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As a parent, you should be able to parent your child, rather than having the government arbitrarily and capriciously do so on your behalf, and for everyone else

• mrtesthah 11mo ago
  The problem is the kid feeling left out at school when they're the only one without a smartphone and can't participate in their friends' activities.
  • arcfour 11mo ago
    ...and this needs to be solved with a law? Kids feeling left out over something well and truly inconsequentual?
    • foobarian 11mo ago
      Who needs laws! Let's also let them all smoke cigarettes too then while we're at it.
      • mothballed 11mo ago
        Lol you can order a cigar or pipe tobacco on the internet completely legally without any ID check. Most people don't know this. You can do it with wine, too, for the vast majority of the US. It's not really a problem.
        • cycomanic 11mo ago
          I suspect you need a credit card though? Can kids sign credit card contracts without parent consent in the US? Moreover just because that laws and regulations are applied inconsistently in the US (and we are talking about Denmark here), does not mean we should completely do away with them.
          • mothballed 11mo ago
            Not sure if it's changed but I had a debit card and bank account from age 15 when I started working as a kid. I got it without even involving my parents, not sure if you can still do that now, it was before the KYC stuff ramped up to the nines.
    • angiolillo 11mo ago
      Not necessarily a law, but it requires some form of collective action. I highly recommend discussing a smartphone pact such as http://waituntil8th.org http://waituntil8th.org with fellow parents before anyone in their friend group gets a cell phone.
      • GaryBluto 11mo ago
        > Find out why smartphones need to be delayed in your home (emphasis mine) Do parents actually fall for this drivel?
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• dlisboa 11mo ago
  Social media in the early 2000s is nothing like today.
  • arcfour 11mo ago
    You're right, kids in the 2000s actually wanted to use social media. It's a dying industry—appropriate timing for a government to make a law to save kids from the evils of it.
    • zurfer 11mo ago
      The issue is rather the algorithmic feed optimized for grabbing our attention. It's definitely addictive and should be regulated like other drugs. Give people technology, but let's have an honest conversation about it finally. As a adult it's already hard to muster enough self control to not keep scrolling.
      • arcfour 11mo ago
        Okay, so explain this to your child, just like you tell them they shouldn't do drugs. Are there not people who are sober by choice? The only thing preventing you from going and smoking crack right now is most certainly not because it's illegal, but because you make a choice not to do so, knowing the negative effects it has on you. I don't scroll social media. When I was 14-17, sure. But then I lost interest, much like most of my peers did. (I do probably refresh HN more than I should though, but I think that's probably the least evil thing I could do compulsively...)
        • AOsborn 11mo ago
          The part you’re missing is that the decision to be online isn’t like choosing to do drugs. It’s closer to deciding to go to parties and socialise at all. Social media for teens is ubiquitous and where your peers connect. It’s being included in your social group, not opt-in thrill seeking. Most teens will have multiple accounts for various networks - private accounts for their friends, and then again for closer friends. Or they use apps like Discord that parents have no visibility into at all. There is a lot that most parents never see. For better or worse.
• dmje 11mo ago
  Yeh, no. Parents are doing what they can, but it inevitably comes down to “but my friend x has it so why can’t I have it” - so all and any help from government / schools is a good thing. This is so, so, so obviously a nasty, dangerous technology - young brains should absolutely not be exposed to it. In all honesty, neither should older ones, but that’s not what we’re considering here.
  • arcfour 11mo ago
    "Because I'm your parent, and I said no." Do you buy your kids a toy every time you go to the store? Do you feed them candy for dinner?
    • davzie 11mo ago
      Neither of those examples result in social ostracism from peers.
      • arcfour 11mo ago
        I think you are massively overstating how important it is to the kids that they have a social media account. How can it hold that kids would be ignored in real life because they don't interact virtually?
        • josephg 11mo ago
          > How can it hold that kids would be ignored in real life because they don't interact virtually? Easy. If half the conversation happens online, and your kid wasn’t part of that, they’d constantly need to be “filled in” when they got to school. Imagine if your company used slack but you weren’t on it. You could still go to all the meetings, but there would have been conversations held and decisions made that you wouldn’t even know about. You would feel like you were on the out. Banning an individual kid from social media would be just the same.
