4 ms·
I also agree with this sentiment but at the same time I think it boils down to how you interpret these things , for op it was one of the greatest things but to
by Imustaskforhelp 2y ago
I also agree with this sentiment but at the same time I think it boils down to how you interpret these things , for op it was one of the greatest things but to somebody else , this makes boss not likeable.
I think this shows that the boss was going out of his way which I "personally" appreciate.
I don't know what people expect managers / boss to do. Somebody on team expects their boss to X and somebody else on that same team expects their boss to be anything but X.
If I ever become a manager , I am probably taking this boss's approach , I think its good to have some talks like this. I am also much inspired by the likes of charles schwab and dale carnegie's how to win friends and influence people so probably there is a bias here
- thunky 2y ago> I don't know what people expect managers / boss to do What they do should be related to the company work, otherwise they're overstepping. They're not social workers. They have to respect the privacy and independence of their coworkers. > If I ever become a manager , I am probably taking this boss's approach Please don't. Coworkers can obviously have social relationships but they should grow organically without being "managed". You know the best way for that to happen is? Let them work together. They'll build their own relationships. They don't need your help. If they don't work together enough for this to happen naturally then they're strangers to each other anyway and that's ok too.
- dymk 2y agoIf you were my boss and did this I'd be going to my skip manager to complain.
- captnObvious 2y agoIt sounded like an optional request not a command. I’ve managed and I’ve been managed and the relationship ships I’ve built along the way are deep enough to have conversations like these. We’re doing life with this people it’s not a dystopian novel about capitalism. If you have a genuine person as your boss moments like these help form friendships, and don’t feel like a dark Dilbert comic. Friendships increase team communicability which bolster project success.
- dymk 2y agoA manager asking you to do something is never “just” an optional request
- hhh 2y agoThey absolutely can be. You can push back against your manager.
- twelve40 2y agoStill, you'd rather save your push back privileges - which come with a cost - for something actually important and work-related. Not for random crap like that, being put on the spot randomly in a personal way.
- ipaddr 2y agoUse it and get more pushback power plus get caution when manager approaches. Getting labelled get can benefits and negatives.
- watwut 2y agoI said no to things and world did not ended. You absolutely can say no. If you can't, you need to change the team or job.
- elygre 2y agoThank you for this comment. I know the US is different from where I live, but the distrust shown in other comments just made me very depressed.
- Tainnor 2y agoThis has nothing to do with it. I'm not from the US and I find this deeply unprofessional.
- Brian_K_White 2y ago
- sigseg1v 2y agoI mean, I am a manager and if I saw another manager doing this type of exercise I would probably report it because it seems extremely inappropriate and they would probably want a heads up that we have a manager trying to be a wannabe therapist rather than trying to foster a safe and productive team environment.