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Feeling bad about something you can’t change is bad for your mental health.
by nslsm 7mo ago
Feeling bad about something you can’t change is bad for your mental health.
- primevaldad 7mo agoand naming your feelings is the first step toward restoration
- matkoniecz 7mo agoProbably beats being in denial over it and pretending you like it. And identifying problem you dislike is a good first step to find a strategy to solve it at least in part.
- JoshTriplett 7mo agoDeciding that you can't change something is the first and last step towards failing to change it.
- nslsm 7mo agoWhich is not a problem if you choose not to worry about it.
- JoshTriplett 7mo ago"It's uncool to care about things" is, fortunately, not a compelling argument for people who care about things. This tangent does not seem likely to go anywhere productive.
- nslsm 7mo agoThat’s a reductionist and wrong reading of the argument I made.
- JoshTriplett 7mo agoYou said "can’t change". I observed that deciding you can't change something is self-fulfilling. Your argument from that point still relied on the assumption that you can't change it.
- nslsm 7mo agoBefore you decide not to care about something, you are supposed to make a deep assessment to see whether you can change it. It is only after you’ve determined that the thing can’t be changed that you can choose not to care about it.
- 0x3f 7mo agoYou can care about things, but it seems preferable to care about that which you can change