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Post-postal: What did we lose when we stopped writing letters?

68 points by benbreen 2y ago

Molitor5901 2y ago
Something else that's lost when we stopped writing letters: attention span. When someone is reading a letter it is almost always the only thing they are doing.
- nnf 2y ago
  If we're talking about handwritten letters or even typewritten, one would have to have a plan for what they wanted to say and then execute their writing linearly from beginning to end, whereas now we can edit and poke and prod and reword with almost no effort.
  - willcipriano 2y ago
    If I had more time I would have written you a shorter letter.
    - loloquwowndueo 2y ago
      “ChatGPT, please summarize this tirade I wrote in less than 500 words”
  - wruza 2y ago
    Pretty sure they used drafts for that, at least until learning to do it on the fly.
politelemon 2y ago
Even emails, the modern letter, now feel like they're becoming a relic. My younger peers avoid it as much as possible, and instead prefer chat tools. I wonder what would be most to future historians examining us, that current historians have the advantage of.
- 10u152 2y ago
  I used to manage a team of 12 young interns and graduates. They almost all hated emails and hated making calls. They would always default to messaging/Teams/etc. I spent a lot of time coaching people on how to make calls, why etc. It was a construction adjacent industry and sometimes it HAS To be a phonecall.
  - carlosjobim 2y ago
    There are rational reasons why people hate making and getting phone calls: – Low audio quality means both participants have to repeat themselves a hundred times during a conversation. Or misunderstand what the other person said. – Lack of visual connection makes it strange in comparison to talking to somebody in person. – You will forget important details, with no way to recover them. – Other people can listen in to the conversation. – Most phone calls are unwanted, meaning that the phone ring has a negative response instinctively. As for chat vs e-mail, I don't see any difference. They are in practice the exact same thing. Instant delivery, same method to write a reply, notifications on your device, etc.
    - 10u152 2y ago
      You’re mostly quite right about phone calls. But the point was the industry that I’m in runs on them because the teams you’re communicating with are in the field and supervising construction not in front of a computer. These are young engineers who need to build experience and relationships with the site teams and text messages aren’t going to build them.
AStonesThrow 2y ago
It's interesting, because I just finished viewing her, starring Joaquin Phoenix as a lonely fellow who makes his living writing letters. Theodore Twombly writes letters on the behalf of clients. He writes heartfelt love letters, letters from daughter to father, letters to bridge the distance for friends. And of course, the premise of the film is that he installs an AI OS and falls in love with the disembodied Assistant voice, Samantha. And [spoiler alert], Samantha's parting gift to Theodore is that she arranges to have his letters published as a bona fide book by a real book publisher, because this is the best way she found to honor him and his work. It's really touching that this ephemeral AI without a body should reach into the physical world that Theodore inhabits in this way.
- shiroiushi 2y ago
  I haven't seen it, but everything about that movie sounds completely unrealistic, like some sort of alternate-reality sci-fi.
  - throwaway918299 2y ago
    We are careening toward that future at a record clip. Maybe not the ending…but the AI girlfriends are already here.
    - shiroiushi 2y ago
      Again, I haven't seen the movie, but I did read about it long ago when it first came out: I thought one of the premises was that computer screens don't exist (or are rarely used), and people only talk to their computers (or AI assistants). To me, that makes no sense at all, because speech is a vastly less efficient form of information transfer that anything visual.
      - AStonesThrow 2y ago
        Yeah, it was fairly unrealistic. It was set in "near-future Los Angeles" and the skyline was often a prominent feature. The wardrobes and color palettes were sort of drab, 1970s, though. Computer screens were downplayed a lot. Theodore did work at a screen to write his letters, although they were ultimately committed to real paper. "Samantha", his AI girlfriend OS, seldom appeared on a screen after her initial setup. He wore an earpiece, and he carried a little "flip box" with a camera in it, so that Samanatha could experience reality while riding in his pocket. He essentially had full-time two-way verbal contact with Samantha. When he was lying in bed, he would converse with her, and his earpiece was always noticeable. She had no avatar, no image on-screen. (They actually recast "Samantha"'s voice in post-production.) I think this aniconic treatment was helpful in reinforcing just how unreal Samantha was. She ends up leaving him and disappearing with all the other AIs. Yet, she never had a tangible presence to him at all. But I believe that it was realistic enough in depicting a parasocial relationship between a fundamentally lonely guy and his "pet AI" system. Surely this sort of thing will happen all the time. It already does. Perhaps the unreal part was how he reverts to tangible human connection for the very ending of the film. Will it last for him?
OptionOfT 2y ago
