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Warning over narcissistic pupils

15 points by nickb 18y ago

tokenadult 18y ago
How many of you start-up founders would like to hire a narcissist convinced he can do no wrong? "Narcissists make terrible relationship partners, parents and employees. It's not a positive characteristic. We are in danger of encouraging this," she said. "And we are kidding ourselves if we think that we aren't going to undermine learning if we restrict criticism. "Parents no longer want to hear if their children have done anything wrong. This is the downside of the self-esteem agenda. "I'm not saying it's of no value--but you get unintentional consequences."
ilaksh 18y ago
As a product of the overabundant self-esteem training myself, I can verify that my narcissistic tendencies (coupled with my deep-rooted insecurities) has significantly (negatively) affected my relationships (of all types).
- diN0bot 18y ago
  same here. fortunately, it can be un-trained. or rather, better habits can be trained. there is no end, just little steps along the way.
diN0bot 18y ago
haha. i was wondering how narcissism and eye balls related.
Lerc 18y ago
More nuanced, video featuring Dr Carol Craig http://www.ltscotland.org.uk/video/c/confidenceandselfesteemcarolcraig.asp?strReferringChannel=learningaboutlearning http://www.ltscotland.org.uk/video/c/confidenceandselfesteem...
jlm382 18y ago
One of the biggest problems is teachers giving non-constructive criticism to students. Back in elementary school, I remember a teacher telling me how bad I was in history, but in only a harsh manner. What happened to teachers being able to "make friends and influence people" while still being able to get a point across?
- puzzle-out 18y ago
  Too true. Then again, should teachers try to be the students friend? When I was teaching I saw way too many young teachers more concerned with being popular, whereas actually the kids seemed to respect the teachers that kept a firm dividing line. There's something very sad about an adult trying to get social assurance from children.

15 points by nickb 18y ago

How many of you start-up founders would like to hire a narcissist convinced he can do no wrong? "Narcissists make terrible relationship partners, parents and employees. It's not a positive characteristic. We are in danger of encouraging this," she said. "And we are kidding ourselves if we think that we aren't going to undermine learning if we restrict criticism. "Parents no longer want to hear if their children have done anything wrong. This is the downside of the self-esteem agenda. "I'm not saying it's of no value--but you get unintentional consequences."

ilaksh 18y ago

As a product of the overabundant self-esteem training myself, I can verify that my narcissistic tendencies (coupled with my deep-rooted insecurities) has significantly (negatively) affected my relationships (of all types).

diN0bot 18y ago
same here. fortunately, it can be un-trained. or rather, better habits can be trained. there is no end, just little steps along the way.

diN0bot 18y ago

haha. i was wondering how narcissism and eye balls related.

Lerc 18y ago

More nuanced, video featuring Dr Carol Craig http://www.ltscotland.org.uk/video/c/confidenceandselfesteemcarolcraig.asp?strReferringChannel=learningaboutlearning http://www.ltscotland.org.uk/video/c/confidenceandselfesteem...

jlm382 18y ago

One of the biggest problems is teachers giving non-constructive criticism to students. Back in elementary school, I remember a teacher telling me how bad I was in history, but in only a harsh manner. What happened to teachers being able to "make friends and influence people" while still being able to get a point across?

puzzle-out 18y ago
Too true. Then again, should teachers try to be the students friend? When I was teaching I saw way too many young teachers more concerned with being popular, whereas actually the kids seemed to respect the teachers that kept a firm dividing line. There's something very sad about an adult trying to get social assurance from children.