> when a man has a problem, they're usually told something along the lines of "Just suck it up, buttercup." I thought that too, then asked for help once, and w

> when a man has a problem, they're usually told something along the lines of "Just suck it up, buttercup." I thought that too, then asked for help once, and was rewarded for it: my belief was wrong. My psychologist then told me that before 'toxic masculinity' was used by 3rd wave feminists (the 'empowerment' movement), it was a psychologist term used for men who refused help because of this 'i'll be told to suck it up' belief, term created in the wake of the Vietnam War and PTSD. Our masculinity become toxic once it makes us believe we aren't allowed to fail, cry or ask for help. Basically. He explained it way better, sorry.