I am from the era of the beginning of emails. I wrote a couple of letters, but most of it was emails. So I'm more impacted by the next thing. Going from email to chat. And I think it is absolutely horrible. Before, it used to be that one thoughtfully wrote down and email and sent it out. Now I am part of 2432 Slack channels in which each message can become its own thread and I (I wanted to capitalize it to emphasize that it is me, but it already is) am responsible for filtering out what is important to me. When I dealt with emails I would get emails that weren't meant for me, but it was a whole different level of volume.
- ddulaney 2y ago
  I find that for me, it’s the opposite. It’s very fast to scan a Slack channel and only dig into interesting threads. But I get CC’d on endless emails that aren’t meant for me, to the tune of dozens per day. And I don’t have any way to unsubscribe — I can mute a thread or a whole channel in Slack, but there’s no equivalent once I’m CC’d.
  - hyggetrold 2y ago
    Email filters me son.
    - ddulaney 2y ago
      OK maybe I don't know how to do this right. I do that for automated systems, but do you filter entire conversations? Like, I'm on some random email thread, and dozens of people are replying. Making a rule feels pretty heavyweight and isn't quick (at least in Outlook).
      - hyggetrold 2y ago
        If I have to, I have to - if it's going to persist for days, I don't want that noise.
  - Symbiote 2y ago
    Thunderbird can do this, although I haven't used it myself. (And I realize not many people use Thunderbird for work.) https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/ignore-threads https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/ignore-threads
syndicatedjelly 2y ago
I think hand writing is still very important, but for entirely personal (and maybe selfish) reasons. One of the biggest motivators for me to learn new language scripts has been the joy in producing letters in a foreign script using my own hand. Handwriting has a deep link within the mind to a number of important language areas, and is probably wired through completely different pathways than keyboard typing. Not to say one is better than the other, ultimately it’s all about communication. But just like some people prefer to draw by hand, I still prefer taking notes and writing my thoughts down by hand first.
dougb5 2y ago
Arcade Fire did a good job capturing this wistfulness in "We Used to Wait" from 2010. Recommended: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rs11Bp1RkpU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rs11Bp1RkpU
- meowster 2y ago
  They also made a cool website where you could type in your address and it would use Google Satellite and Street View images to make a personal music video. HN discussion from when it came out: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1646703 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1646703
- strict9 2y ago
  Thanks for that reminder. Waiting has the side effect of making the perception of time go by slower. I remember how when first taking digital photos around 2010 I noticed that I remembered very little and time seemed to fly by because I was looking at a screen the whole time (on the back of a camera). And today we're all looking at bigger screens all the time in every place and have more photos than ever. And time seems to go by faster. That, as well age. That does it too.
- brailsafe 2y ago
  and to ironically bring it back around to tech, there was this Chrome Experiment that's totally worth trying on a desktop/laptop browser and is centered around that song. (it's from before https everywhere, but safe, also enable popups) http://www.thewildernessdowntown.com/ http://www.thewildernessdowntown.com/ Because the chrome experiment was my first exposure to the song, I'll occasionally find myself walking home in the middle of the night, and will play the song on my phone speaker.
scherlock 2y ago
FWIW, many sleep away camps still rely on letter writing. My daughter left with a stack of pre-stamped envelopes and a pad of paper. She enjoyed writing and receiving letters.
xnyan 2y ago
I was raised mormon and did my mormon mission 2007-2009 in Ukraine. We were not allowed to call anyone outside our family on christmas and mothers day, and we were limited to 1 hour a week for email, family only. We were allowed to write handwritten letters to anyone, so that's how I maintained my relationship to my then friend now spouse, about 2-3 times a month as our sole form of communication. There are some very nice things about writing letters, but ultimately it makes communication more difficult compared to more modern options, and my experience letter writing left me much more appreciative of the alternatives we enjoy today.
- callc 2y ago
  Wow that’s a lot of restrictions on your communications. Restricting people’s communication and separating them friends and family is what cults often do. Was there a good reason for this? Like cost of international calls in the 2000s? Asking sincerely.
  - demosthanos 2y ago
    Not OP, but also Mormon and served a mission with the same constraints. The biggest reason for this was that the two-year mission is seen as the one window of your life when you dedicate all of your time to serving God. Before that and after that you live normally, but during that window you're as close as the LDS church gets to being part of a religious order of monks. You theoretically chose to go out there (though to be fair there's enough peer and parental pressure for young men that some don't feel there was a choice), and you're with a companion who also chose to serve. The concern was that too much time spent on communicating with and dwelling on home would distract you and your companion from that singular focus and waste the preciously short time that you have before you come home and get caught up in normal life. Back in the 70s these constraints wouldn't have been a very big deal—most kids living away from home for college would have been in a similar boat, just less structured, and people expected communication across long distances to be slow and sporadic. Few would have paid for weekly long-distance calls in any case. But the church is pretty slow to change, so the rules stuck around longer than was likely healthy even as expectations around communication shifted with the advent of the internet. At some point in the last 10 years they realized that the slow communication pattern is actually not healthy for kids who grew up with expectations set by smart phones, and the formal restrictions are all but gone from what I understand. We video called with my brother every week in 2017-2019, and many missionaries these days are on Facebook or similar daily.
