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I guess I'm the opposite. If you're working with me, please use nicer and kinder language when talking to me.
by throw27273 2y ago
I guess I'm the opposite. If you're working with me, please use nicer and kinder language when talking to me.
- whiplash451 2y agoIt is possible to be nice and direct. Obnoxiousness sometimes hides into convolutions.
- ujkiolp 2y agoI will defer to your judgment on this as I am not passionate either way and I trust your expertise.
- myst 2y agoPathetic
- dxdm 2y agoIt's comments like this that remind me to stop scrolling hacker news and do something nice instead - so they're good for something, I guess.
- myst 2y agoYou are welcome, brother.
- majkinetor 2y agoYou nailed TLDR.
- majkinetor 2y agoWhy are adults behaving worse than little kids?
- wiseowise 2y agoAren’t you the one who behaves like a little kid when another adult outlined their boundaries but you continue to push your line?
- majkinetor 2y agoIs that some kind of logical argument? You can do that for anything and there is 0 utility. The point is that little kids experience all kind of much nastier "non-professionall behavior" in school, yet when we say to adult "fuck you" all hell breaks loose. Pathetic.
- wiseowise 2y agoYou might want to direct all this pent up frustration into something productive. Not everything in life is about utility, some people want to just feel nice and don’t deal with your negative energy and that is completely fine.
- majkinetor 2y agoThis is not a frustration, I am calling it as it is, emotionless. At work, it's about utility, not about being nice, looking good, making jokes. At your home, you can feel nice and demand of others to do so.
- wiseowise 2y agoYou advocate for allowing, or even normalizing, saying “fuck you” in the office, that’s anything but emotionless. > At work, it's about utility, not about being nice, looking good, making jokes. At best your message sounds rude, at worst you sound like a jerk. And I say that as someone who used to think like you.
- majkinetor 2y agoI am fine with that, call me jerk or rude. I don't care how people perceive me, even when they are not random folks like you. I care about the job being done correctly, efficiently. I care about the users. I don't care about poor IT developers, who have the worst life can offer (sarcasm). Get some perspective, man! If you can't take "fuck you" or equivalent while passionately doing something, just move away, let the grown-ups do the thing, don't make this thing about you, your feelings or your morning sugar. It's this type of prima dona type of engineer that I try to avoid at all cost.
- autoexec 2y agoThe phrases here are for use specifically when people aren't being nice or kind. If someone is being rude to me, the words they use shouldn't be excessively harsh, but I don't want the language being used to increase the risk of my misinterpreting what is really being said. If you can trust that someone will be direct with you whenever you're annoying them, it means that you don't have to spend time/effort trying to divine some hidden or subtle meaning in every normal/non-confrontational communication they send your way.