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Why does the presence of women cause men to not have male friends?
by immibis 1y ago
Why does the presence of women cause men to not have male friends?
- ReptileMan 1y agoThe group dynamic changes the moment it is not single sex anymore.
- the_gipsy 1y ago[flagged]
- vladvasiliu 1y agoI don't think you need to exclude homosexuals. As a straight male, I interact with my homosexual buddies the same way I interact with my straight buddies. Women, gay or straight, interact differently, including those in whom I have no sexual interest. If there was inappropriate behavior which wouldn't stop once called out, they would be excluded.
- the_gipsy 1y agoYou specifically maybe don't, but homosexual (or bisexual) males do have sexual interest in other homo- or bisexual men. So it wouldn't be a "problem" as long as there exactly only one homosexual, or as long as they're a very small minority.
- nkrisc 1y agoNo, you don’t.
- ReptileMan 1y agoNo - enlighten me.
- bregma 1y ago[flagged]
- rxtexit 1y ago[flagged]
- ReptileMan 1y ago[flagged]
- nick__m 1y agoThe demands from the lunatic fringe of a mouvement should be completely ignored. "Positive" racial segregation is still racial segregation and racial segregation is racism; unlike positive discrimination, there are no intellectually honest way to frame it otherwise. And excluding Jews because they are Jewish is antisemitism plain and simple. Excluding those that deny that Israel actions have become genocidal different, but you won't know who they are unless you talk to them and most importantly they are not necessarily Jewish !
- Workaccount2 1y agoTrump was the lunatic fringe, and here we are.
- UncleMeat 1y agoThe "separate graduation ceremonies" were not that. A group of people from a black student group celebrating is not the same as separate graduation ceremonies. These kids also attended to the main ceremony. I'm visibly jewish and have been attending pride events and lgbt activist events for ages. I've never even heard of what you describe.
- _DeadFred_ 1y agoDyke March New York City has banned Zionists this year. Organizers can’t agree on what that means. https://19thnews.org/2025/05/dyke-march-2025-new-york-city-zionists-ban/ https://19thnews.org/2025/05/dyke-march-2025-new-york-city-z...
- rxtexit 1y agoYes, it basically changes to men complaining about women. The people with a good sex life end up becoming therapists for the group. Mixed groups on the other hand turn into a soap opera. What is needed is a strong common interest that binds the group beyond these tendencies to stave off the soap opera entropy. The soap opera entropy will always increase with time though until the group dissolves. It is still more stable though than the misogynist entropy.
- ReptileMan 1y ago>Yes, it basically changes to men complaining about women. The people with a good sex life end up becoming therapists for the group. Just not true. Men only groups are rarely misogynist, more often they are homophobic in the sense that everyone is trying to imply that everyone else is secretly gay. There is also various forms of dick measuring contests - who can grill better, who caught bigger fish and so on. Also for hobbies. And a lot of stories. You have no idea the acts of bravery worthy of medal of honor you will hear. Bitching about women is minor. On the other hand being able to overhear what my roommate and her girlfriends (early 20s) talk about - on some evenings they don't pass the Bechdel test in real life. On other evenings it usually evenly split between men, fashion, professional.
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- johnny22 1y ago> There is also various forms of dick measuring contests - who can grill better, who caught bigger fish and so on. Also for hobbies. And a lot of stories. You have no idea the acts of bravery worthy of medal of honor you will hear. This is exactly what I do not want to be part of.
- jajko 1y agoWomen tend to behave very differently in all-female group compared to when even a single man is present. And if that man is charismatic or handsome its completely different dynamics and resulting behavior again. Never thought about it myself but one female friend mentioned this once (how toxic their work environment becomes when there is no man), so started noticing it around. As a married man I can understand these clubs fully. A man is never so relaxed, open and honest as when with other men, only men. I would expect the same among women, while accepting they always play their little games also just among themselves (which are very tiring for most men in long run and thus those clubs' popularity)
- thfuran 1y agoYou're more open and honest with any man than with your wife?
- happymellon 1y agoI am very different around my wife than random women. We aren't talking about spouses.
- subscribed 1y agoI'm more open with many men than my wife, who famously laughed reminiscing on one of her exes who opened up to her and cried. I've yet to see the clam closing up than I did on the day. Sadly it happened way too late for some things. So yeah, don't be vulnerable around women. That's the warning my wife gave me.
- jajko 1y agoIn some topics yes (not just any man, male close friends), but not in some others. All in all, I am most open to her from whole mankind, but thats also due to the fact she is not same as typical women are in these aspects. It took me some time (and painful breakups with other women) to realize who I am, what and whom I want next to me and then find her. Still, some topics are simply not built for women, and thats fine, some are not built for men. Is it really so hard to understand this?
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- potato3732842 1y ago>Cant bond by insulting women. Can't bond without insulting women. There's a very important difference.