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Yea, I'm a regular HN reader and I've been stuck on the street for going on 7 years. Used to be commended for persevering against the odds and the like, as a ch

Yea, I'm a regular HN reader and I've been stuck on the street for going on 7 years. Used to be commended for persevering against the odds and the like, as a child and young programmer at 15 onward, home owner at 22. I've left SF and landed in a college town in Sac Valley last year. Rent is $750/mo here. Been working in a kitchen for a year. Am I housed yet? Nope. Just gotta save a few thousand dollars. I have about the same amount of bills as a housed person, between gym + storage + take out food + car insurance. But then the social aspect, my old relatives and network need to distance themselves from me. Any kind of old reference or something, non starter. I will beat this. I only keep posting here on these threads because as you say, we span the full range of human existence. I like to think I'll use my approach as a template to help others. Get out of the big metro and into a peaceful place with cheap rent and lots of opportunity, yadda yadda. Cheers.

carlosjobim 2y ago
Have you looked into joining the merchant fleet? They need people working in their galleys as well, and you'll have no bills to pay.
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thierrydamiba 2y ago
Goodluck and Godspeed my friend
wnolens 2y ago
> Get out of the big metro and into a peaceful place with cheap rent and lots of opportunity This always comes to mind when I see folks on the street here in NYC/Brooklyn. Is it too simple a solution? Is a dense metro better in some ways?
- giraffe_lady 2y ago
  You just need to remember that homeless people have most of the same constraints and ties to location that you do. Everyone grew up somewhere, a lot of homeless people had relatively "normal" lives before the street and most have some connections lingering from that time. So they probably still have family connections there, friends, maybe a church or AA group, case worker, friendly coffee shop owner, etc. They aren't any more eager to break these ties than you would be.
  - hector126 2y ago
    I think it's hard to imagine someone who prefers homelessness to living somewhere cheap. I understand there's a lot of nuance and for the majority of homeless folks, $750 rent isn't necessarily more realistic than the $3000 rent I remember in NYC, but for the people for whom cheap living _is_ a viable option, I'm struggling to believe that their AA group or a friendly coffee shop owner are their reasoning for choosing NYC over a highway town outside of Rochester. I actually think it's a bit infantilizing to suggest that any otherwise capable person would choose sleeping on the streets or in shelters over a basement apartment in a cheap, boring town. Speaking personally, I'd prefer living in quite literally any town in the entire country if it meant a roof over my head.
    - giraffe_lady 2y ago
      I'm not speaking out of my ass, I was homeless myself on and off for nearly twenty years, and have relationships with homeless people in my community still. Almost no one "prefers homelessness" to anything else per se, but they may decline the terms on which housing is offered. For example "break all your social ties and move away from the only city you know" is extremely hard for anyone to accept. Look at some other conversations in this comment section! A lot of people want to "solve homelessness" but a lot of them also don't care what happens to the homeless people on the way. "Come with us, to a place you've never heard of and know nothing about, where all your needs are met"? No thanks my man I have read Maus.
      - hector126 2y ago
- Agentus 2y ago
  Manhattan is great to be homeless in. free food available every couple of blocks, lots of social services. can sleep in hospitals, on the subway or elsewhere. good free transportation in the form of the subway. subways not a bad place to sleep, certain comedians did it getting started in new york. I do it. cold isnt a big problem if u know what ur doing. during the summers u can spend all day at the beach and that makes up for it. spend the day at the library working on the computer. police and security are relatively lax so long as you know how to blend in, some homeless people are less socially adept and dont take care of themselves so they are magnets for reprisals in a manner of speaking.
ncr100 2y ago
Good luck, sincerely.
ericmcer 2y ago
That is really interesting, do you mind sharing more info about how you went from a skilled engineer (skilled enough to get a house at 22) to homeless? If you make it back up you will have a pretty fascinating life story.

carlosjobim 2y ago

Have you looked into joining the merchant fleet? They need people working in their galleys as well, and you'll have no bills to pay.

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thierrydamiba 2y ago

Goodluck and Godspeed my friend

wnolens 2y ago

> Get out of the big metro and into a peaceful place with cheap rent and lots of opportunity This always comes to mind when I see folks on the street here in NYC/Brooklyn. Is it too simple a solution? Is a dense metro better in some ways?

giraffe_lady 2y ago
You just need to remember that homeless people have most of the same constraints and ties to location that you do. Everyone grew up somewhere, a lot of homeless people had relatively "normal" lives before the street and most have some connections lingering from that time. So they probably still have family connections there, friends, maybe a church or AA group, case worker, friendly coffee shop owner, etc. They aren't any more eager to break these ties than you would be.
- hector126 2y ago
  I think it's hard to imagine someone who prefers homelessness to living somewhere cheap. I understand there's a lot of nuance and for the majority of homeless folks, $750 rent isn't necessarily more realistic than the $3000 rent I remember in NYC, but for the people for whom cheap living _is_ a viable option, I'm struggling to believe that their AA group or a friendly coffee shop owner are their reasoning for choosing NYC over a highway town outside of Rochester. I actually think it's a bit infantilizing to suggest that any otherwise capable person would choose sleeping on the streets or in shelters over a basement apartment in a cheap, boring town. Speaking personally, I'd prefer living in quite literally any town in the entire country if it meant a roof over my head.
  - giraffe_lady 2y ago
    I'm not speaking out of my ass, I was homeless myself on and off for nearly twenty years, and have relationships with homeless people in my community still. Almost no one "prefers homelessness" to anything else per se, but they may decline the terms on which housing is offered. For example "break all your social ties and move away from the only city you know" is extremely hard for anyone to accept. Look at some other conversations in this comment section! A lot of people want to "solve homelessness" but a lot of them also don't care what happens to the homeless people on the way. "Come with us, to a place you've never heard of and know nothing about, where all your needs are met"? No thanks my man I have read Maus.
    - hector126 2y ago
Agentus 2y ago
Manhattan is great to be homeless in. free food available every couple of blocks, lots of social services. can sleep in hospitals, on the subway or elsewhere. good free transportation in the form of the subway. subways not a bad place to sleep, certain comedians did it getting started in new york. I do it. cold isnt a big problem if u know what ur doing. during the summers u can spend all day at the beach and that makes up for it. spend the day at the library working on the computer. police and security are relatively lax so long as you know how to blend in, some homeless people are less socially adept and dont take care of themselves so they are magnets for reprisals in a manner of speaking.

ncr100 2y ago

Good luck, sincerely.

ericmcer 2y ago

That is really interesting, do you mind sharing more info about how you went from a skilled engineer (skilled enough to get a house at 22) to homeless? If you make it back up you will have a pretty fascinating life story.