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It does seem that who you wanted to be was just you plus a bunch of stuff. I guess most people think of who they want to become personality-wise but maybe it's

It does seem that who you wanted to be was just you plus a bunch of stuff. I guess most people think of who they want to become personality-wise but maybe it's just me.

bluefirebrand 2y ago
> It does seem that who you wanted to be was just you plus a bunch of stuff My knee jerk reaction to this was "how can anyone be anything but 'just who they are'". I think I get what you mean though. Many people dream much bigger than what they are actually capable of accomplishing. Maybe that was my real advantage. I've always been pretty grounded, and I've never really dreamed bigger than I could accomplish. It may be that by not dreaming big I'm not reaching the absolute fullest potential I could, but it also means I accomplish many of the things I set out to do which is also a good feeling I'm a firm believer in building strong foundations before reaching for the stars, and I guess my path somewhat embodies that > I guess most people think of who they want to become personality-wise but maybe it's just me Again I sort of think a lot of this boils down to people not having a good sense of their own capabilities. If your goals and your capabilities aren't aligned, you're very likely to crash out imo
- throwanem 2y ago
  Oh, I've crashed out a couple of times. Enough to learn any verbal answer I give to the question "who are you?" is a lie, and that the same goes for everyone else in the world, too. If I read you correctly (from your workmanlike if somewhat stilted English) as German, I grossed last year a bit over 2x, just in cash comp, than that "top 3%" you're bragging about. I kept a hell of a lot more of it, too. That's because my tax regime advantages winners and yours advantages losers. That's okay; losers need to live, and I don't take what would be the significant deductions on my charitable donations in any case, just my first time homebuyer's and honest credits like that. Then I quit that job in November, because life's too short and what the hell could I still have to prove? I'll probably start looking late Q2, or maybe Q1 '26, who knows. I'll need to do something to support the tertiary education I intend finally here in my mid-forties to go back and get, after all. You obviously think a great deal of yourself. That's fine. You should learn to keep a handle on it, though. You can open your mouth so wide you get your feet stuck in it, that way.
  - pinkmuffinere 2y ago
    > You obviously think a great deal of yourself. OP is commenting on the process of becoming-who-you-want-to-be. They feel they’ve succeeded. I get that this may come off as self-congratulatory, but what’s the alternative? Stay silent? Lie and say they aren’t who they wanted to be? They seem adequately humble to me, I don’t understand the hostility
    - throwanem 2y ago
      > They feel they’ve succeeded. I have felt the same. > I don’t understand the hostility In English we have the saying, "to speak to someone like a Dutch uncle." There is no hostility in the absence of coddling, and I have been nearly homeless and nearly dead in consequence of assumptions strongly resembling those I see and criticize. I have recovered and am well. My concern is that my interlocutor, I hope, be warned against what I strongly believe I recognize, as very much akin to what was once my own hubris.
      - bluefirebrand 2y ago
        > I have been nearly homeless I have been actually homeless > I have recovered and am well. Very glad to hear that. Same here > I strongly believe I recognize, as very much akin to what was once my own hubris Makes sense why you reacted the way you did then. Sounds like I hit close to home.
        throwanem 2y ago
        I wouldn't put it quite that way. My mistakes were much more often in trusting to excess and taking too much at face value. I am lately recalibrating. I'm glad to hear we both can say we've overcome it. Keep on not fuckin' up.
      - circlefavshape 1y ago
        > In English we have the saying, "to speak to someone like a Dutch uncle." Do we? What does it mean?

It does seem that who you wanted to be was just you plus a bunch of stuff. I guess most people think of who they want to become personality-wise but maybe it's just me.

bluefirebrand 2y ago

> It does seem that who you wanted to be was just you plus a bunch of stuff My knee jerk reaction to this was "how can anyone be anything but 'just who they are'". I think I get what you mean though. Many people dream much bigger than what they are actually capable of accomplishing. Maybe that was my real advantage. I've always been pretty grounded, and I've never really dreamed bigger than I could accomplish. It may be that by not dreaming big I'm not reaching the absolute fullest potential I could, but it also means I accomplish many of the things I set out to do which is also a good feeling I'm a firm believer in building strong foundations before reaching for the stars, and I guess my path somewhat embodies that > I guess most people think of who they want to become personality-wise but maybe it's just me Again I sort of think a lot of this boils down to people not having a good sense of their own capabilities. If your goals and your capabilities aren't aligned, you're very likely to crash out imo

throwanem 2y ago
Oh, I've crashed out a couple of times. Enough to learn any verbal answer I give to the question "who are you?" is a lie, and that the same goes for everyone else in the world, too. If I read you correctly (from your workmanlike if somewhat stilted English) as German, I grossed last year a bit over 2x, just in cash comp, than that "top 3%" you're bragging about. I kept a hell of a lot more of it, too. That's because my tax regime advantages winners and yours advantages losers. That's okay; losers need to live, and I don't take what would be the significant deductions on my charitable donations in any case, just my first time homebuyer's and honest credits like that. Then I quit that job in November, because life's too short and what the hell could I still have to prove? I'll probably start looking late Q2, or maybe Q1 '26, who knows. I'll need to do something to support the tertiary education I intend finally here in my mid-forties to go back and get, after all. You obviously think a great deal of yourself. That's fine. You should learn to keep a handle on it, though. You can open your mouth so wide you get your feet stuck in it, that way.
- pinkmuffinere 2y ago
  > You obviously think a great deal of yourself. OP is commenting on the process of becoming-who-you-want-to-be. They feel they’ve succeeded. I get that this may come off as self-congratulatory, but what’s the alternative? Stay silent? Lie and say they aren’t who they wanted to be? They seem adequately humble to me, I don’t understand the hostility
  - throwanem 2y ago
    > They feel they’ve succeeded. I have felt the same. > I don’t understand the hostility In English we have the saying, "to speak to someone like a Dutch uncle." There is no hostility in the absence of coddling, and I have been nearly homeless and nearly dead in consequence of assumptions strongly resembling those I see and criticize. I have recovered and am well. My concern is that my interlocutor, I hope, be warned against what I strongly believe I recognize, as very much akin to what was once my own hubris.
    - bluefirebrand 2y ago
      > I have been nearly homeless I have been actually homeless > I have recovered and am well. Very glad to hear that. Same here > I strongly believe I recognize, as very much akin to what was once my own hubris Makes sense why you reacted the way you did then. Sounds like I hit close to home.
      - throwanem 2y ago
        I wouldn't put it quite that way. My mistakes were much more often in trusting to excess and taking too much at face value. I am lately recalibrating. I'm glad to hear we both can say we've overcome it. Keep on not fuckin' up.
    - circlefavshape 1y ago
      > In English we have the saying, "to speak to someone like a Dutch uncle." Do we? What does it mean?