3 ms·

So, what should you do if you know someone trapped in this kind of situation? I currently know someone like this. He's not homosexual, so it's not quite the sa

So, what should you do if you know someone trapped in this kind of situation? I currently know someone like this. He's not homosexual, so it's not quite the same issue. But he's gotten himself trapped in a relationship, and worst of all, cannot admit it to his friends. The only reason I know is that the one friend he did tell, has told the rest of his friends. We've known each other since childhood, yet he doesn't ask me for help. Which is up to him, of course, but he also doesn't know that I know that he is keeping a remarkably straight face about his situation. In a way it would be easier if I hadn't been told. So now, I have to pretend like I think he's just a single man about town. He just shows up to everything when I'm around, and chats to me like he always has throughout the years. We'll meet another old friend, yet his life update is that he's just like any other bachelor-for-life, just enjoying his video games and freedom, while the rest of us are having kids and worrying about school bills. It's very odd. What would HN do?

nemomarx 11mo ago
How is he trapped, and could you expand a little on the situation? I'm not sure I understand the social expectation at play for it. Does he actually have kids in his relationship that he doesn't want to talk about or admit to in public? Is his partner being neglected, or children?
- lordnacho 11mo ago
  It's a "partner" who uses him for his wealth. No kids, and there won't be any, because I know how those are made and you have to do certain things that are not being done. When you talk to the guy, everything is great. Not even a sign that he has gotten hitched to this lady, or is dating, or that anything has happened at all. Yeah it's weird. I was incredulous when I was told.
  - fragmede 11mo ago
    So your friend has a sugar baby and you feel awkward about it?
    - lordnacho 11mo ago
      What is the defining feature of a sugar baby relationship? And what did I say about that earlier?
      - fragmede 11mo ago
        Gemini says it's "explicit financial or material exchange for companionship, intimacy, or other forms of attention." and I'm guessing because you haven't given us much to go on. Just trying to get something abstractly concrete to help answer your question: > What would HN do?

nemomarx 11mo ago

How is he trapped, and could you expand a little on the situation? I'm not sure I understand the social expectation at play for it. Does he actually have kids in his relationship that he doesn't want to talk about or admit to in public? Is his partner being neglected, or children?

lordnacho 11mo ago
It's a "partner" who uses him for his wealth. No kids, and there won't be any, because I know how those are made and you have to do certain things that are not being done. When you talk to the guy, everything is great. Not even a sign that he has gotten hitched to this lady, or is dating, or that anything has happened at all. Yeah it's weird. I was incredulous when I was told.
- fragmede 11mo ago
  So your friend has a sugar baby and you feel awkward about it?
  - lordnacho 11mo ago
    What is the defining feature of a sugar baby relationship? And what did I say about that earlier?
    - fragmede 11mo ago
      Gemini says it's "explicit financial or material exchange for companionship, intimacy, or other forms of attention." and I'm guessing because you haven't given us much to go on. Just trying to get something abstractly concrete to help answer your question: > What would HN do?