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> “Reduce competition” by making online dating exclusive to those who can afford $100+/mo Suppose you wouldn't need to pay more than $100 if you'd find your ma

> “Reduce competition” by making online dating exclusive to those who can afford $100+/mo Suppose you wouldn't need to pay more than $100 if you'd find your match and leave platform. Serious goal = serious price. Marriage will cost much more anyway. Marriage with a wrong person will cost 10x again.

ziggyzecat 2y ago
One can buy flowers, pay a cute kid to surprise a lady with them and point at you for a 100 bucks irl, and there's still enough for a drink or two. Hell, 100 bucks is enough for 1 more & refined attempt.
- otabdeveloper4 2y ago
  For homo sapiens women make the mating decisions. Unless she immediately judges you as a good genetic fit, she will feel you're stalking her and call the police or something. (Yes, it's mostly genetics. Women have a gut feel for genetic fitness in mates.)
  - imtringued 2y ago
    If this is what it all boils down to then we should just skip all the bullshit and go straight to DNA sequencing and checking for autosomal recessive diseases and the possibility of genetic diseases for a given DNA pair.
    - ziggyzecat 2y ago
      sounds like Elisabeth Holmes pivot strategy but she didn't get to ^^
  - ziggyzecat 2y ago
    Yes they do, but - having fun, - needs, - desire to gratify received interest, - desire to return the favor of raising ones attractiveness, - desire to reward a diverse range of behaviors (some hard-coded into genes as well!) CAN & often will override anything "fitness", and much more often than not, not only temporary!
- wakawaka28 2y ago
  Then she says "Sorry I have a boyfriend" lol. Dating sites are useful for reasons...
- throwaway290 2y ago
  You are like me, go all in one choice and then suffer when it doesn't work. Apparently strategic people go for quantity and try thousands of people in which case a site is much cheaper:)
Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
15 years together, 2 kids, $0 on marriage (Canada has laws for that. After 1 year living together, it's equivalent)
- wiseowise 2y ago
  15 years together, 2 kids together and you’ve never bought anything together or planned shared costs? What?
  - Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
    I was referring to the wedding
- throwaway290 2y ago
  > $0 on marriage I didn't mean literally pay to marry. Let's just say your kids and associated expenses is included in what I meant. Do the math:)
  - Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
    I see. Well of course, but supposedly as long as you are buying stuff together, you are enjoying the marriage. The cost comes in case of divorce
    - throwaway290 2y ago
      So you value such enjoyment at more than 109$ then evidently the price is acceptable:)
      - Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
        I don't value dating the same as marriage though.
        throwaway290 2y ago
latexr 2y ago
> Suppose you wouldn't need to pay more than $100 if you'd find your match and leave platform. Serious goal = serious price. Go read the site and tell me again you still believe they have the “serious goal” of finding you a partner. The first thing I saw on the homepage was “experience hypergamy”. Then a bunch of entries on luxury, spending money, and how everyone on their website is somehow beautiful, successful, and intelligent. All the while using the same two actors for everything. In one of the fake exchanges, one of them (presumably the man, judging from the rest of the copy) invites the other to the Maldives, who immediately agrees. They’re selling bargain bin fantasies. It’s drivel for men and women who think of themselves as the protagonists of 50 Shades type books.

ziggyzecat 2y ago

One can buy flowers, pay a cute kid to surprise a lady with them and point at you for a 100 bucks irl, and there's still enough for a drink or two. Hell, 100 bucks is enough for 1 more & refined attempt.

otabdeveloper4 2y ago
For homo sapiens women make the mating decisions. Unless she immediately judges you as a good genetic fit, she will feel you're stalking her and call the police or something. (Yes, it's mostly genetics. Women have a gut feel for genetic fitness in mates.)
- imtringued 2y ago
  If this is what it all boils down to then we should just skip all the bullshit and go straight to DNA sequencing and checking for autosomal recessive diseases and the possibility of genetic diseases for a given DNA pair.
  - ziggyzecat 2y ago
    sounds like Elisabeth Holmes pivot strategy but she didn't get to ^^
- ziggyzecat 2y ago
  Yes they do, but - having fun, - needs, - desire to gratify received interest, - desire to return the favor of raising ones attractiveness, - desire to reward a diverse range of behaviors (some hard-coded into genes as well!) CAN & often will override anything "fitness", and much more often than not, not only temporary!
wakawaka28 2y ago
Then she says "Sorry I have a boyfriend" lol. Dating sites are useful for reasons...
throwaway290 2y ago
You are like me, go all in one choice and then suffer when it doesn't work. Apparently strategic people go for quantity and try thousands of people in which case a site is much cheaper:)

Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago

15 years together, 2 kids, $0 on marriage (Canada has laws for that. After 1 year living together, it's equivalent)

wiseowise 2y ago
15 years together, 2 kids together and you’ve never bought anything together or planned shared costs? What?
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
  I was referring to the wedding
throwaway290 2y ago
> $0 on marriage I didn't mean literally pay to marry. Let's just say your kids and associated expenses is included in what I meant. Do the math:)
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
  I see. Well of course, but supposedly as long as you are buying stuff together, you are enjoying the marriage. The cost comes in case of divorce
  - throwaway290 2y ago
    So you value such enjoyment at more than 109$ then evidently the price is acceptable:)
    - Fire-Dragon-DoL 2y ago
      I don't value dating the same as marriage though.
      - throwaway290 2y ago

latexr 2y ago

> Suppose you wouldn't need to pay more than $100 if you'd find your match and leave platform. Serious goal = serious price. Go read the site and tell me again you still believe they have the “serious goal” of finding you a partner. The first thing I saw on the homepage was “experience hypergamy”. Then a bunch of entries on luxury, spending money, and how everyone on their website is somehow beautiful, successful, and intelligent. All the while using the same two actors for everything. In one of the fake exchanges, one of them (presumably the man, judging from the rest of the copy) invites the other to the Maldives, who immediately agrees. They’re selling bargain bin fantasies. It’s drivel for men and women who think of themselves as the protagonists of 50 Shades type books.