No, actually it couldn't, because part of my point is that you don't get to pollute arguments by trying to use stuff that sounds good if people don't think abou

No, actually it couldn't, because part of my point is that you don't get to pollute arguments by trying to use stuff that sounds good if people don't think about it for ten seconds. The kind of "civility" you want is actively damaging, because it normalizes bad behavior and removes all negative reinforcement.