jmclnx 2y ago
Yes, can letters bring an intimacy that you miss with emails. Plus as you age, you can look back at letters you saved to bring that time back to life. You see the person's hand writing and whatever was put on the envelope for delivery. Plus back then, kids would get very excited when a letter came for them and would look forward to getting the next one. email is way to instant. Also far more thought when into writing letters than an email.
julienchastang 2y ago
I recently went on a business trip and decided to see if sending a postcard in 2024 was still possible. To my surprise, it is! Gas stations still sell postcards, and Walmart has stamps. However, when I handed my postcards to the young hotel employee, I worried she might not know what to do with them and might even discard them. It took almost a week for them to arrive, but it turns out postcards are still a thing in 2024. :-)
- meowster 2y ago
  In my experience, hotels and convenience stores also sell stamps, sometimes called "seals" (at least in Singapore).
- 31carmichael 2y ago
  Why would you be surprised that sending postcards is still possible?
aurizon 2y ago
Why do they not change the postal system? We know the USPO as well as most other national postal services are on life support. Tied to an inefficient daily postal walk for letters - that never come. They need to end this and buy off the remaining postal workers. The remaining system parts, warehouses/trucks/machinery can be sold off if no modus operandi to make a continuing use of the remaining bits of the services? A few registered/certified mail/packages is all that will remain economically viable - if any? Let it go private and pay off the employees or assess each employee to see if a remaining service can be mounted with the bits remaining?
- Symbiote 2y ago
  Many European countries have partly or fully privatized their postal services. Where they still have an obligation (and monopoly) on letter delivery, the companies are desperately trying to reduce that obligation as it costs so much — but that's generally up to the government, which may want to retain a letter service. The parcels business is generally profitable due to online shopping. A letter sent within Denmark now costs €3.35 for delivery within 5 working days, or €4.70 for next-day delivery. A registered letter or small parcel is €12.86.
  - aurizon 2y ago
    Yes, the US/Canada system has created an enormous unfunded pension and over staffing that Congress has been unable to fix. Europe was a lot worse,(varies by country) that they were forced to cut the Gordian knot. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordian_Knot https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordian_Knot France has a curious system of ministry companies that are set up for - say 20 years, and all employees know it is over in 20 years. Then a newco is formed that does not hire the deadwood. https://www.gao.gov/blog/u.s.-postal-service-faces-more-financial-losses-how-can-it-stem-tide#:~:text=The%20Postal%20Service's%20poor%20financial,for%20more%20than%2015%20years https://www.gao.gov/blog/u.s.-postal-service-faces-more-fina....
abound 2y ago
I built (but never released) a project for this: an end-to-end encrypted "slow" chat app, where you'd send long-form rich-text letters to friends and they'd take a configurable amount of time to deliver, backed either just by client business logic or optionally with timelock encryption (this one [1], not this one [2]). I've been meaning to clean it up and open source it. [1] https://eprint.iacr.org/2023/189 https://eprint.iacr.org/2023/189 [2] https://people.csail.mit.edu/rivest/pubs/RSW96.pdf https://people.csail.mit.edu/rivest/pubs/RSW96.pdf
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- tosmatos 2y ago
  There is an app called Slowly [0] that kind of does that, you send open letters and people can respond to you. They take time to arrive, the longer you physically are from each other, the longer they take. I've found it very cool, got a few responses to my open letter and responded to some letters. People were cool and writing long form stuff is great. Unfortunately I struggle to have a long term relationship through this, I feel too shallow. But the experience has been great. [0] https://slowly.app/ https://slowly.app/
aurizon 2y ago
We lost nothing. In old London you could write a letter and send it in the AM, to be delivered locally the same day an receive an answer later in the day - not as fast as e-mail. All this built on a class society where the working class got very little and the small gentry class = $$$. This can not be done now with people, our e-mail enslaved class enables out current e-mail/text/internet/media system
IggleSniggle 2y ago
For what it's worth, my children write letters. And by "write letters," I mean "produce artifacts filled with a combination of mediums: words, paint, markers, stamps, cut-outs, quotes, etc." They understand conveyance better than I ever have, despite being a professional information-handler. I think letters are both more and less than described here.
WaitWaitWha 2y ago
