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This seems weird to me, maybe it's a generational thing. Is it really that bad to share a car with someone? You don't have to talk to them the whole time.

minwcnt5 8mo ago
"Yes it is that bad" - every woman I've ever talked to.
robcohen 8mo ago
Personally, I find it odd to have interactions with anyone just based of transactionality. I want to interact with people because I have relationships with them. I've always found it hard to figure out exactly how nice to be with someone you don't know. I don't think this is a maladjustment on my part, I think you probably shouldn't be overly nice to people before you establish trust with them... and that takes time.
seanmcdirmid 8mo ago
The human driver could be nodding off because they didn’t bother sleeping last night, or maybe they just had some food with lots of garlic, or…ya, this has all happened to me before. I’ll take the Waymo over uber.
- socalgal2 8mo ago
  I've had one driving while reading their phone and checking stocks and looking up for about 1/2 a second of every 4 seconds.
yfdrea 8mo ago
As a woman, while 95% of the ridesharing trips I take are perfectly pleasant and sometimes great with conversation the 5% of rides where you are trapped in a car with a creep asking you extremely off putting questions sours the entire concept of ride sharing for me.
- Arete314159 8mo ago
  Same. Ever been a vulnerable woman stuck in a car with a man who starts ranting that "nobody wants to date men who aren't rich anymore" and it turns out the driver is angry because the women that are trapped as riders won't go out with him? Or how about, "Nice place...you live alone here?" Absolutely would choose the robot.
- GuinansEyebrows 8mo ago
  the situations you've described and the fact that our answer as a society is seemingly to throw up our hands at our inability to solve these situations other than by increasing the number of cars on the road in a way that funnels even more wealth to a tiny group of unfathomably wealthy sociopaths who also use ourour personal information to impact our spending habits... very depressing. i really hate it here.
  - bsder 8mo ago
    Erm, what would you propose as an alternative answer? Presumably women are giving those creepy drivers bad ratings, and yet they are still on the road. So, that's clearly not working. Sure, the US should fix their transit system, but that doesn't help women now. So, the default answer becomes, "Get your own car, plebe." And that's super expensive and requires you to drive. Or, a woman can take a Waymo. I'm right there with you about hating the megajillionaires, but I'm open to hearing your alternative suggestions.
    - GuinansEyebrows 8mo ago
      arm all women :)
      - bsder 8mo ago
        I like humor, however, for the peanut gallery who might not get sarcasm: Every credible scientific study of women and guns in the last two decades strongly indicates that a firearm in a woman’s home is far more likely to be used against her or her family than to defend against an outside attacker. More women carrying guns makes them more likely to get shot, and, mostly, not by strangers.
overfeed 8mo ago
> Is it really that bad to share a car with someone? Sometimes it is, and you never really know when. Some of my most unpleasant experiences involved a couple of reckless drivers, even more nutters who insisted on talking about their politics or pet peeves, I fear one of them may have gone beyond mere eccentricity and probably required some medical intervention, but couldn't figure out how to report that without possibly resulting in the driver being punished by the app.
- wincy 8mo ago
  Hah, I had a 2am conversation with a woman from Argentina about Javier Milei which is one of my Uber riding highlights. But then another time a guy warned me not to open his glove box because his Glock was in there and he sounded deranged and it’s the one time I’ve literally gotten out of the car and cancelled my Uber. One female Uber driver told me about how she had to go to court because a drunk man threatened to stab her with a knife (that he was brandishing), then he passed out and the police had to haul him out of her car. The .1% ruin it for everyone else.
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wincy 8mo ago
The Uber Driver who told me all about his Glock in the glove box was pretty off putting. Also the Jeep that picked me up in August with broken air conditioning, although that was an annoyance vs “what is happening right now am I going to die”.
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jaredklewis 8mo ago
I’m fine to share a car. I’m less keen on dying in one. Riding in a car is easily the most dangerous thing I do in my daily life and my subjective impression of how well uber/lyft/taxi drivers drive is not great.

