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Dull Men’s Club
- zh3 1y agoI will exclude myself from this club by finding it interesting enough to comment on.
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- andyjohnson0 1y ago> I will exclude myself from this club by finding it interesting enough to comment on. I immediately thought of the interesting number paradox https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interesting_number_paradox https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interesting_number_paradox
- kergonath 1y agoI find some posts interesting, but most comments utterly stupid and a huge waste of time, although there is an occasional gem.
- romanhn 1y agoReminds me of the Dullest Blog in the World (https://dullestblog.com https://dullestblog.com), which I frequently checked out more than 20 years ago. Hilarious to see a new entry just a couple years back.
- agnishom 1y agoFascinating. The blog claims to be dull, and I am sure it is: but, it is no different from 'influencer content' except that those come with audiovisuals.
- silisili 1y agoAw man, this sounded like just my kind of place. But... > It’s a sentiment eagerly embraced by The Dull Men’s Club. Several million members in a number of connected Facebook groups strive to cause dullness in others on a daily basis. Apparently I'm too dull to even have a FB account. I know it's a bit tongue in cheek, but in the name of maximum dullness, something with UX closer to this site seems much more appropriate than a Facebook group.
- reg_dunlop 1y agoI guess this explains my affinity for nocss.club
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- jayemar 1y agoThere's a Lemmy community: https://lemmy.world/c/dull_mens_club https://lemmy.world/c/dull_mens_club
- sandworm101 1y agoI think once you are features in a guardian article, you arent dull anymore. Building model airplanes in a shed is dull. Being so good at building them that journalists take time to visit you is not.
- chubot 1y agoI don’t think building model airplanes is dull. I’d say doom scrolling and para-social behavior are the modern dull things
- BizarroLand 1y agoThis is pretty true. Brilliance is marked at many levels by not doing what everyone else does, after all. It's also marked by doing what other people do better than they do. Lonerly contrarianism is not a cornerstone of brilliance.
- kergonath 1y ago> I think once you are features in a guardian article, you arent dull anymore. Come on, the Graun is the epitome of dull middle class.
- HamsterDan 1y agoYour standard for dull is too high. Most of the world does not create anything. The mere fact that you're creating something, even if it is an amateurish model airplane, is already cooler than what most of the world does with their free time.
- rxtexit 1y agoI find this perspective just incredibly dull. As if the measure of interesting is the attention of trash, click bait journalists. To me, it is why most people and places have become increasingly dull and monotone over my lifetime. It is like we have developed a society of dull, shitty stage actors, constantly trying to perform 24/7 but there is no audience other than all the other shitty stage actors.
- ecshafer 1y agoThe Dull Men's Club group of facebook is actually oddly interesting. I would classify it more as a group who point out the very small oddities of every day life that are not very interesting. There is a post where someone saw two geese with 42 bay geese, another where the rental company fixed a door with a piece of pool noodle. Its more like a "huh that's kind of weird I guess" group.
- RajT88 1y agoIt's a bit like reading this site... Gentlemen, have you heard The curious tale of Bhutan's playable record postage stamps (2015)? https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=44054775 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=44054775
- deepfriedchokes 1y agoThat’s not dull that’s fascinating.
- RajT88 1y agoHello, fellow dull traveler.
- gambiting 1y agoI had to block it because I realized it just completely overtook my feed and 99% of it was in that "interesting but ultimately forgettable within 30 seconds of reading it" zone that's filling up social media. I mean it lived up to its name - it's very "dull" if vaguely interesting.
- skeeter2020 1y agothis is the part of the internet that everyone would be better off avoiding: not bad but no long-term value. When the internet was novel and your engagement limited these were rarer, cool things to share (often face to face!). Now this content is internet sugar that will be the health crisis of a generation.
- thinkingtoilet 1y agoI laughed out loud at this line. It feels like something out of Futurama: >Australian member Andrew McKean, 85, had dullness thrust upon him.
- dalmo3 1y agoNo banana for scale?
