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Another very useful trick I learned for handling criticism, especially when you're standing nervously on stage and the critic is being unfriendly, unreasonable,
by rkp8000 18d ago
Another very useful trick I learned for handling criticism, especially when you're standing nervously on stage and the critic is being unfriendly, unreasonable, and unlikely to change their mind about anything:
If you don't feel you can give a quick response in a way that will bring them to your side right away, instead of arguing simply keep a notepad handy and (visibly) take a quick note about what they said and thank them. Most folks that raise unreasonable criticisms at talks just want to be heard, and in my experience they may even suddenly become very friendly to you for visibly acknowledging their comments, opening the door for a productive and constructive conversation.
- jborichevskiy 18d agoIn my experience this goes for more than just talks - can be helpful at events and regular meetings too
- stronglikedan 18d agoYup. I take notes in front of the camera just to let the person know that I'm hearing them, even if I can't answer them in that moment. I also let them know about when I'll be able to get back to them. Goes a long way.
- pinkmuffinere 18d agoI _really_ like this advice, I will be filing it away for future use. Thankyou for your suggestion :P
- iamflimflam1 18d agoEveryone in the audience will recognise when someone is being a dick and will be praying for them to stop grandstanding. “Great questions/point - would be great to pick it up with you later. Any other questions?”
- rzzzt 18d agoIt seems every question is great on the presentations I'm listening to, which is practically impossible. It's most likely a bell-shaped curve on the greatness scale. We should be hearing "that's a bad question" every now and then.
- jamiejquinn 18d agoAhh I see you've never been to a physics conference!
- dmd 18d agoI heard a speaker once say "that's a [obvious pause] question" and the audience giggled because it was obviously a really poorly thought out question.
- pseudohadamard 17d agoI've used "please phrase your question in the form of a question" when the person in the audience is using it as a platform to deliver a long speech.
- zitterbewegung 17d agoI have given lots of talks and if i have a hostile critic i would want that over people saying great talk or even indifference. I learn more from critics than anything else and it definitely gives me evidence that people were actually understanding my talk or even where they misunderstood me.