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> There has been a point in my life where I ended every day in the dark, staring at a wall for an hour or two straight, trying to figure out why everything felt

> There has been a point in my life where I ended every day in the dark, staring at a wall for an hour or two straight, trying to figure out why everything felt awful. From his post about burnout and mental health. Also worth a read. https://ludic.mataroa.blog/blog/on-burnout-mental-health-and-not-being-okay/ https://ludic.mataroa.blog/blog/on-burnout-mental-health-and...

SanjayMehta 2y ago
If on Monday morning you’re wishing it was Friday evening, it’s time to quit.
- chubs 2y ago
  Many of us have kids to feed! The economy is not bursting with jobs anymore since rates rose post-COVID.
  - karel-3d 2y ago
    No need to quit immediately, just apply for jobs on the side.
    - Aeolun 2y ago
      And do the same thing elsewhere for less money and with less social capital?
      - tpxl 2y ago
        I went from an important cog with low pay but high responsibility to a much higher paying job with no responsibility. You can too with a bit of luck.
        Aeolun 2y ago
        No, I mean, I’m there, but it’s anything but fulfilling xD it’s just that anything else would feel like a downgrade.
- sph 2y ago
  The frightening thing about serious work-related burnout is that three years after quitting, on Monday mornings you still wish it was Friday evening. Any day now I'll be ready for the grind again. Any day now.
  - ludicity 2y ago
    It took me about six months off to start feeling normal, and I think I got out much earlier than most people do. And if you read that post, I still clearly let it get pretty bad before I left.
- feoren 2y ago
  What about if on Friday morning you're wishing it was Monday? Like, two Mondays ago? So you weren't quite as late on everything?
  - whstl 2y ago
    As someone who managed to stay productive during a burnout despite constant bullying by a yelling CTO: it doesn't really help if you deliver on time.
- andrepd 2y ago
  Yep, in theory yes, but shame that the bills won't pay themselves
  - _proofs 2y ago
    i don't buy that any situation is so hopeless, you're powerless to improve it. at least in the context of this field and its line(s) of work. sounds a lot more like learned hopelessness making it harder to respond to stress with radical change because of (normal and human) fears of the unknown. at some point though responsibility for the circumstances, the feelings, the stress -- the good, bad, and ugly or easy, hard, and nearly impossible -- has to be taken. there's only one life to live. we owe it to ourselves and others to do more than -- to try not to -- just "roll over and play dead", so to speak. humans have survived a lot and have adapted to just as much if not more. if i ever allowed myself to even stay at any of my former jobs coming up in my life when i was paycheck to paycheck because of not making rent or just being flatout broke and homeless, i would have not progressed my career, or life, in any meaningful way, and just fed the negative feedback loop influencing what feels like a miserable existence (even privileged as it were). can't hold myself hostage. and also, i can't hold those around me hostage as consequence of my non-action, either.
- consf 2y ago
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SanjayMehta 2y ago

If on Monday morning you’re wishing it was Friday evening, it’s time to quit.

chubs 2y ago
Many of us have kids to feed! The economy is not bursting with jobs anymore since rates rose post-COVID.
- karel-3d 2y ago
  No need to quit immediately, just apply for jobs on the side.
  - Aeolun 2y ago
    And do the same thing elsewhere for less money and with less social capital?
    - tpxl 2y ago
      I went from an important cog with low pay but high responsibility to a much higher paying job with no responsibility. You can too with a bit of luck.
      - Aeolun 2y ago
        No, I mean, I’m there, but it’s anything but fulfilling xD it’s just that anything else would feel like a downgrade.
sph 2y ago
The frightening thing about serious work-related burnout is that three years after quitting, on Monday mornings you still wish it was Friday evening. Any day now I'll be ready for the grind again. Any day now.
- ludicity 2y ago
  It took me about six months off to start feeling normal, and I think I got out much earlier than most people do. And if you read that post, I still clearly let it get pretty bad before I left.
feoren 2y ago
What about if on Friday morning you're wishing it was Monday? Like, two Mondays ago? So you weren't quite as late on everything?
- whstl 2y ago
  As someone who managed to stay productive during a burnout despite constant bullying by a yelling CTO: it doesn't really help if you deliver on time.
andrepd 2y ago
Yep, in theory yes, but shame that the bills won't pay themselves
- _proofs 2y ago
  i don't buy that any situation is so hopeless, you're powerless to improve it. at least in the context of this field and its line(s) of work. sounds a lot more like learned hopelessness making it harder to respond to stress with radical change because of (normal and human) fears of the unknown. at some point though responsibility for the circumstances, the feelings, the stress -- the good, bad, and ugly or easy, hard, and nearly impossible -- has to be taken. there's only one life to live. we owe it to ourselves and others to do more than -- to try not to -- just "roll over and play dead", so to speak. humans have survived a lot and have adapted to just as much if not more. if i ever allowed myself to even stay at any of my former jobs coming up in my life when i was paycheck to paycheck because of not making rent or just being flatout broke and homeless, i would have not progressed my career, or life, in any meaningful way, and just fed the negative feedback loop influencing what feels like a miserable existence (even privileged as it were). can't hold myself hostage. and also, i can't hold those around me hostage as consequence of my non-action, either.
consf 2y ago
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