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Is marriage associated with happiness for men or for women? Or both? Or neither?

19 points by zaik 2y ago

anovikov 2y ago
Happiness is a social construct and it is built to reflect what is deemed preferrable by those who call the shots.
- greyface- 2y ago
  "But doctor," cried the great clown Pagliacci, "I am the one who calls the shots!"
- cen4 2y ago
  To construct anything socially, boundaries or islands, are required protected from the rest of the universe. Globalization, or the interconnecting of all kinds of societies and social constructs, within and across national boundaries, has thrown things up in the air. People who used to call the shots and gained a lot through globalization, are flailing around helplessly, cuz what they gained doesn't help them control anything. Look at cash, flowing instantly from one shell company to another, across city/state/national boundaries, avoiding tax, constantly multiplying, more and more disconnected from any social requirement or purpose. The fact that those who call the shots aren't in control is where salvation lies.
- chipdart 2y ago
  > Happiness is a social construct and it is built to reflect what is deemed preferrable by those who call the shots. This sounds something that only a miserable, bitter person would ever think of saying.
- mock-possum 2y ago
  > Happiness is a social construct I feel like you’re going to have to establish what you define as ‘happiness’ if you’re going to make claims like that.
- snakeyjake 2y ago
  Everything is a social construct. Objective reality is a social construct. The fucking universe is a social construct. You ain't smart.
BMc2020 2y ago
Reads more like a spat between researchers.
- taeric 2y ago
  That is, amusingly, the source of a ton of good research. :D
  - BMc2020 2y ago
    Back in the day there was a spat between Puritans and Congregationalists. So when one of them founded Harvard the other founded Yale.
ammar-DLL 2y ago
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- glitchc 2y ago
  Maybe it's time to retire this meme. Women are not cows and sex is not milk.
  - al_borland 2y ago
    It’s a metaphor. No one is calling women cows, or confusing milk with sex, when using this saying.
- raziel2p 2y ago
  what are you talking about?
gerardnico 2y ago
Don’t forget that happy people have a far more chance to get and stay married. Marriage is not the cause of happiness.
- toomuchtodo 2y ago
  Partners with reasonable expectations and willing to put effort in stay married. A lasting marriage is a byproduct of emotionally healthy and resilient people who want to show up to the job each day together.
avmich 2y ago
> statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu Verifying you are human. This may take a few seconds. statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu needs to review the security of your connection before proceeding. Very funny.

19 points by zaik 2y ago

anovikov 2y ago

Happiness is a social construct and it is built to reflect what is deemed preferrable by those who call the shots.

greyface- 2y ago
"But doctor," cried the great clown Pagliacci, "I am the one who calls the shots!"
cen4 2y ago
To construct anything socially, boundaries or islands, are required protected from the rest of the universe. Globalization, or the interconnecting of all kinds of societies and social constructs, within and across national boundaries, has thrown things up in the air. People who used to call the shots and gained a lot through globalization, are flailing around helplessly, cuz what they gained doesn't help them control anything. Look at cash, flowing instantly from one shell company to another, across city/state/national boundaries, avoiding tax, constantly multiplying, more and more disconnected from any social requirement or purpose. The fact that those who call the shots aren't in control is where salvation lies.
chipdart 2y ago
> Happiness is a social construct and it is built to reflect what is deemed preferrable by those who call the shots. This sounds something that only a miserable, bitter person would ever think of saying.
mock-possum 2y ago
> Happiness is a social construct I feel like you’re going to have to establish what you define as ‘happiness’ if you’re going to make claims like that.
snakeyjake 2y ago
Everything is a social construct. Objective reality is a social construct. The fucking universe is a social construct. You ain't smart.

BMc2020 2y ago

Reads more like a spat between researchers.

taeric 2y ago
That is, amusingly, the source of a ton of good research. :D
- BMc2020 2y ago
  Back in the day there was a spat between Puritans and Congregationalists. So when one of them founded Harvard the other founded Yale.

ammar-DLL 2y ago

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glitchc 2y ago
Maybe it's time to retire this meme. Women are not cows and sex is not milk.
- al_borland 2y ago
  It’s a metaphor. No one is calling women cows, or confusing milk with sex, when using this saying.
raziel2p 2y ago
what are you talking about?

gerardnico 2y ago

Don’t forget that happy people have a far more chance to get and stay married. Marriage is not the cause of happiness.

toomuchtodo 2y ago
Partners with reasonable expectations and willing to put effort in stay married. A lasting marriage is a byproduct of emotionally healthy and resilient people who want to show up to the job each day together.

avmich 2y ago

> statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu Verifying you are human. This may take a few seconds. statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu needs to review the security of your connection before proceeding. Very funny.