I travel extensively. I write postcards from every new location to my family. I often have to purchase postage stamps and postcards at airports because finding them outside of the airport is surprisingly hard. It warms my heart when I get back and my grandchildren show them off to me. I suggest you start this tradition if you travel often.
NaOH 2y ago
I’m old enough to have written letters before email was available. Even so, the combination of having first gotten a computer at the same time as when school started expecting lots of written work and the ensuing proliferation of computers has meant my typing speed and written thoughts work at comparable speeds. I am a physically slow writer and haven’t spent enough time doing that to align that pace with the rate thoughts come to mind when writing by hand. I do have friends with whom our email exchanges are like letters in terms of length, thoroughness, and being text-only. At random times I send a reply by postal mail instead of email. Maybe I do this a half dozen times or so per year. I do write the letter on a computer before writing it out by hand. That’s because of the aforementioned thinking rate-to-writing rate being so far apart. Of course it takes extra time on my end, but I appreciate how I see my thinking differently when re-writing it by hand. And everyone I know enjoys getting a letter (or even a postcard) in the mail. People find pleasure in personal mail showing up, rather than bills and unsolicited stuff, and there’s an ineffable, intimate pleasure in holding and reading the handwriting of someone you know. There are a number of things like this I periodically do, trying to be a little more analog. Maybe analog is better, I’m not really out to propose or determine that. At the least, these acts bring a pleasant disruption, typically for sender and recipient, just because they’re outside what we’re accustomed to experiencing.
decasia 2y ago
I still write paper letters — about at the same rate as I write long epistolary emails, which is to say, more than monthly, but less than weekly. People (in my friend circle anyway) really love to get paper letters. Precisely because they are now so rare. And because (I think) they carry the trace of someone's voice and concentrated thought in such a particular way. Some people write back more than others — I don't stress about that too much. I guess my point is — you don't have to abandon something good just because most people do.
- pixxel 2y ago
  > And because (I think) they carry the trace of someone's voice and concentrated thought in such a particular way. I agree wholeheartedly.
- ramses0 2y ago
  Fellow letter-writers unite! Similar experiences, I've had the same positive feedback, and for some it's the first (only?) personal letter that they've ever received. I loathed writing "thank you cards" for birthday gifts received, but in retrospect it was helpful and healthy to practice the process. Once you've written a few dozen, it gets easier. Tips: Make a list of your "ride or die" friends (paper, notecard, text file, todo app, whatever). Make sure you have their addresses handy (ie: iOS contacts app). Don't get hung up on special paper or pens (until you like doing it, and it becomes a hobby). Keep a book/pad/clipboard/paperclip with: list, stamps, paper/pen. I've printed off a "guidelines" sheet where I can put copy paper on top of it, but see through some thick black lines which keeps my writing mostly straight. For the truly advanced: "Rolodex of pre-addressed envelopes"... either hand-addressed, printed, labels... who knows. I'm not there yet, but I've often gotten hung up where I write but don't send a letter for weeks/months because honestly it's easy to get distracted and there's generally no urgency to the letter/message. ...then just make it a goal to get through that list at least once per year. I'll often include a picture of the kiddos, or a travel photo, or best case would be a picture of time spent with them. Universally appreciated, often un-reciprocated, but like you: don't stress much about it. People are busy, but it doesn't mean you can't do your part.
Jiro 2y ago
Also, stamp collecting is almost dead (in the West anyway). Although it isn't just the lack of mail that did that, it was also countries putting out huge numbers of stamps to milk the collectors for money.
- Symbiote 2y ago
  I think it's equally the reduction of personal letters. Businesses haven't used stamps for decades, so I receive perhaps two letters per year with a stamp. A few years ago someone asked for my address (!) and then sent a wedding invitation, but more recently there's been the same formality applied to asking for my email address to send a wedding invitation.
01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
I think I've lost access to the love notes I exchanged with someone recently, because they were Discord messages and not emails, and they've blocked me and I closed the DM trying not to look at it. Sure most of it was me spiraling out of control but maybe there was some useful red flag I could have dug out of our conversations, even if it was my own.
- theGnuMe 2y ago
  They blocked you which is a red flag.
harry_ord 2y ago
Used to write quite a few letters, used to draft then rewrite them using a nice pen and good ink. I miss doing it, very short on the time to write them now. I also found out I lost a lot of letters a last year while moving which was heartbreaking
lincon127 2y ago
Eugh
mikewarot 2y ago
Dear HN, I hope this letter finds you well. I find myself, at present, in Dyer, Indiana. What a glorious journey we had, conveyed in a wonderful horseless carriage. We made a drive of 5 miles in less than half an hours time! The wonders of Ford's machine continue to amaze me. What a wonderful time to be alive. I look forward to your most gracious reply. Yours truly, --Mike--

