I feel we are mixing up subjective feelings with objective facts here. Facts exist outside of a person and doesn't care about feelings. Feelings belong to a per

I feel we are mixing up subjective feelings with objective facts here. Facts exist outside of a person and doesn't care about feelings. Feelings belong to a person and exist separately from facts. You can't invent your own facts but how you feel about them are up to you. Facts have objective truth. Feelings have subjective truth. You can't really be wrong about your feelings. You feel what you feel. You can have various relations to your feelings though. Like you can feel that your feelings aren't helpful or they don't align well with each other. You can chose to work on that I suppose and call that truth. But I think it's somewhat problematic to think that there is some essential or objective truth in emotions. That there's a "objectively correct" way to feel. If you can convince yourself to feel differently about something then you may call that gas lighting or you may call it growth. That's up to you.