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This hasn’t been true for me. Not only are the majority of software engineers I know married but also looking at the marriage rates in high-income in the Bay Ar
by arjie 3mo ago
This hasn’t been true for me. Not only are the majority of software engineers I know married but also looking at the marriage rates in high-income in the Bay Area, it’s quite high, so I don’t think it’s specific to my group.
There are angry people on the Internet but real life has rarely reflected them.
- Der_Einzige 3mo agoCan't believe people here try to gaslight me on this topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtACIFEddhM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtACIFEddhM "If you're not taken, gay, or furry, the consensus is that dating in SF sucks..."
- monknomo 3mo agoIt sounds like you are describing a problem with the San Francisco dating scene, which does relate to a small subset of the SWE experience, but hardly covers anything close to the totality of being an SWE.
- arjie 3mo agoWell, I certainly was not trying to 'gaslight' you considering I repeatedly anchored my view in "for me" and "engineers I know" and then used a statistic to say that my experience seems pretty standard. To gaslight you would be to try to convince you that your experience is not what it was. I have no doubt that one's social context determines the outcomes here a lot.
- danparsonson 3mo agoIs it just possible that your dating problems come from somewhere else? I personally haven't experienced the negative social consequences you're describing, but I'm also not dating in SF.