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So his insults are ok but not my pushback? Defending bullies is certainly a choice…
by khalic 1y ago
So his insults are ok but not my pushback? Defending bullies is certainly a choice…
- tomhow 1y agoSure, both of you contributed to a bad subthread, but the comment if yours I replied to was certainly the most escalatory and personally attacking.
- khalic 1y agoOnly if you ignore his insults
- tomhow 1y agoI've replied to them too, but it takes at least two people to make a flamewar and you could have de-escalated or stopped replying at any time. Rather than pointing the finger at someone else, please make an effort to observe the guidelines and show you're sincere about using HN as intended. If you want others to be held to a high standard you need to hold yourself to a high standard. The right thing to do if someone else is breaking the guidelines is flag their comments and email us at hn@ycombinator.com so we can take action.
- khalic 1y agoAlright, note taken, I’ll be more careful
- tomhow 1y agoMany thanks! By the way, you were right that the other person was inflammatory, and I should have called them out at the same time; it's just that we're often working quickly through lists of flagged comments and don't always think to look over the whole subthread. In short, the answer to "why didn't you also call out that other user's abusive comment?" is almost always that we hadn't seen it yet, but we likely would have if you'd flagged it or emailed us.
- khalic 1y agoThanks for the explanation, makes sense, that damn frame of reference always gets me. I’ll take a deep breath and ignore/report next time.