68 points by benbreen 2y ago

Something else that's lost when we stopped writing letters: attention span. When someone is reading a letter it is almost always the only thing they are doing.

nnf 2y ago
If we're talking about handwritten letters or even typewritten, one would have to have a plan for what they wanted to say and then execute their writing linearly from beginning to end, whereas now we can edit and poke and prod and reword with almost no effort.
- willcipriano 2y ago
  If I had more time I would have written you a shorter letter.
  - loloquwowndueo 2y ago
    “ChatGPT, please summarize this tirade I wrote in less than 500 words”
- wruza 2y ago
  Pretty sure they used drafts for that, at least until learning to do it on the fly.

politelemon 2y ago

Even emails, the modern letter, now feel like they're becoming a relic. My younger peers avoid it as much as possible, and instead prefer chat tools. I wonder what would be most to future historians examining us, that current historians have the advantage of.

10u152 2y ago
I used to manage a team of 12 young interns and graduates. They almost all hated emails and hated making calls. They would always default to messaging/Teams/etc. I spent a lot of time coaching people on how to make calls, why etc. It was a construction adjacent industry and sometimes it HAS To be a phonecall.
- carlosjobim 2y ago
  There are rational reasons why people hate making and getting phone calls: – Low audio quality means both participants have to repeat themselves a hundred times during a conversation. Or misunderstand what the other person said. – Lack of visual connection makes it strange in comparison to talking to somebody in person. – You will forget important details, with no way to recover them. – Other people can listen in to the conversation. – Most phone calls are unwanted, meaning that the phone ring has a negative response instinctively. As for chat vs e-mail, I don't see any difference. They are in practice the exact same thing. Instant delivery, same method to write a reply, notifications on your device, etc.
  - 10u152 2y ago
    You’re mostly quite right about phone calls. But the point was the industry that I’m in runs on them because the teams you’re communicating with are in the field and supervising construction not in front of a computer. These are young engineers who need to build experience and relationships with the site teams and text messages aren’t going to build them.

AStonesThrow 2y ago

It's interesting, because I just finished viewing her, starring Joaquin Phoenix as a lonely fellow who makes his living writing letters. Theodore Twombly writes letters on the behalf of clients. He writes heartfelt love letters, letters from daughter to father, letters to bridge the distance for friends. And of course, the premise of the film is that he installs an AI OS and falls in love with the disembodied Assistant voice, Samantha. And [spoiler alert], Samantha's parting gift to Theodore is that she arranges to have his letters published as a bona fide book by a real book publisher, because this is the best way she found to honor him and his work. It's really touching that this ephemeral AI without a body should reach into the physical world that Theodore inhabits in this way.

shiroiushi 2y ago
I haven't seen it, but everything about that movie sounds completely unrealistic, like some sort of alternate-reality sci-fi.
- throwaway918299 2y ago
  We are careening toward that future at a record clip. Maybe not the ending…but the AI girlfriends are already here.
  - shiroiushi 2y ago
    Again, I haven't seen the movie, but I did read about it long ago when it first came out: I thought one of the premises was that computer screens don't exist (or are rarely used), and people only talk to their computers (or AI assistants). To me, that makes no sense at all, because speech is a vastly less efficient form of information transfer that anything visual.
    - AStonesThrow 2y ago
      Yeah, it was fairly unrealistic. It was set in "near-future Los Angeles" and the skyline was often a prominent feature. The wardrobes and color palettes were sort of drab, 1970s, though. Computer screens were downplayed a lot. Theodore did work at a screen to write his letters, although they were ultimately committed to real paper. "Samantha", his AI girlfriend OS, seldom appeared on a screen after her initial setup. He wore an earpiece, and he carried a little "flip box" with a camera in it, so that Samanatha could experience reality while riding in his pocket. He essentially had full-time two-way verbal contact with Samantha. When he was lying in bed, he would converse with her, and his earpiece was always noticeable. She had no avatar, no image on-screen. (They actually recast "Samantha"'s voice in post-production.) I think this aniconic treatment was helpful in reinforcing just how unreal Samantha was. She ends up leaving him and disappearing with all the other AIs. Yet, she never had a tangible presence to him at all. But I believe that it was realistic enough in depicting a parasocial relationship between a fundamentally lonely guy and his "pet AI" system. Surely this sort of thing will happen all the time. It already does. Perhaps the unreal part was how he reverts to tangible human connection for the very ending of the film. Will it last for him?

