Sounds more like you are defending hypocrites/unprincipled people. By your argument, it's more ok for me to hurt you (from whom I am distanced by the fact that

Sounds more like you are defending hypocrites/unprincipled people. By your argument, it's more ok for me to hurt you (from whom I am distanced by the fact that we have never met) than my girlfriend. It's a question of rights, not convenience or qualifications.