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It’s a bit awkward that “in 2025” (your words) you’re focusing so heavily on gender, especially with a subpar implementation: You only allow “male” and “female”
by latexr 2y ago
It’s a bit awkward that “in 2025” (your words) you’re focusing so heavily on gender, especially with a subpar implementation: You only allow “male” and “female” (which right off the bat will make many people close the website, even if they identify with either), have zero checks (as if people didn’t lie about that on the internet all the time), and make people type it themselves (when it should be a dropdown or radio button, if you only allow limited choice).
Why be so adamant about it? It’s not like you built a dating service. The website has a shady vibe in general, I expect most women will be put off by the very thought of outing themselves to thirsty creeps.
- kaliqt 2y ago[flagged]
- givinguflac 2y agoI logged in to say the exact same thing as the parent comment. There’s no bias; just common sense and respect for others in 2025.
- anonzzzies 2y agoI agree with the assessment; also, the implementation is really strange; why are we typing it?
- wordofx 2y ago[flagged]
- cedws 2y ago>Gender includes the social, psychological, cultural and behavioral aspects of being a man, woman, or other gender identity. Depending on the context, this may include sex-based social constructs as well as gender expression. What you are referring to is sex.
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- immibis 2y agoBy making gender matching even a thing at all, they're obviously trying to make another horny creep site. Otherwise you wouldn't have that feature and certainly wouldn't ask it first thing. Consider it a compliment that transgender and nonbinary people are considered wise enough to stay off such sites.
- raspyberr 2y ago>which right off the bat will make many people close the website What world are you living in?
- latexr 2y agoIf you don’t think that happens, you’re not paying attention to the zeitgeist.
- aydyn 2y agoNo offense, but you are in a bubble.
- Marsey 2y agoThis so much this.
- latexr 2y agoLiving in a bubble means you are unaware of outside perspectives. For instance, if person A says “there are people who believe the Earth is flat” and person B denies they exist, the latter is living in a bubble because they are unaware of other widespread ideas (regardless of their accuracy or lack thereof). Person A doesn’t need to believe or agree with a viewpoint to understand there are people who do. I have met people who would reject the website for that reason and those who wouldn’t. By all means, discuss and disagree with it, but don’t close your eyes and ears and deny their existence. If you don’t realise both camps exist, by definition you are the one in the bubble. Which I don’t fault you for, because to an extent we all live in bubbles. It is impossible for any human in one lifetime to be aware of all different realities. The very fact that we have access to HN and choose to comment here already places us in a bubble which excludes most of the world. Every other facet of our lives puts us in different bubbles of different sizes for different contexts. To believe oneself immune to or devoid of bubbles falls somewhere between the naive and the arrogant.
- aydyn 2y ago
- asdf6969 2y ago> which right off the bat will make many people close the website These people dominate every other discussion online and it makes me like his site even more if they’re not there. Most people feel the same way as me.