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And (from purely anecdotal experience) it isn't true today either. I did not have a safe career with a stable income when I met and married my wife. One of my b

And (from purely anecdotal experience) it isn't true today either. I did not have a safe career with a stable income when I met and married my wife. One of my best friends dropped out of college and married his sweetheart (they started off living in a single room). Recently, another friend of mine was laid off. He's just got engaged. IMHO The safe, stable, incomes make it easier to get married only if it is an "arranged" marriage where you are scrutinized by the parent and relatives of your wife-to-be. Otherwise it really doesn't matter.

tjic 17y ago
anecdote != data
- visitor4rmindia 17y ago
  The original comment is simply an opinion so I replied with mine. EDIT: Grammar
skinnymuch 17y ago
Yeah but is your wife hot or smart? Does she have good genes? I wonder the same about the other wives in your anecdotal experiences.
- visitor4rmindia 17y ago
  I think she's insanely hot! As for smart, she worked as an IT consultant in the UK for over three years. And her IQ is 131 (higher than mine).
  - xenophanes 17y ago
    If you would stop posting personal anecdotes, and focus on objective arguments, you wouldn't find yourself in a position of taking the conversation personally!
  - skinnymuch 17y ago
    xenophanes's reply to you is exactly what I was thinking. I'm not sure why I was downvoted. Having a good looking SO is important to most people when considering the prestige of the SO. So from your comment, I'm assuming she isn't very good looking. At least she is smart.
rsheridan6 17y ago
Did any of them have children? Getting married is one thing, but most people, at least the responsible ones, who don't have a stable income will tend to use birth control.
- visitor4rmindia 17y ago
  You don't know Indian culture very well I can see. Yes they (and I) all have children. I don't think it crossed our minds not to.
  - nebula 17y ago
    I'm not sure if culture has anything to do with it. But there is something seriously wrong when well educated people go about reproducing without even thinking about it. No wonder India is bursting at the seams with all the population overload that it can't really support. http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=in&out=s&ymax=250&submit=Submit+Query http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=in&out=... This picture scares the hell out of me. contrast that with this: http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=us&out=s&ymax=250&submit=Submit+Query http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=us&out=...
    - Tichy 17y ago
      Are you from India? I am not and I don't know it, but I can only imagine that cultural differences make people not worry about child support. Perhaps it is a given that the extended family will take care of children, or people don't mind much if children starve in the street if things don't work out (I don't think so, just saying - things might be very different). In any case I am pretty sure people only have children if it makes sense for them to do so, even in India.
      - nebula 17y ago
        Sorry for catching up with this so late. In any case I am pretty sure people only have children if it makes sense for them to do so, even in India Have you followed the conversation in the thread, or have you responded to my comment taking it out of context? I was responding to the following from 'visitor4rmindia': Yes they (and I) all have children. I don't think it crossed our minds not to. [http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=590008 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=590008] Coming to your question about whether I'm from India, I don't think it really matters; I never claimed that I know India. No matter where it happens, having children without proper planning and letting them starve is not acceptable. May be it's socially acceptable in certain societies to do so, but it's still outright stupid and cruel to children.

tjic 17y ago

anecdote != data

visitor4rmindia 17y ago
The original comment is simply an opinion so I replied with mine. EDIT: Grammar

skinnymuch 17y ago

Yeah but is your wife hot or smart? Does she have good genes? I wonder the same about the other wives in your anecdotal experiences.

visitor4rmindia 17y ago
I think she's insanely hot! As for smart, she worked as an IT consultant in the UK for over three years. And her IQ is 131 (higher than mine).
- xenophanes 17y ago
  If you would stop posting personal anecdotes, and focus on objective arguments, you wouldn't find yourself in a position of taking the conversation personally!
- skinnymuch 17y ago
  xenophanes's reply to you is exactly what I was thinking. I'm not sure why I was downvoted. Having a good looking SO is important to most people when considering the prestige of the SO. So from your comment, I'm assuming she isn't very good looking. At least she is smart.

rsheridan6 17y ago

Did any of them have children? Getting married is one thing, but most people, at least the responsible ones, who don't have a stable income will tend to use birth control.

visitor4rmindia 17y ago
You don't know Indian culture very well I can see. Yes they (and I) all have children. I don't think it crossed our minds not to.
- nebula 17y ago
  I'm not sure if culture has anything to do with it. But there is something seriously wrong when well educated people go about reproducing without even thinking about it. No wonder India is bursting at the seams with all the population overload that it can't really support. http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=in&out=s&ymax=250&submit=Submit+Query http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=in&out=... This picture scares the hell out of me. contrast that with this: http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=us&out=s&ymax=250&submit=Submit+Query http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/ipc/idbpyrs.pl?cty=us&out=...
  - Tichy 17y ago
    Are you from India? I am not and I don't know it, but I can only imagine that cultural differences make people not worry about child support. Perhaps it is a given that the extended family will take care of children, or people don't mind much if children starve in the street if things don't work out (I don't think so, just saying - things might be very different). In any case I am pretty sure people only have children if it makes sense for them to do so, even in India.
    - nebula 17y ago
      Sorry for catching up with this so late. In any case I am pretty sure people only have children if it makes sense for them to do so, even in India Have you followed the conversation in the thread, or have you responded to my comment taking it out of context? I was responding to the following from 'visitor4rmindia': Yes they (and I) all have children. I don't think it crossed our minds not to. [http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=590008 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=590008] Coming to your question about whether I'm from India, I don't think it really matters; I never claimed that I know India. No matter where it happens, having children without proper planning and letting them starve is not acceptable. May be it's socially acceptable in certain societies to do so, but it's still outright stupid and cruel to children.