- smj-edison 1y agoAnd no shoe size!
- danielodievich 1y agoOne of my most favorite places in nearby oregon is the community of Boring, OR https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boring,_Oregon https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boring,_Oregon. Exceptionally lovely place. I've yet to visit it's sister town of Dull in Scotland, but I hope someday to remedy that, albeit with measured levels of excitement
- ahazred8ta 1y agoBland, Australia (NSW) joined the group in 2017.
- frakt0x90 1y agoReminds me of the proof that all natural numbers are interesting. If there is some set of uninteresting natural numbers, there must be a minimal element of that set. It being the smallest uninteresting number is interesting which is a contradiction.
- rzzzt 1y agoWhy aren't all numbers in the set uninteresting? Did someone make a mistake when defining it? Perhaps the minimal element should be removed from the set; there will be plenty of members that still remain.
- Cerium 1y agoSerious response? In that case the set still has a smallest member which can then be removed, if we keep going eventually there will be no uninteresting numbers remaining.
- leereeves 1y agoThe problem with that is the explanation of why each number is interesting becomes: the smallest member of the original set of uninteresting numbers the second smallest member of the original set of uninteresting numbers the third ... ... That version of "interesting" quickly becomes "not interesting". The concept simply defies mathematical logic.
- kbelder 1y agoIt reminds me about the logic puzzle of the criminal sentenced to death, where the judge says "you will be executed on or before Sunday, and you won't know what day it will be until we come for you." The criminal knows it can't be Sunday, because he would wake up on Sunday and know he was going to be executed that day. But if Sunday isn't possible, on Saturday he would know he was being executed that day; so Saturday wasn't possible either. The same reasoning can be repeatedly applied to every day between now and Sunday. It's obviously flawed reasoning (Surprise! they execute you on Thursday), but the flaw is difficult to articulate.
- notnmeyer 1y ago> The over or under toilet paper debate raged (politely) for two and a half weeks. i found this particularly confusing because we all know that “over” is the only sane choice.
- TacticalCoder 1y ago[dead]
- wccrawford 1y agoOnly if you don't have cats. If you have cats, "under" is the only sane choice.
- dgfitz 1y agoIf you have cats you’ve willing given up your sanity.
- GianFabien 1y agoouch! that is a catty comment.
- GianFabien 1y agoDon't you love all the punctures in the paper?
- shiroiuma 1y agoIt depends on the cat, and how your home is set up. In my lifetime, I've only had one cat that played with the toilet paper. In my current place, the toilet is in a separate room by itself, and the door is kept closed, so the cat can't even get in there.
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- robocat 1y agoThere must be a confounding variable: are you an engineer-type? What traits are correlated with overing? Do underers look at the world differently? And it is a false dichotomy. Some people just don't care what direction when they replace the roll - what's a suitable name for that clade? And then there's the people who use the floor and ignore the holder.
- calvinmorrison 1y agoif you're interested in the opposite, finding the intrigue or fascinating in the seemingly mundane, you might be a candidate for the RR&R. The most recent topic was an elaborate history of a Oklahoma state senator based on some old telegrams found in a junk shop. https://www.ephorate.org/ https://www.ephorate.org/
- _fat_santa 1y agoThis is a cool concept but I have an issue with one being "dull" on a conceptual level. Personally I think that every single person on earth is both the dullest person you have ever met and the most interesting person on earth, it just depends on your perspective. I have friends that play DnD which I personally find very dull but hearing them talk about it, it's clear they do not see it the same way. Conversely I love cars and talking about cars and I can talk with another gearhead for hours on the topic, but the times my wife has listened in on my conversations she said it was the most boring thing she has ever heard in her life.
- kergonath 1y ago> Personally I think that every single person on earth is both the dullest person you have ever met and the most interesting person on earth, it just depends on your perspective. You are most certainly right, but I don’t think that this is in contradiction with how the Club works. Everyone is dull and interesting depending on the situation and the audience. The Club is for when you found or saw something interesting and important to you, but your audience disagree, does not notice, or does not care. Nobody is fundamentally dull, but everybody is being dull at some point.
