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Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms
And for any mothers here, happy Mother's Day.
- vishnukool 5mo agoRespect. It's a good day to remember the impact they had even if they are no longer around to pick up the phone. Btw calling her now.
- Bender 5mo agoI'll have a drink in her memory.
- rationalist 5mo agoI'm sorry for your loss.
- coalstartprob 5mo agocheers mate
- kstrauser 5mo agoWriting here because your reply to me (“I choose this guy’s dead mom”) had me laughing out loud. Just saying, even though the comment got killed, it landed well.
- user_7832 5mo agoSorry, but seeing your comment being called dead by HN was... amusing. (I personally think it's okay to be amused, even if it's thanks to dead people. I don't think any mother would really mind too much.)
- croisillon 5mo ago(in the US)
- bobnarizes 5mo ago(+ Germany and Mexico)
- stackghost 5mo ago(And Canada)
- CamouflagedKiwi 5mo ago(and New Zealand)
- keraf 5mo agoAnd a bunch of other countries like Switzerland, Tanzania, Belgium, India, Greece, Hong Kong, etc. [0] [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day#Dates_around_the_world https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day#Dates_around_th...
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- danjovich 5mo ago(and Brazil)
- lxxpxlxxxx 5mo ago(And Venezuela)
- Imustaskforhelp 5mo ago(and India)
- sgt 5mo ago(and South Africa)
- spikepuppet 5mo ago(and Australia)
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- alex7o 5mo agoHow is it mother day isn't that 8 march
- taubek 5mo agoMarch 8th is International Women's Day (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Women%27s_Day https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Women%27s_Day). Mother’s Day is different from country to country (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day)
- nottorp 5mo agoApparently, according to wikipedia, we have a "mother's day" in the first sunday in may. I've seen nothing in the news about it and wasn't aware of its existence. 8 March was an entirely different animal...
- Swizec 5mo agoMarch 8 is international women’s day. The most ignored of all holidays by US culture. To an almost hilarious degree. My partner frequently brags that she’s the only of her friends and coworkers, in 10+ years, who has ever gotten flowers for women’s day. Meanwhile even Uber drivers have wished her a happy women’s day in various heavy foreign accents.
- xyzelement 5mo ago// My partner frequently brags March 8th is for the partners, mother's day is for the wives :) Just kidding but couldn't resist.
- throwaway27727 5mo agoInternational men's day isn't a thing in the US either, so that's not surprising. Contrast to Mother's/Father's Day, which are.
- drfloyd51 5mo agoI feel some editorializing going on. Here[0] is a list of many holidays that are ignored more than international women’s day. Happy International Day of Plant Health to you! 0: https://www.un.org/en/observances/list-days-weeks https://www.un.org/en/observances/list-days-weeks
- gjvc 5mo ago[flagged]
- xyzelement 5mo agoOn the scale of 1 through 10 how happy is your wife with you in general? :)
- rationalist 5mo agoYou can make your own cards, and calling doesn't require you to buy any cards. I imagine receiving a call is more enjoyable than receiving a card. Edit: I don't think OP's comment should be flagged. It is an understandable opinion held by many - even if I disagree with it. Flagging it hides it and the rebuttals from others who might share the same opinion, in which case they don't see the rebuttals.
- EB-BarringtonII 5mo agoJust a phone-call, it's not hard. Don't need to buy anything.
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- malfist 5mo agoShe despises me for being gay. Not a chance I'm calling her.
- rationalist 5mo agoI'm sorry :-(
- tempaccountabcd 5mo ago[dead]
- twiclo 5mo agoYou should call her
- Zambyte 5mo ago... why?
- llbbdd 5mo agoLol. Call her and put on a heavy lisp
- rationalist 5mo agoI contemplating writing a reply suggesting maybe a text or email instead, but I don't know enough about OP's situation so I don't think it's appropriate to give any advice that they didn't ask for.
- mr-wendel 5mo agoHard disagree. Maybe there is a time for difficult outreach, but recommending someone to celebrate a person (and one of the most significant people in their life) whose primary emotion is disgust in response to unchosen personal attributes is remarkably insensitive. No need to salt those wounds. Let's hope things get better for anyone in this circumstance, but IMO it is the parent's job to make an attempt. -- Nobody wants to or tries to be this kind of person, so here is my shout out today to the moms who DID find a way to work through the challenge of accepting a child whose sexuality, spirituality, politics, etc. are different than they hoped for.
- chipgap98 5mo agoHappy Mothers Day to all the moms on HN
- nsbk 5mo agoAnd Latvia
- late_night_fix 5mo agoAppreciate the reminder,small post,big impact.Happy Mother's day to all moms here.
