OKCupid had a clever way to handle this back in the day. Whenever you answered a question, the site would also ask how your ideal partner would've answered. (

OKCupid had a clever way to handle this back in the day. Whenever you answered a question, the site would also ask how your ideal partner would've answered. (I think you could specify multiple different answers as acceptable.) So you're free to specify that your ideal partner would answer differently than you yourself.