. Not posting pictures with women because you don't want to look unavailable is like not putting your current employment on your resume. It is the opposite of what you should do by all means.
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sean-duffy 13y ago

To be honest, it just sounds like you care far too much about what other people think of you. Life's too short to please everyone, stop filtering your personality to please those on your friends list.

rizalp 13y ago
> I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody. – B I L L C O S B Y

agibsonccc 13y ago

Facebook as crazy as it is is useful. I just have a few simple rules. I don't post anything that I wouldn't want on the front page of the newspaper.I LET facebook know my interests so it keeps the feed interesting. I only friend people who I want to have a conversation with. That aside, it's a neat Instant messenger, and not a bad place to chat with groups and the like. Everybody has different uses for it, and it's not meant for everyone. I think each social network has a different niche it fulfills.

dpatrick86 13y ago

> Feeling bad for less socially popular people. When the post an update and aren't getting any likes, I really want to click "like" to make them feel better, but then I remember that I'd look uncool for associating with them. I'd drop this one in particular right in the "over concerned" category.

volokoumphetico 13y ago
what's funny is that I would keep posting as often as I desired and that I would always get likes (maybe some were sympathy likes as you say) and it was why I kept posting, like a crazed drug addict, it was a never ending cycle. One youtube video after another, your likes drove me.
robryan 13y ago
Is this really a thing? More often than not less "popular" people on Facebook are the ones actually posting interesting content.

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thenerdfiles 13y ago

This person is just the tip of the iceberg..!

lalc 13y ago

Re: photos of you being posted: You can enable manual approval of you-being-tagged appearing in your Timeline in privacy settings.

volokoumphetico 13y ago

but you are exactly the type of person that FB thrives on, insecure, tendency to exaggerate one's sex life, social circles, etc., most importantly perceived fear of other's perception of you based on your psyche at the time of posting that totally uncool photo or link that no one cares about. I would never go back to it but I'm keeping my linkedin because it pretty much solves all of your problems listed with facebook. Linkedin is a great tool for career advancement, facebook is a great tool for self-aggrandizing one's ego, a constant arms race of photos, links, and every detail of your life that can give you slightest edge over your peers.

larrys 13y ago

"I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me." Exactly because assuming you are not simply trying to be funny you have a huge attitude problem that would definitely be a red flag. Nothing wrong with thinking anything by the way, to yourself. I can come up with some pretty inappropriate thoughts from time to time. The difference is I don't share them and if I did I would have to suffer the consequences. If you say things people will judge you. If you meet your mother in law you aren't going to tell her what you really think of her, are you?

quantumpotato_ 13y ago

Since you "hate everything about FB" then what, exactly, do you use Facebook for and how often? > "Therefore I don't post anything and keep my best photos up". You don't want pictures of you and girls, and you don't want facebook of you and other guys so.. pictures of just you? If you have professional contacts, writing about android apps you're working on seems like a good idea - it shows your expertise, shows your productivity. Overall your post makes me think of this: http://deoxy.org/media/The_Social_Network_Scam http://deoxy.org/media/The_Social_Network_Scam

meddlepal 13y ago

I do not mean to be an ass here, but I am going to sound like one... You must live a shallow and trite life if you're THAT concerned about keeping up appearances. Are you sure you have friends and not just acquaintances you're tying to impress?

richardjordan 13y ago

The anger and bitterness that comes across in this post suggests that Facebook isn't the problem here.

rizalp 13y ago

> I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? This a million times. For some people, success is a long process. It makes you feel that you are left behind. Doh, just look at how many my friends have married, and have a child drive me nuts Under calm, positive circumstances, I didn't really care. Sometimes, I even congratulate them. But when I come home from work, tired as hell, and feel that my accomplishment is so little, I don't want to compare my miserable self to you. I know that I should be grateful to other people success, but sometimes it makes me jealous.

dsuth 13y ago

Wow, that's a huge amount of insecurity balled up into a single post. Way to validate the research mate! Sounds like you need to practice letting go / not caring about your reputation and what other people think, and just be yourself. It may sound trite, but the way you live sounds horrifying!

sanderjd 13y ago

That sounds awful. You should cut that shit out of your life like it's a bad drug. You don't need it.

jgroszko 13y ago

Sounds like you're a terrible person on Facebook. I'll assume you're not a terrible person and maybe you can adopt some of my practices if you think they're useful to you: - Don't connect with professional contacts on Facebook. If you do, use Security groups to not let them see anything. Same for easily-offended family members... - If you're sick of someone's posts you can hide them from your timeline without de-friending them from the context menu. A well curated timeline is essential to having a good signal-noise ratio. - Do you really want to get laid by girls who check out your Facebook profile for the proper ratio of girls:guys in your photos? Sounds like you'd rather get laid by women who don't care, figure out where they are and hang out there. Then again I'm a gay man in an open/poly relationship so YMMV. - You can control who sees your posts as well, this can be as fine-grained as you want with Security groups. Personally, I just have one group that can see everything, and everyone else (cow-orkers, distant relatives, Mom) gets nothing. - I Like stuff even from people I don't really like because hey cool post! If someone is neurotic enough to look through who Like'd what I probably don't reall ycare what they have to say. - Yeah, ads suck.

Nicholas_C 13y ago

>Constant reputation management. If I post anything, I need to be vigilant for a few days to make sure no stupid highschool friends post anything. Now that I've added my parents/grandparents on Facebook (Why did I do that?) I'm constantly doing this. I have college buddies that will post the most immature things on my status/wall.