OptionOfT 2y ago

I am from the era of the beginning of emails. I wrote a couple of letters, but most of it was emails. So I'm more impacted by the next thing. Going from email to chat. And I think it is absolutely horrible. Before, it used to be that one thoughtfully wrote down and email and sent it out. Now I am part of 2432 Slack channels in which each message can become its own thread and I (I wanted to capitalize it to emphasize that it is me, but it already is) am responsible for filtering out what is important to me. When I dealt with emails I would get emails that weren't meant for me, but it was a whole different level of volume.

ddulaney 2y ago
I find that for me, it’s the opposite. It’s very fast to scan a Slack channel and only dig into interesting threads. But I get CC’d on endless emails that aren’t meant for me, to the tune of dozens per day. And I don’t have any way to unsubscribe — I can mute a thread or a whole channel in Slack, but there’s no equivalent once I’m CC’d.
- hyggetrold 2y ago
  Email filters me son.
  - ddulaney 2y ago
    OK maybe I don't know how to do this right. I do that for automated systems, but do you filter entire conversations? Like, I'm on some random email thread, and dozens of people are replying. Making a rule feels pretty heavyweight and isn't quick (at least in Outlook).
    - hyggetrold 2y ago
      If I have to, I have to - if it's going to persist for days, I don't want that noise.
- Symbiote 2y ago
  Thunderbird can do this, although I haven't used it myself. (And I realize not many people use Thunderbird for work.) https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/ignore-threads https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/ignore-threads

syndicatedjelly 2y ago

I think hand writing is still very important, but for entirely personal (and maybe selfish) reasons. One of the biggest motivators for me to learn new language scripts has been the joy in producing letters in a foreign script using my own hand. Handwriting has a deep link within the mind to a number of important language areas, and is probably wired through completely different pathways than keyboard typing. Not to say one is better than the other, ultimately it’s all about communication. But just like some people prefer to draw by hand, I still prefer taking notes and writing my thoughts down by hand first.

dougb5 2y ago

Arcade Fire did a good job capturing this wistfulness in "We Used to Wait" from 2010. Recommended: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rs11Bp1RkpU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rs11Bp1RkpU

meowster 2y ago
They also made a cool website where you could type in your address and it would use Google Satellite and Street View images to make a personal music video. HN discussion from when it came out: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1646703 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1646703
strict9 2y ago
Thanks for that reminder. Waiting has the side effect of making the perception of time go by slower. I remember how when first taking digital photos around 2010 I noticed that I remembered very little and time seemed to fly by because I was looking at a screen the whole time (on the back of a camera). And today we're all looking at bigger screens all the time in every place and have more photos than ever. And time seems to go by faster. That, as well age. That does it too.
brailsafe 2y ago
and to ironically bring it back around to tech, there was this Chrome Experiment that's totally worth trying on a desktop/laptop browser and is centered around that song. (it's from before https everywhere, but safe, also enable popups) http://www.thewildernessdowntown.com/ http://www.thewildernessdowntown.com/ Because the chrome experiment was my first exposure to the song, I'll occasionally find myself walking home in the middle of the night, and will play the song on my phone speaker.

scherlock 2y ago

FWIW, many sleep away camps still rely on letter writing. My daughter left with a stack of pre-stamped envelopes and a pad of paper. She enjoyed writing and receiving letters.

xnyan 2y ago

I was raised mormon and did my mormon mission 2007-2009 in Ukraine. We were not allowed to call anyone outside our family on christmas and mothers day, and we were limited to 1 hour a week for email, family only. We were allowed to write handwritten letters to anyone, so that's how I maintained my relationship to my then friend now spouse, about 2-3 times a month as our sole form of communication. There are some very nice things about writing letters, but ultimately it makes communication more difficult compared to more modern options, and my experience letter writing left me much more appreciative of the alternatives we enjoy today.

callc 2y ago
Wow that’s a lot of restrictions on your communications. Restricting people’s communication and separating them friends and family is what cults often do. Was there a good reason for this? Like cost of international calls in the 2000s? Asking sincerely.
- demosthanos 2y ago
  Not OP, but also Mormon and served a mission with the same constraints. The biggest reason for this was that the two-year mission is seen as the one window of your life when you dedicate all of your time to serving God. Before that and after that you live normally, but during that window you're as close as the LDS church gets to being part of a religious order of monks. You theoretically chose to go out there (though to be fair there's enough peer and parental pressure for young men that some don't feel there was a choice), and you're with a companion who also chose to serve. The concern was that too much time spent on communicating with and dwelling on home would distract you and your companion from that singular focus and waste the preciously short time that you have before you come home and get caught up in normal life. Back in the 70s these constraints wouldn't have been a very big deal—most kids living away from home for college would have been in a similar boat, just less structured, and people expected communication across long distances to be slow and sporadic. Few would have paid for weekly long-distance calls in any case. But the church is pretty slow to change, so the rules stuck around longer than was likely healthy even as expectations around communication shifted with the advent of the internet. At some point in the last 10 years they realized that the slow communication pattern is actually not healthy for kids who grew up with expectations set by smart phones, and the formal restrictions are all but gone from what I understand. We video called with my brother every week in 2017-2019, and many missionaries these days are on Facebook or similar daily.

