"You are ugly and need to learn to live with it", from my Father at my 18th birthday. I share this not to garner sympathy. I am more than 30 years over it, but

"You are ugly and need to learn to live with it", from my Father at my 18th birthday. I share this not to garner sympathy. I am more than 30 years over it, but it did impact more than I understood at the time. If you are still hung up on historic lies I would recommend you find a way through or you they will dent you, even if part of you knows they aren't true. My view of myself was later shaped by christian faith. The Bible tells me I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I have an attractive wife and good looking children but even that was not even enough to fix the dent. As humans we do not have all truth inside our own heads. We need a second opinion on much of our internal thoughts and processes.