Yes to both. We often attract certain types of people, and have a wealth of experience with that type. We probably all take this as obvious knowledge. But onl

Yes to both. We often attract certain types of people, and have a wealth of experience with that type. We probably all take this as obvious knowledge. But only when I uncomfortably enter a group of people unlike me -- and feel totally alienated not just by their norms and assumptions, but their misunderstandings of my own -- only then do I truly confront the implications in a visceral, non-academic sense :)