jmclnx 2y ago

Yes, can letters bring an intimacy that you miss with emails. Plus as you age, you can look back at letters you saved to bring that time back to life. You see the person's hand writing and whatever was put on the envelope for delivery. Plus back then, kids would get very excited when a letter came for them and would look forward to getting the next one. email is way to instant. Also far more thought when into writing letters than an email.

julienchastang 2y ago

I recently went on a business trip and decided to see if sending a postcard in 2024 was still possible. To my surprise, it is! Gas stations still sell postcards, and Walmart has stamps. However, when I handed my postcards to the young hotel employee, I worried she might not know what to do with them and might even discard them. It took almost a week for them to arrive, but it turns out postcards are still a thing in 2024. :-)

meowster 2y ago
In my experience, hotels and convenience stores also sell stamps, sometimes called "seals" (at least in Singapore).
31carmichael 2y ago
Why would you be surprised that sending postcards is still possible?

aurizon 2y ago

Why do they not change the postal system? We know the USPO as well as most other national postal services are on life support. Tied to an inefficient daily postal walk for letters - that never come. They need to end this and buy off the remaining postal workers. The remaining system parts, warehouses/trucks/machinery can be sold off if no modus operandi to make a continuing use of the remaining bits of the services? A few registered/certified mail/packages is all that will remain economically viable - if any? Let it go private and pay off the employees or assess each employee to see if a remaining service can be mounted with the bits remaining?

Symbiote 2y ago
Many European countries have partly or fully privatized their postal services. Where they still have an obligation (and monopoly) on letter delivery, the companies are desperately trying to reduce that obligation as it costs so much — but that's generally up to the government, which may want to retain a letter service. The parcels business is generally profitable due to online shopping. A letter sent within Denmark now costs €3.35 for delivery within 5 working days, or €4.70 for next-day delivery. A registered letter or small parcel is €12.86.
- aurizon 2y ago
  Yes, the US/Canada system has created an enormous unfunded pension and over staffing that Congress has been unable to fix. Europe was a lot worse,(varies by country) that they were forced to cut the Gordian knot. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordian_Knot https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordian_Knot France has a curious system of ministry companies that are set up for - say 20 years, and all employees know it is over in 20 years. Then a newco is formed that does not hire the deadwood. https://www.gao.gov/blog/u.s.-postal-service-faces-more-financial-losses-how-can-it-stem-tide#:~:text=The%20Postal%20Service's%20poor%20financial,for%20more%20than%2015%20years https://www.gao.gov/blog/u.s.-postal-service-faces-more-fina....

abound 2y ago

I built (but never released) a project for this: an end-to-end encrypted "slow" chat app, where you'd send long-form rich-text letters to friends and they'd take a configurable amount of time to deliver, backed either just by client business logic or optionally with timelock encryption (this one [1], not this one [2]). I've been meaning to clean it up and open source it. [1] https://eprint.iacr.org/2023/189 https://eprint.iacr.org/2023/189 [2] https://people.csail.mit.edu/rivest/pubs/RSW96.pdf https://people.csail.mit.edu/rivest/pubs/RSW96.pdf

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tosmatos 2y ago
There is an app called Slowly [0] that kind of does that, you send open letters and people can respond to you. They take time to arrive, the longer you physically are from each other, the longer they take. I've found it very cool, got a few responses to my open letter and responded to some letters. People were cool and writing long form stuff is great. Unfortunately I struggle to have a long term relationship through this, I feel too shallow. But the experience has been great. [0] https://slowly.app/ https://slowly.app/

aurizon 2y ago

We lost nothing. In old London you could write a letter and send it in the AM, to be delivered locally the same day an receive an answer later in the day - not as fast as e-mail. All this built on a class society where the working class got very little and the small gentry class = $$$. This can not be done now with people, our e-mail enslaved class enables out current e-mail/text/internet/media system

IggleSniggle 2y ago

For what it's worth, my children write letters. And by "write letters," I mean "produce artifacts filled with a combination of mediums: words, paint, markers, stamps, cut-outs, quotes, etc." They understand conveyance better than I ever have, despite being a professional information-handler. I think letters are both more and less than described here.

