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Even if you're open to seeing it, it often doesn't happen in a setting where you would be able to observe it. A close friend of mine went to a top math/science

Even if you're open to seeing it, it often doesn't happen in a setting where you would be able to observe it. A close friend of mine went to a top math/science/engineering college. A professor called her into his office to tell her that she was doing well above average, and that she should find a non-technical line of education and work. His rationale was that she had to be 10x as good as men to make it in a technical field. But she's not 10x as good, so give up now. She went on to work on highly technical software on the campus of another elite technical college. While walking around that campus in a sweatshirt from her alma mater, a man stopped her and asked her where she got the sweatshirt. She said she graduated from that college. He laughed and said, "No, really, where did you get it?" Another friend of mine was an intern at a FAANG and her manager said he'd make her a full-time offer if she slept with him. She didn't. On her first day at the company she ended up joining after college, she was asked out by a man more than twice her age. Given her internship experience and not knowing how powerful this man was at the new company, this was complicated to navigate. It turns out that man was asking out every woman of East Asian descent that was single and that came into contact with him, many during their first interaction with him. That included teenage interns. He managed to get one of those interns to drink a bit too much and walk over to his apartment alone with him. Luckily, she figured out what was going on before he could get what he wanted, but the experience still resulted in significant trauma for her. These kinds of things are still horrifically common. But all of these examples happened in relative privacy, so it's easy to not notice it if you're not on the receiving end of it and don't have friends that want to talk about it. Understandably, many don't want to talk about it, especially with coworkers.

imtringued 2y ago
>His rationale was that she had to be 10x as good as men to make it in a technical field. But she's not 10x as good, so give up now. Uhmmm, there is strong evidence that women have an easier time in tech to receive responses to their job applications, to get invited to interviews and actually get the job. There is no competence "DPS check" and tech competence doesn't shield you from being manipulated. Then there is the well kept secret that you get most of your tech competence from working 40 hours a week, every week. Not from side projects at home, not from 4 to 5 years of university. Getting your foot in the door is far more important than your academic background.

imtringued 2y ago

>His rationale was that she had to be 10x as good as men to make it in a technical field. But she's not 10x as good, so give up now. Uhmmm, there is strong evidence that women have an easier time in tech to receive responses to their job applications, to get invited to interviews and actually get the job. There is no competence "DPS check" and tech competence doesn't shield you from being manipulated. Then there is the well kept secret that you get most of your tech competence from working 40 hours a week, every week. Not from side projects at home, not from 4 to 5 years of university. Getting your foot in the door is far more important than your academic background.