> Your spouse does not want to know how it works so that they can fix it themselves next time, and their mental model is wrong and they don't care to correct it

> Your spouse does not want to know how it works so that they can fix it themselves next time, and their mental model is wrong and they don't care to correct it. Just listen, figure out what they want and do it yourself, and do it again next time even though it interrupted you and they could have fixed it themself. Once upon a time I had someone that didn’t work this way. Only in hindsight is it apparent how much of an exception that was. I don’t know if it’s age or otherwise, but seeing someone solve their own problems is so much more satisfying than solving something for them. I think it’s an unhealthy dependency.