- hug 1y agoI don't know why this perspective bothers me so much, but it does. This idea that people are alternatively dull or interesting feels wrong to me, on a kind of visceral level. So far so that I'm having trouble marshaling my thoughts enough that I can tell you why. It's like there's an intuition gap so large I'm getting vertigo. Nothing here is intended to say that the way you feel about it is invalid, but I need to write out my own feelings in order to put my brain's feet back on solid ground. It feels entirely backwards to me that there is some kind of dull/exciting switch that flips and a person becomes dull or exciting, depending on whether the observer finds the topic the person is speaking about interesting. The one at fault (such that there is any) for the lack of interest isn't usually the speaker, surely? I have a friend who works in a field that most people absolutely find completely uninteresting (and, to be frank, I am also uninterested in the field in general), but when we sit and have a pint after work and have a chat, I can't help but be engaged because there is more to learn about everything, and while the technical minutiae of his trade is unexciting, the conversation is not. I know more about turbidity now than I ever expected or needed to, but I don't feel like it was time wasted. Swap me out for an analog of your wife, and the guy flips from interesting to dull? That seems unfair, for some reason, not that fairness should really ever into it. Just because an interest isn't shared doesn't mean it should be derided as dull, right? And, y'know, conversely, I know a dull guy. Like, I like to think I'm a good conversationalist. I can hold my own in a chat with basically anyone. But this guy. He sink-holes literally anything you try to say. One word answers. You can drag out the most maniacal story of the past few years of your life, a story that every single person you've ever talked to about it has been engaged and you get a good back and forth and a bit of patter, but this guy: "Oh, cool". And he's like that with everyone. Play word association, you say salt, I say pepper, you say this guy's name, I say dull. All of this seems really mean, but I'm pretty sure he's happy being that guy. I mean who knows what his actual inner thoughts about the matter might be, because you'll never get him to say anything worth listening to about it. And this, I think, is probably the crux of why I'm so not on board with the way you see it. My friend and my boring friend are not the same, vis-a-vis in a dullness competition. They're not even in the same weight class. Anyway. Perspectives. Weird, huh?
- rramadass 1y agoThis seems to be a riff off of the "Diogenes Club" invented by Arthur Conan Doyle in his Sherlock Holmes Stories - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diogenes_Club https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diogenes_Club "There are many men in London, you know, who, some from shyness, some from misanthropy, have no wish for the company of their fellows. Yet they are not averse to comfortable chairs and the latest periodicals. It is for the convenience of these that the Diogenes Club was started, and it now contains the most unsociable and unclubbable men in town. No member is permitted to take the least notice of any other one. Save in the Stranger's Room, no talking is, under any circumstances, allowed, and three offences, if brought to the notice of the committee, render the talker liable to expulsion. My brother was one of the founders, and I have myself found it a very soothing atmosphere."
- RyanMathewson 1y agoJames May, former host on Top Gear, now has a show titled “James May and the Dull Men“ (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt32651187 https://www.imdb.com/title/tt32651187). I find it delightfully dull to watch.
- SlowTao 1y agoYes, this is were I found out it is NOT a good idea to cook your curry in a washing machine.
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- guicen 1y agoThere’s something oddly comforting about this. In a world where everyone’s trying to stand out, some people find peace in just noticing ordinary things. Maybe being "boring" is underrated. You don’t always need a big story to feel connected. Sometimes it's enough to care about small details nobody else pays attention to.
- yeahwhatever10 1y agohttps://youtu.be/eDr6_cMtfdA https://youtu.be/eDr6_cMtfdA
- fiftyacorn 1y agoI think its an age thing - you spend your youth thinking its important to fit in - but then reach a point where you realise you are who you are and just accept it
- TurboHaskal 1y agoMaybe this is just me and my experiences but when I encounter people in the wild that seem dull I often assume they just have fringe interests that are kinda problematic to share with regular people they haven't built rapport with yet. Like they're probably into something weird or niche that doesn't translate well in casual conversation so they just keep it surface level until they figure out if you're their type of person.
