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> What I mean is that it is hard to find women that actually WANT to live a life of sacrifice, living for the family, instead of living to themselves. Well, in
by king_jester 14y ago
> What I mean is that it is hard to find women that actually WANT to live a life of sacrifice, living for the family, instead of living to themselves.
Well, in most of the western world women had no choice in the past but to take on those roles, regardless if they wanted to or not. That we see women rejecting this kind of role because they have more choices is a good thing. I'm sure there's plenty of folks out there that still want that lifestyle, but there should be no default assumption of that being the suitable gender role for women.
> "Hell no, the kid can stay in the creche, or watching TV with the babysitter, I must work."
If someone wants to do this and has the means to do so, is there a problem? Sure it might not match what you want with your life, but that just means that person isn't the parental partner for you.
- pbhjpbhj 14y ago>If someone wants to do this and has the means to do so, is there a problem? // For the child it would seem so. I don't really understand why people who don't want to - or aren't willing to - love and care for a child choose to have children.
- king_jester 14y agoIn terms of working while raising children, if you have the financial resources to make up for having one or both parents working then there is not much of an issue. A lot of folks don't have such resources, of course, and work out of necessity. As for why folks have kids, the reasons are varied, but a significant percentage of those are not planned, they are either unwanted or mistimed. Jessica Valenti had a great piece in the Atlantic about this that was posted here a few weeks back - http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/09/not-wanting-kids-is-entirely-normal/262367/ http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/09/not-wantin...