minwcnt5 8mo ago

"Yes it is that bad" - every woman I've ever talked to.

robcohen 8mo ago

Personally, I find it odd to have interactions with anyone just based of transactionality. I want to interact with people because I have relationships with them. I've always found it hard to figure out exactly how nice to be with someone you don't know. I don't think this is a maladjustment on my part, I think you probably shouldn't be overly nice to people before you establish trust with them... and that takes time.

seanmcdirmid 8mo ago

The human driver could be nodding off because they didn’t bother sleeping last night, or maybe they just had some food with lots of garlic, or…ya, this has all happened to me before. I’ll take the Waymo over uber.

socalgal2 8mo ago
I've had one driving while reading their phone and checking stocks and looking up for about 1/2 a second of every 4 seconds.

yfdrea 8mo ago

As a woman, while 95% of the ridesharing trips I take are perfectly pleasant and sometimes great with conversation the 5% of rides where you are trapped in a car with a creep asking you extremely off putting questions sours the entire concept of ride sharing for me.

Arete314159 8mo ago
Same. Ever been a vulnerable woman stuck in a car with a man who starts ranting that "nobody wants to date men who aren't rich anymore" and it turns out the driver is angry because the women that are trapped as riders won't go out with him? Or how about, "Nice place...you live alone here?" Absolutely would choose the robot.
GuinansEyebrows 8mo ago
the situations you've described and the fact that our answer as a society is seemingly to throw up our hands at our inability to solve these situations other than by increasing the number of cars on the road in a way that funnels even more wealth to a tiny group of unfathomably wealthy sociopaths who also use ourour personal information to impact our spending habits... very depressing. i really hate it here.
- bsder 8mo ago
  Erm, what would you propose as an alternative answer? Presumably women are giving those creepy drivers bad ratings, and yet they are still on the road. So, that's clearly not working. Sure, the US should fix their transit system, but that doesn't help women now. So, the default answer becomes, "Get your own car, plebe." And that's super expensive and requires you to drive. Or, a woman can take a Waymo. I'm right there with you about hating the megajillionaires, but I'm open to hearing your alternative suggestions.
  - GuinansEyebrows 8mo ago
    arm all women :)
    - bsder 8mo ago
      I like humor, however, for the peanut gallery who might not get sarcasm: Every credible scientific study of women and guns in the last two decades strongly indicates that a firearm in a woman’s home is far more likely to be used against her or her family than to defend against an outside attacker. More women carrying guns makes them more likely to get shot, and, mostly, not by strangers.

overfeed 8mo ago

> Is it really that bad to share a car with someone? Sometimes it is, and you never really know when. Some of my most unpleasant experiences involved a couple of reckless drivers, even more nutters who insisted on talking about their politics or pet peeves, I fear one of them may have gone beyond mere eccentricity and probably required some medical intervention, but couldn't figure out how to report that without possibly resulting in the driver being punished by the app.

wincy 8mo ago
Hah, I had a 2am conversation with a woman from Argentina about Javier Milei which is one of my Uber riding highlights. But then another time a guy warned me not to open his glove box because his Glock was in there and he sounded deranged and it’s the one time I’ve literally gotten out of the car and cancelled my Uber. One female Uber driver told me about how she had to go to court because a drunk man threatened to stab her with a knife (that he was brandishing), then he passed out and the police had to haul him out of her car. The .1% ruin it for everyone else.

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wincy 8mo ago

The Uber Driver who told me all about his Glock in the glove box was pretty off putting. Also the Jeep that picked me up in August with broken air conditioning, although that was an annoyance vs “what is happening right now am I going to die”.

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jaredklewis 8mo ago

I’m fine to share a car. I’m less keen on dying in one. Riding in a car is easily the most dangerous thing I do in my daily life and my subjective impression of how well uber/lyft/taxi drivers drive is not great.