- mafro 1y agoOne of the few Facebook groups I stayed in over time. It has a very British sense of self-deprecating humour. We're all amused by our mutual dullness.
- AuthorizedCust 1y agoWould you believe both Dull Men's Club groups were created by Americans? No kidding. The one with the registered-trademark symbol--a Nebraskan who moved to the UK. The other one--a Texan.
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- rester324 1y agoI am a dull man by every measure. I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. But after my kids were born I noticed something: my kids loved my voice, they listened to every sentence I made, they laughed at my quirky jokes I made and they loved when I sang to them or I brought them to the park or to the nursery and when I sat them on my neck. My wife took all that from me though, so now I need to fight to get my kids back. But the moral of the story is: dullness is a matter of perspective. Even if you think you are dull, chances are you are not. It's just the world such a place now that the bar is raised too high that most ordinary people can't cross even by jumping over the moon. So I don't care any more what others think of me. I came to accept my dullness and embraced it. If it bores others, I don't care.
- bmacho 1y ago> But after my kids were born I noticed something: my kids loved my voice, they listened to every sentence I made, they laughed at my quirky jokes I made and they loved when I sang to them or I brought them to the park or to the nursery and when I sat them on my neck. My wife took all that from me though, so now I need to fight to get my kids back. > But the moral of the story is: dullness is a matter of perspective. Meh. Kids (or dogs) don't know better, they are just little love machines with literally 0 knowledge outside of you. That doesn't mean that dullness is a perspective, or they wouldn't benefit from it if you were just smarter, better, more interesting.
- rester324 1y agoMaybe, but you forgot to write what's the benefit...?!
- wvh 1y agoIsn't that the whole point though – nobody wants to or has to live in a void. Maybe children would prefer different parents, and maybe parents would want different children. That's not how that works. You keep them alive, love them, and give them enough tools and knowledge for them to have a fighting chance on their own. I think the point of the OP was to say that you don't need to be the best thing since sliced bread to get some basic love and companionship, which is the message modern dating and social media are sending to a lot of us. You are enough, even if somebody in all resentfulness wants to have you believe otherwise.
- Den_VR 1y agoI’ve never seen so many comments deserving of Dang’s banhammer as some mixed into this discussion. The Dull Men’s Club is an interesting curiosity of the world, but clearly one that evokes strong feelings in certain people.
- arethuza 1y agoWorth noting that there is also the village of Dull in Scotland - twinned with Boring (Oregon) and Bland (Aus). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dull,_Perth_and_Kinross https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dull,_Perth_and_Kinross
- tempodox 1y agoIn the middle of this wonderfully dull article, The Guardian botched it. They embedded a link in the text: > Sign up for the fun stuff with our rundown of must-reads, pop culture and tips for the weekend, every Saturday morning Way too exciting, it totally broke the flow for me.
- modeless 1y agoReminds me of /r/notinteresting https://old.reddit.com/r/notinteresting/top/?sort=top&t=all https://old.reddit.com/r/notinteresting/top/?sort=top&t=all
- AuthorizedCust 1y agoThere are two Dull Men's Clubs on Facebook. This article covers both. Both have around 1.8M members. The smaller one features Andrew McKean, the main topic of that article. The other one--with the registered trademark symbol in the name on FB--appears to be more of a commercial enterprise, run by the Grover Click character. I learned that the article is wrong on a point. All contemporary Dull Men's Clubs are copycats. The original is from 1980 and no longer exists.
- knowitnone 1y agoBet the guardian would never write about the "Dull Women's Club"
- cmpxchg8b 1y agoThere’s actually a large amount of women in the DMC FB group. Everyone is welcome.
- samirillian 1y agoYes.