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Fascinating, can you describe some of these cases? I suppose self-harm could fit this description, but let's say I'm angry at myself for making a bad decision t
by tibbar 2y ago
Fascinating, can you describe some of these cases? I suppose self-harm could fit this description, but let's say I'm angry at myself for making a bad decision that hurt someone else, what would revenge on myself look like? It would be hard to make things up to the victim by sabotaging myself.
- sitkack 2y agoBad self talk where one tears oneself down is a common one. There is also regressive punishment, in the case where someone else has been wronged, not writing the wrong and letting it linger is also a form of self harm. I now have the philosophy that if I were to see someone else treating someone the way one treats themselves, and they take note of it, then the internal behavior is not appropriate.
- jononor 2y agoDenying oneself something nice/good (but unrelated). Or doing something that provokes a punishing response from someone/something else. Like picking a fight, or "failing" to pay bills, gambling. Neither will help a victim of course, but self-sabotage never help (almost by definition).