- amunozo 5mo agoIs it always May 10 in the countries where it's now? In Spain is the first Sunday of the month.
- pjmlp 5mo agoLike in Portugal, I guess it is an Iberian thing.
- unclad5968 5mo agoSecond Sunday of May in the US
- dyauspitr 5mo agoWhy do they do this? Why not just have a fixed date for these things? Is it so people can use the weekend to celebrate?
- Moto7451 5mo agoYes
- jolmg 5mo agoFor Mother's Day, possibly, but it's not always the case. Thanksgiving is on the 4th Thursday of November.
- lostlogin 5mo agoIf it was a fixed day it would end up being a week day a lot of the time. Maybe that doesn’t matter, but it’s nice to have on a weekend. Maybe I’m missing what you mean?
- amunozo 5mo agoIt seems it must be the same in Switzerland where I live, makes sense!
- jacekm 5mo agoIn Poland it's on 26th of May.
- xyzelement 5mo agoBefore I got married and had kids I thought it was a dumb Hallmark holiday. Now I think it's really significant and important to have an official day dedicated to recognize all the moms out there. Happy mother's day to all the moms out there. And all the guys that made them moms :)
- Balgair 5mo agoEach child is biologically required to have a mother. Fatherhood is a well-regarded theory, but motherhood is a fact. P. J. O'Rourke
- treis 5mo agoThis is not true on just so many levels. Lots of people have mothers not worthy of the name. I don't know exactly what fatherhood being a theory and motherhood being a fact means but I struggle to find any that isn't offensive to fathers.
- Balgair 5mo agoO'Rourke was a conservative satirist (back when that could even be a thing), was semi-famous for his long term appearances on NPR's Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, and was an advocate for gonzo journalism. I take his quote to mean that motherhood is more difficult than fatherhood, especially back in the time he was active. The quote should, I feel, not be observed as a factual statement, but rather in the vein of his politically based humor. Largely, it was a simpler time. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P._J._O%27Rourke https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P._J._O%27Rourke
- lanstin 5mo agoI was a stay at home dad for a number of years and my observation is that kids never get over a bad relationship with their mother (also informed by knowing a number of adults with mothers that weren’t that good for them); any one can benefit from a good relationship with their father, but it’s a little more optional for the most kids. Ready to benefit from a supportive dad but ready to go it without that sort of helpfulness.
- pjmlp 5mo agoNot everywhere, in Portugal it is the first May's Sunday.
- codeulike 5mo agoUnless you're in the UK in which case it was the 15th March and you've already done it (or already missed it)
- pmg101 5mo agoFourth Sunday in Lent or something, very easy to forget it!
- beardyw 5mo agoYes, it pre-dates the gift card (and gift) industry. I seem to recall being told it was to allow servants to go home to see their mothers. See how vaguely I framed that.
- pmg101 5mo agoNothing to do with mothers, wasn't it something to do with visiting your "mother church", the church where you were baptised?
- pluc 5mo agoYeah I learned that today! I wonder what's the reason behind the difference.
- nickt 5mo agoIn the UK (and a few other places) it’s “Mothering Sunday”, the day you honour the church where you were baptised, or your mother church. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday
- pluc 5mo agoWell that just seems like a completely different thing that share a few letters
- david-gpu 5mo agoI am happy for all those who celebrate. Quick reminder that not all mothers are good people that we must keep in touch with. For people recovering from a rough childhood, here are a couple of resources that may be useful to you: 1. "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Gibson. 2. https://old.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren+CPTSD+raisedbynarcissists/ https://old.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren+CPTSD+raisedbynarciss...
- Trasmatta 5mo agoThank you for the acknowledgement of this. Mother's Day can be intensely painful for people who had or have abusive or neglectful mothers. I think this should be acknowledged before the blanket advice of "call your mom" is given.
- livinglist 5mo agoI grew up in a toxic household (my mom cheated when I was two, my stepfather was very abusive towards my mom, and my mom was always condescending and materialistic and kept using me to get money from my birth father, my birth father has depression and I just never felt any love from him), and I now barely keep in touch with both my parents, the first one hit home.
- jsdfasds 5mo agoYep. My parents went to prison for child abuse.
- graemep 5mo agoThank you for saying this. It needs saying as society finds it hard to acknowledge. My children are now no contact with their mother but it is painful.
