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I am seriously concerned about this. I was in a long-distance relationship this summer. We would take turns visiting each other in our respective cities roughl
by artursapek 14y ago
I am seriously concerned about this.
I was in a long-distance relationship this summer. We would take turns visiting each other in our respective cities roughly 5 hours apart. It was a pretty long journey for a weekend - it would sometimes take 10 hours one way since you had to go through New York. Of course, it was worth it.
But whenever we would go on a walk, or I'd take her out to dinner, I got as much face time with the back of that fucking iPhone as with her. We'd be strolling down the street during a beautiful summer sunset, and she'd be holding my hand with one of hers, and with the other she'd be scrolling through Instagram. Craning her neck to stare at that stupid dim little screen instead of just looking around at the beautiful neighborhood I lived in. Same thing while I tried talking to her during dinner. She literally preferred it to looking at what was around her.
Gawking at fake vintage photos. Or reading her horoscope. Or online shopping. Or whatever.
I asked her to stop, I said it was rude. She couldn't. I started to resent the iPhone, for stealing my limited time with her. I know, I know. It was a flaw in her, and not everybody does that, right?
Certainly not everybody. But I go to coffee shops now, I go to events, and people are just in cell phone huddles. A group of people will go out, and unanimously decide to prick and pinch and swipe their glass worship stones instead of having a fucking conversation or looking around them. This is everywhere. Every year it's more of a common sight. It's actually surprising now to see someone at the local cafe reading a book, or playing chess.
I might notice this more than most because I made a life decision to not use a "smart phone" and have kept using the same shitty Blackberry for 6 years now. It can only do calls, texts, and Sudoku. I couldn't do this kind of thing if I wanted.
I'm 20 now. I remember junior high, when the best cell phone was a Motorola RAZR. People never did this shit back then, because they couldn't. People spent time with each other. The cell phones would come out to facilitate people getting together, and then they'd go back in your pocket. That was it. They were actually phones. It was all they could do.
Phones today just aren't phones anymore. I don't know what to call them. They're more integrated with our lives. More intrusive. More attractive. They're addictive.[1] And they're used mostly for useless things.
Well, Google is taking the last remaining effort out of letting technology intervene with your actual life. And they know what to call it. Glass. Now you can wear it. It's a default. You don't have to pull it out. It's just always there. If this becomes normal, I will probably have to run away to the Third World or something.
I am crossing my fingers that we just stop at smart phones, and this never takes off. But I'm scared, because in the back of my head I am pretty certain it will. Eventually there will be no strangers, and there will be no friends. Everyone's name will be public, and nobody will get to know each other. Despite your dinky little social networks and social apps, you are forgetting what it is to actually know someone.
I really hope I don't ever have to go on a date with some girl who's getting conversation tips from Google's magic headgear. Fuck that.
[1] http://paulgraham.com/addiction.html http://paulgraham.com/addiction.html
- nhangen 14y agoLike it or not, this is where things are going, and I'm sure this is just a start.
- hospadam 14y agoOn some level - I agree with you. I do think people (while in groups) should not spend a bunch of time on their phone. To me, it's more of a courtesy thing. But surely, at some point in the past after books became portable, someone was shouting and complaining about all these people with their heads buried in books! When papa came home from work he used to talk to us! But now he reads! Oh no! What I'm trying to say is this: the world is constantly changing.
- artursapek 14y agoFair point, but in the direction it's changing people are becoming more and more boring.
- tmh88j 14y agoI don't think that's the case. There always have been boring people and there always will be boring people. It's now easier to connect with others making it easier to find boring people who may not appear that way immediately. Seeing highlights of someone's life on Facebook doesn't mean they're interesting, it's just one instance of their life. Talking with someone in person it's easier to gain insight to who they are and what they really enjoy. I wouldn't say any of my friends have become boring due to phones and tablets. Sure, they get distracted more easily, but that doesn't mean their personality has changed.
- Gigablah 14y agoNot quite, they just decided that their phone is more interesting than everyone around them.
- GHFigs 14y agoNot surprising when their phones and the apps on them have millions of man-hours of work put into making them interesting. What is surprising (at least to me, non-smartphone-owner) is that it's seems to be considered socially acceptable to put real people on a level playing field with them.