          • arcfour 11mo ago
• thatguy0900 11mo ago
  Comparing the internet we grew up with and the modern internet where a army of psychologists have been unleashed with the express intent to massively increase addiction to everything they touch is very foolish
  • arcfour 11mo ago
    Demanding a law because you are unable to tell your kids "no" makes you the bigger fool.
    • mothballed 11mo ago
      The same people demanding the anti-smart phone laws will rat your ass out the second your kid is spotted walking alone, playing independently, etc. They want to put you in a catch-22 situation. The real problem here is way less people are parents or people that have no idea what parenting is like, so they don't understand the practicalities of raising children so they come up with the dumbest laws possible and then lord it over you with the full weigh of the state so they can pretend to be parents but with none of the responsibility and all of the smug moral superiority.
      • thatguy0900 11mo ago
        The people doing that are themselves victims of social media and news fear mongering and engagement maxxing
      • hobom 11mo ago
        Jonathan Haidt, the most prominent psychologist pushing for restrictions on social media use for children, is also the most prominent proponent of letting kids play and roam more freely. So no, those are not the same people.
    • thatguy0900 11mo ago
      This is not about telling kids no. This is about companies (and foreign hostile governments!) worth billions of dollars openly studying how best to prey on children's minds. There are things that are just poisonous to society as a concept.
• beloch 11mo ago
  First, if some parents let their kids use social media and some don't, all kids will eventually use it. You can't cut kids off from social spaces their peers are using and expect them to obey. Second, this move by Denmark reflects a failure to regulate what social media companies have been doing to all their users. e.g. What has Meta done to address their failures in Myanmar?[1] As little as was legally possible, and that was as close to nothing as makes no difference. More recently, Meta's own projections indicate 10% of their ad revenue comes from fraud[2]. The real proportion is almost certainly higher, but Meta refuses to take action. Any attempts to tax or regulate American social media companies has invited swift and merciless response from the U.S. government. To make matters worse, U.S. law makes it impossible for American companies to respect the privacy of consumers in non-U.S. markets[3]. Put it all together, and American social media is something that children need to be protected from, but the only way to protect them is to cut them off from it entirely. This is the direct result of companies like Meta refusing to respond to concerns in any way other than lobbying the U.S. government to bully other nations into accepting their products as is. Good on Denmark. I hope my own country follows suit. ------------ [1]https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2022/09/myanmar-facebooks-systems-promoted-violence-against-rohingya-meta-owes-reparations-new-report/ https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2022/09/myanmar-faceb... [2]https://www.reuters.com/investigations/meta-is-earning-fortune-deluge-fraudulent-ads-documents-show-2025-11-06/ https://www.reuters.com/investigations/meta-is-earning-fortu... [3]https://www.forbes.com/sites/emmawoollacott/2025/07/22/microsoft-cant-keep-eu-data-safe-from-us-authorities/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/emmawoollacott/2025/07/22/micro...
• HeinzStuckeIt 11mo ago
  Cultures around the world have barred children from certain social places until they go through a rite of passage that the whole society, not just the parents, recognize.
  • arcfour 11mo ago
    Yes, cultures around the world have done this through parents parenting their child successfully, and not through arbitrary government overreach telling you how to parent.
    • HeinzStuckeIt 11mo ago
      Not really. The ideal you are describing, where there is no role for the community in regulating public spaces outside the household and determining when young people can enter them, strikes me as highly unusual historically and geographically. It’s an example of that streak of libertarianism that took off from early American internet culture and hardly exists outside internet pontificating.
• cycomanic 11mo ago
  As someone who sold their first joint at 11, which really spurred a lot of my later interests which are now part of my career or let to it indirectly, I am opposed to paternalistic authoritarian governments making choices for everyone. /s Absolute statements like yours rarely work, because the discussion is hardly ever about absolutes and more about where to draw the line.