- Quarrelsome 5mo ago<3 <3 <3 Traumatised children unite! It is a little frustrating how those without this perspective react with shock when they discover that some of us have gone no contact with one of our parents. I was chatting to some muslim street preacher the other day and he told me that respect for your parents was a pillar of the faith, so that and my inability to grow a beard means I could never pick the Islam. <3 <3 <3
- kstrauser 5mo agoThis is the first year when I can’t do that. Please go do it on my behalf, while it’s possible.
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- AnimalMuppet 5mo agoMy second. Most of the time it's fine, but... today it hit me. I don't have a mother anymore. So, yeah. Call while you can.
- highwaylights 5mo agoComing up on 3 years here. I felt this. Can also confirm this is based advice.
- coalstartprob 5mo ago[dead]
- thenipper 5mo agoSame here. I’m sorry for your loss and may her memory be a blessing. If you need someone to talk to I’m here.
- Beestie 5mo agoit gets easier but not by much. I wouldn't have it any other way. Been 15 years and I don't want to ever forget. My Mom is showing your Mom around and they are trading stories of what brats we were :-)
- kstrauser 5mo agoSo, I have showdead on, and someone replied to me with a Reddit joke (that actually made me laugh). What really got me was the header for that: username 2 hours ago [dead] | parent “Hey Dad, why are you cackling?” “I‘ll… explain later.”
- andyjohnson0 5mo agoTwenty nine long years for me. Mother's day is on a different date where I live, but every time it gets me. And on many of the days in-between too. Take care everyone, and give your mother a hug if you can.
- Imustaskforhelp 5mo agoI have just come to HN from I was actually helping my mother in pressing legs as her legs sometimes hurt from pain :-( Gonna go help my mom again in massaging her legs, Okay shes asking me to help now, bye!
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- xthe 5mo agoThis is good reminder but I do regular calls to her even today also
- muzmich 5mo agothx, I almost missed it
- mastabadtomm 5mo agoI lost my father last year because of complications from severe Alzheimer's. When I saw this, I thought my mother is still with us, and I need to be grateful for that. I love you mum!
- chcardoz 5mo agoHappy mother's day to any mothers here!
- pizzafeelsright 5mo agoI've created two mother's. The firstborn is privileged.
- rglover 5mo agoLost my mom 17 years ago. Don't be a chump; one day she won't be here and you will miss her in ways you never could have imagined.
- issoms7 5mo ago"I don't have mother" That's why I came to hear
- magic-amoeba 5mo agoI was waiting for: what shall I call her?
- bradlys 5mo agoHN’s demo is quite old. It’s likely most here are married with kids or have a dead mother. The days of a young Silicon Valley are long gone.
- anilakar 5mo agoWhen my mom remarried, her new husband started to manipulate her and isolate her from other relatives, trying to turn everyone against each other. The last time I met her, I was basically talking to two copies of him. I've already dealt with the fact that I will not get my mom back.
- OneOffAsk 5mo agoThat sounds like something you fight harder on instead of being defeatist.
- bdangubic 5mo agoCall your Mom every day, even for a minute
- rationalist 5mo agoAlso, Mother's Day is May 9th next year. If you do want to mail a card next year, I recommend making a calendar entry now to remind you to buy (or make) a card and mail it so it arrives in time, or at least least make a calendar entry to call her on the day of.
- andrewinardeer 5mo agoThis was submitted 2 hours after Mother's Day concluded in Australia. Next year can you please post a day earlier?
- rationalist 5mo ago˙pɹɐɔ ɐ lıɐɯ puɐ ʎnq oʇ ʇuɐʍ ʎǝɥʇ ɟı ʎlɹɐǝ os ɹo ʞǝǝʍ ɐ sdɐɥɹǝd - ɹɐǝʎ ʇxǝu ɹoɟ sɹɐpuǝlɐɔ ɹıǝɥʇ uı ʇı ʇnd ǝldoǝd ʇɐɥʇ ƃuıʇsǝƃƃns ʇuǝɯɯoɔ ɹǝɥʇouɐ ǝpɐɯ ı ˙ǝɯıʇ ǝɥʇ ʇɐ dǝǝlsɐ sɐʍ ı 'ʎɹɹos :-)
- i_love_retros 5mo agoThis seems more appropriate for reddit or LinkedIn. You really that desperate for points?
- drbig 5mo agoAnd in case you are elsewhere... In Poland it's on the 26th, so hey buy some appropriate flowers or other gift while you have the time!
- LogicCraft678 5mo agoThats so thoughtful of you
- zshiro 5mo agoThanks for the reminder.
- Meliwat 5mo agoOr you can use Claude to make her an interactive Mother's Day card and then host it on a live URL so she can send it to her friends and brag