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Maybe that ending question of "why won't you do obvious-thing-that-solves-the-problem?" is the best thing in the entire article. But only if you ask it literall
by marcosdumay 2y ago
Maybe that ending question of "why won't you do obvious-thing-that-solves-the-problem?" is the best thing in the entire article. But only if you ask it literally, without irony.
My guess is that each time somebody ignores a good advice, they do it for different reasons. So discovering the reason is the most impactful thing you can do.
- jprete 2y agoI think that can work if they really are convinced you're not going to judge them for it. I have friends I can ask such a question; if I'm asking more distant friends or acquaintances then I'm going to make it really clear that I want to know and not use it as a springboard for expressing my own opinion.
- kayodelycaon 2y ago> discovering the reason is the most impactful thing you can do Most people do this by trying to give you more advice once they think they understand your problem, often before you finished explaining. Being bipolar, I deal with this this all the time. It would be funny if it wasn't so frustrating. It would be a lot easier if people simply took my limitations for granted instead of making me explain until they realize they have no useful advice.