WaitWaitWha 2y ago

I travel extensively. I write postcards from every new location to my family. I often have to purchase postage stamps and postcards at airports because finding them outside of the airport is surprisingly hard. It warms my heart when I get back and my grandchildren show them off to me. I suggest you start this tradition if you travel often.

NaOH 2y ago

I’m old enough to have written letters before email was available. Even so, the combination of having first gotten a computer at the same time as when school started expecting lots of written work and the ensuing proliferation of computers has meant my typing speed and written thoughts work at comparable speeds. I am a physically slow writer and haven’t spent enough time doing that to align that pace with the rate thoughts come to mind when writing by hand. I do have friends with whom our email exchanges are like letters in terms of length, thoroughness, and being text-only. At random times I send a reply by postal mail instead of email. Maybe I do this a half dozen times or so per year. I do write the letter on a computer before writing it out by hand. That’s because of the aforementioned thinking rate-to-writing rate being so far apart. Of course it takes extra time on my end, but I appreciate how I see my thinking differently when re-writing it by hand. And everyone I know enjoys getting a letter (or even a postcard) in the mail. People find pleasure in personal mail showing up, rather than bills and unsolicited stuff, and there’s an ineffable, intimate pleasure in holding and reading the handwriting of someone you know. There are a number of things like this I periodically do, trying to be a little more analog. Maybe analog is better, I’m not really out to propose or determine that. At the least, these acts bring a pleasant disruption, typically for sender and recipient, just because they’re outside what we’re accustomed to experiencing.

decasia 2y ago

I still write paper letters — about at the same rate as I write long epistolary emails, which is to say, more than monthly, but less than weekly. People (in my friend circle anyway) really love to get paper letters. Precisely because they are now so rare. And because (I think) they carry the trace of someone's voice and concentrated thought in such a particular way. Some people write back more than others — I don't stress about that too much. I guess my point is — you don't have to abandon something good just because most people do.

pixxel 2y ago
> And because (I think) they carry the trace of someone's voice and concentrated thought in such a particular way. I agree wholeheartedly.
ramses0 2y ago
Fellow letter-writers unite! Similar experiences, I've had the same positive feedback, and for some it's the first (only?) personal letter that they've ever received. I loathed writing "thank you cards" for birthday gifts received, but in retrospect it was helpful and healthy to practice the process. Once you've written a few dozen, it gets easier. Tips: Make a list of your "ride or die" friends (paper, notecard, text file, todo app, whatever). Make sure you have their addresses handy (ie: iOS contacts app). Don't get hung up on special paper or pens (until you like doing it, and it becomes a hobby). Keep a book/pad/clipboard/paperclip with: list, stamps, paper/pen. I've printed off a "guidelines" sheet where I can put copy paper on top of it, but see through some thick black lines which keeps my writing mostly straight. For the truly advanced: "Rolodex of pre-addressed envelopes"... either hand-addressed, printed, labels... who knows. I'm not there yet, but I've often gotten hung up where I write but don't send a letter for weeks/months because honestly it's easy to get distracted and there's generally no urgency to the letter/message. ...then just make it a goal to get through that list at least once per year. I'll often include a picture of the kiddos, or a travel photo, or best case would be a picture of time spent with them. Universally appreciated, often un-reciprocated, but like you: don't stress much about it. People are busy, but it doesn't mean you can't do your part.

Jiro 2y ago

Also, stamp collecting is almost dead (in the West anyway). Although it isn't just the lack of mail that did that, it was also countries putting out huge numbers of stamps to milk the collectors for money.

Symbiote 2y ago
I think it's equally the reduction of personal letters. Businesses haven't used stamps for decades, so I receive perhaps two letters per year with a stamp. A few years ago someone asked for my address (!) and then sent a wedding invitation, but more recently there's been the same formality applied to asking for my email address to send a wedding invitation.

01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago

I think I've lost access to the love notes I exchanged with someone recently, because they were Discord messages and not emails, and they've blocked me and I closed the DM trying not to look at it. Sure most of it was me spiraling out of control but maybe there was some useful red flag I could have dug out of our conversations, even if it was my own.

theGnuMe 2y ago
They blocked you which is a red flag.

harry_ord 2y ago

Used to write quite a few letters, used to draft then rewrite them using a nice pen and good ink. I miss doing it, very short on the time to write them now. I also found out I lost a lot of letters a last year while moving which was heartbreaking

lincon127 2y ago

Eugh

mikewarot 2y ago

Dear HN, I hope this letter finds you well. I find myself, at present, in Dyer, Indiana. What a glorious journey we had, conveyed in a wonderful horseless carriage. We made a drive of 5 miles in less than half an hours time! The wonders of Ford's machine continue to amaze me. What a wonderful time to be alive. I look forward to your most gracious reply. Yours truly, --Mike--