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If you’re good looking, you’re not going to be wasting time on apps These days, saying hi seems to be risky for more reasons than rejection. Maybe more so if y

If you’re good looking, you’re not going to be wasting time on apps These days, saying hi seems to be risky for more reasons than rejection. Maybe more so if you’re not good looking. Hence the apps

selectodude 2y ago
Nonsense. Looking good on dating apps is like fishing with dynamite.
- jameslk 2y ago
  We’re in agreement there. I think my wording was a bit confusing in my sentence (“not wasting time” as in apps will be hella effective)
mimentum 2y ago
Can confirm as a good looking male, I slay on apps compared to my peers. However I believe it also boils down to personality traits too. Saying "Hi" isn't enough. One needs to be creative to stand out from the field. Women get absolutely swamped on the apps.
- ddoolin 2y ago
  Swamped is on point. I watched my roommate-now-girlfriend get over 1,000 likes in no time at all (I can't remember well but certainly on the order of hours, not days). It was in a populated, well-off area, but still. When you see something like that, it puts a lot of this whole thing into perspective.
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- kazinator 2y ago
  Women being swamped on dating apps has absolutely no relevance to saying hi in real life. Women who are swamped on dating apps are not swamped with attention from men in real life. They see this discrepancy, and instinctively interpret that as the dating site being a space where all the world's desperate losers have gathered. You don't need to stand out, just not stand in that same place.
dtquad 2y ago
That used to be true in the pre-Tinder age. Tinder and other mobile dating apps have somehow normalized dating among both the highly social and the good looking.
- kazinator 2y ago
  Tech bros rewrote millions of years of evolution in a decade. You heard it here.
yieldcrv 2y ago
> These days, saying hi seems to be risky for more reasons than rejection. Maybe more so if you’re not good looking. Hence the apps Its actually not, and that so many guys believe that just leaves the field unguarded What women say online about not wanting to be approached practically anywhere is a vocal minority, and other women don't even see these conversations Positive interactions with men are not even categorized as the ones that annoyed them, despite the interaction being the exact same. so it remains up to you to figure out where you are on that totem pole
- CuriouslyC 2y ago
  Just walking up to a girl in person and saying "hi" is a nuanced thing. If you set off the creeper alarms at all you're DOA, so you need to have an aura of genuine chill and say hi to them in a way that seems completely casual and un-premeditated. Then you need to have them in a captive situation for a while to make some progress (standing in line, etc) and you need to come up with a reason to continue interacting with them later, and you need them to find you funny/charming/attractive/interesting enough that they give you contact information and don't just automatically ghost you. This applies to when you approach girls cold. If you're really hot it's a different game, girls will just give you that look when you're walking around on the street, at the mall, etc, and if you walk up and say hi to them they will fuck you if you play it cool at all.
  - yieldcrv 2y ago
    There are other approaches such as manufacturing social proof and demand for yourself Many women are pretty traumatized by the captive situation logic, because a lot of guys do that and its pretty obvious. Like a beggar on the street “asking a question” and you already know to ignore it but want to give the benefit of the doubt that its not about money Manufacturing social integration is a deep but fairly simple topic that many people find attractive, but it nullifies the need to try to prolong an interaction with a woman and is pretty much the opposite. where essentially you’re too cool and have too much going on to entertain her. if you’re interested in women, plural, it doesnt have to be hard or a coveted thing with much work behind it. and you’re not putting her in a captive situation so your already ahead of the pack honestly most attraction are gender neutral concepts that work with business partners and relationship partners a like

selectodude 2y ago

Nonsense. Looking good on dating apps is like fishing with dynamite.

jameslk 2y ago
We’re in agreement there. I think my wording was a bit confusing in my sentence (“not wasting time” as in apps will be hella effective)

mimentum 2y ago

Can confirm as a good looking male, I slay on apps compared to my peers. However I believe it also boils down to personality traits too. Saying "Hi" isn't enough. One needs to be creative to stand out from the field. Women get absolutely swamped on the apps.

ddoolin 2y ago
Swamped is on point. I watched my roommate-now-girlfriend get over 1,000 likes in no time at all (I can't remember well but certainly on the order of hours, not days). It was in a populated, well-off area, but still. When you see something like that, it puts a lot of this whole thing into perspective.
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kazinator 2y ago
Women being swamped on dating apps has absolutely no relevance to saying hi in real life. Women who are swamped on dating apps are not swamped with attention from men in real life. They see this discrepancy, and instinctively interpret that as the dating site being a space where all the world's desperate losers have gathered. You don't need to stand out, just not stand in that same place.

dtquad 2y ago

That used to be true in the pre-Tinder age. Tinder and other mobile dating apps have somehow normalized dating among both the highly social and the good looking.

kazinator 2y ago
Tech bros rewrote millions of years of evolution in a decade. You heard it here.

yieldcrv 2y ago

> These days, saying hi seems to be risky for more reasons than rejection. Maybe more so if you’re not good looking. Hence the apps Its actually not, and that so many guys believe that just leaves the field unguarded What women say online about not wanting to be approached practically anywhere is a vocal minority, and other women don't even see these conversations Positive interactions with men are not even categorized as the ones that annoyed them, despite the interaction being the exact same. so it remains up to you to figure out where you are on that totem pole

CuriouslyC 2y ago
Just walking up to a girl in person and saying "hi" is a nuanced thing. If you set off the creeper alarms at all you're DOA, so you need to have an aura of genuine chill and say hi to them in a way that seems completely casual and un-premeditated. Then you need to have them in a captive situation for a while to make some progress (standing in line, etc) and you need to come up with a reason to continue interacting with them later, and you need them to find you funny/charming/attractive/interesting enough that they give you contact information and don't just automatically ghost you. This applies to when you approach girls cold. If you're really hot it's a different game, girls will just give you that look when you're walking around on the street, at the mall, etc, and if you walk up and say hi to them they will fuck you if you play it cool at all.
- yieldcrv 2y ago
  There are other approaches such as manufacturing social proof and demand for yourself Many women are pretty traumatized by the captive situation logic, because a lot of guys do that and its pretty obvious. Like a beggar on the street “asking a question” and you already know to ignore it but want to give the benefit of the doubt that its not about money Manufacturing social integration is a deep but fairly simple topic that many people find attractive, but it nullifies the need to try to prolong an interaction with a woman and is pretty much the opposite. where essentially you’re too cool and have too much going on to entertain her. if you’re interested in women, plural, it doesnt have to be hard or a coveted thing with much work behind it. and you’re not putting her in a captive situation so your already ahead of the pack honestly most attraction are gender neutral concepts that work with business partners and relationship partners a like